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to make a long story short, there is this girl in one of my college classes who I think is hot(she sits right behind me). well on last friday I work up the nerve to talk to her,nothing much but it was a start. monday i walk with her to her next class and we talked for probably 30 mins. wednesday she gave me a smile and said hello. Then today I don't know what the deal was, she smiled at me when i came into the class, but nothing was said in the 5 mins before class( I was feeling sick and didn't feel much like talking) After class i go to walk with her to the next class and she is like the ice queen. i didn't know what to do, do you think that by me not saying anything before class ticked her off? I really don't know, the next time I will see her will be on Monday. Any advice on what to do/say? I feel dumb writting this, but i need an outsider to make some sense of this maybe. Thanks

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Oh man, there could be SO MANY explanations of that who really knows... if she got ticked off only because you didn't speak to her she sounds like she could be a nut job. Maybe she, like you, was a little under the weather. It sound like you just met her... not like shes gotta speak to you every day the same. Give it some time brother.....relax, take it slow. You'll NEVER figure out women, so give up trying. Just roll with it. grin.gif

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Here is what i have figured out. Women are all insane!!! What is good now will be bad in 5 minutes and vice versa. They do not operate on logic or reason. What you have to do is just say what you want to say and accept the fact that if she is happy right away, she will be mad later or the reverse. Just go for it and accept the fact that for the rest of your like you will be confused by women, and frequently intheir bad books.

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Hormone surge. The female gender can be as fickle as the wind in the mountains. Of course it would be presumptuous of you to think that she would like you to walk her to class every day. My advice would be to be friendly each day, show some interest in her life happenings and if a relationship should happen, so be it. If nothing comes of it, well, just remember Garth Brooks song; Thank God For Unanswered Prayers.

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I DONT THINK NO ONE WILL EVER FIGURE OUT WHAT GOES THROUGH A WOMANS MIND.JUST BE NICE TO HER AND ACT INTERESTED,BUT NOT PUSHY.YOU SHOULD SAY SOMETHING TO HER EVERYTIME YOU SEE HER TO GET SOMETHING STARTED.JUST BE YOURSELF AND BE CASUAL.IM SURE SHES NOT THE ONLY HOT GIRL IN SCHOOL.IF IT HAPPENS,IT HAPPENS.

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Right now you want her to talk to you but just think...one day you'll be married and you'll pray for the day that she will just shut up! grin.gif

[/ QUOTE ] Exactaly! I think my wife has ball bearings in her jaw. Never met anyone that had to talk that much.

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Don't sweet it!!! She is taking it out on you a lil for not talkin!!! No biggy! Just relax and chill! Joke around with her!!! Have a good time with her! Don't just talk!!! You gotta show her your a fun guy! Just relax things will work out if they are supposed to! The sense of humor is the best!!! It works AWESOME for me!!! I have on of the best Sense of humors!!!! If you got that you got any woman that is decent!!! Just relax and have a good time with her!!! Ask her to go to lunch or something!!! Smile at her and have a good convo!!!!!

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If we women are such insane, motor mouths, who are devoid of logic or reason, shallow, and can't make up their minds, then why do you all have one in your life???? Maybe you should look to a different gender since we women are so impossible to deal with or even understand.

I am sorry, but most of these replies are totally one sided. If I believed you all I would think that you are a bunch of perfect choir boys who do nothing wrong, ever and you poor things are at the mercy of some big bad woman waiting at home just to make your life miserable!! Maybe some of you DO have a less than desirable partner, but you can't label every women because of one. If that were true, then I would have to say that every man is a drunk who beats his wife and cheats on her, because that is what my ex-husband did.

Sorry to let into you guys, but it isn't fair what you have written. I am sure if I posted about how bad men are, you wouldn't like it much either.....

As for some advice on the woman in your class, if you didn't talk to her, she may think that you didn't want to talk to her because you didn't say anything. Some women are shy that way and don't want to scare off a man by seeming desperate. If she smiled at you, then she isn't pissed off at you. With that said, just because a woman talks with you doesn't necessarily mean that she wants a romantic relationship. I assume you talk with men in your class, but don't think it means that you are going to date them(not saying you are gay, but a lot of men seem to think a woman has "led them on" because they talk to them and the woman only wanted to be friends)

Be nice to her, I have to agree that a good sense of humor helps a lot, and if you want to get closer to her, invite her out for coffee or lunch under the pretence that you need some help with something in the class. That way if she isn't interested in you romantically, then it doesn't seem like you asked her out so you could date. It is a great way to help save face and hide any disappointment!

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Dude, the one thing you need to understand is never judge a woman by her first reaction. Trust me on this. Let it go. If she is still ice queen on Monday you've messed something up.

Its college, she could have something on her mind. Enjoy the weekend and dont sweat the details until Monday's reaction....

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It's deer season dude...you never saw her...JB

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LMBO! I just blew a big mac out my right nostril! Jerod, I owe you owe you one man! LOL grin.gif

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Home chick please wake up...

Men are stupid..plain and simple

Women are psycho...plain and well, not so simple

If a man thinks he is going to marry a psycho and live happily ever after, he is stupid...

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Home chick???? Would that make you a rooster?

I don't think all men are stupid, nor are all women psycho! You can't make sweeping judgements on any group of people. It's just wrong and hurtful!

I agree that marrying a psycho (and I admit there are more than a few of them out there, just not ALL of them), then what kind of marriage do you think you are going to get?? But that is not what my post was about...I am simply saying that people are saying some pretty cruel things about all women and they simply aren't true. I am not psycho, I don't care if my fiance takes off with the guys, I make my mind up and rarely change it unless I am shown a better way, I don't care what a man drives or what he wears, I do like to talk, but my other half doesn't so it works well for us! I take offense to being lumped into a group just because we all have ovaries!!

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Yes, i am a rooster. Looking at 15,000 chickens/day will do that to you.

There is no coincidence that estrogen and evil both start with the letter "E". tongue.gif

You make good points...infortunately I am too stupid to understand them. grin.gif

Problem is, the psycho gene does not manifest itself phenotypically until after the woman says, "I do."

Been there, experienced that... blush.gifblush.gif

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J.B. Did grandma make up some her pain reliever for the fall grin.gif

you are cracking me up.

Hunting in maine, we have had this dicussion so my mouth is shut.. cool.gif

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It's deer season dude...you never saw her...JB

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Yep, go hunting! Right now you want her to talk to you but just think...one day you'll be married and you'll pray for the day that she will just shut up! grin.gif

[/ QUOTE ]....LOL!!!!!!!well ask her out to a movie or something....or someone else will

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As for some advice on the woman in your class, if you didn't talk to her, she may think that you didn't want to talk to her because you didn't say anything. Some women are shy that way and don't want to scare off a man by seeming desperate. If she smiled at you, then she isn't pissed off at you. With that said, just because a woman talks with you doesn't necessarily mean that she wants a romantic relationship. I assume you talk with men in your class, but don't think it means that you are going to date them(not saying you are gay, but a lot of men seem to think a woman has "led them on" because they talk to them and the woman only wanted to be friends)

Be nice to her, I have to agree that a good sense of humor helps a lot, and if you want to get closer to her, invite her out for coffee or lunch under the pretence that you need some help with something in the class. That way if she isn't interested in you romantically, then it doesn't seem like you asked her out so you could date. It is a great way to help save face and hide any disappointment!

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I think that was great advice, HuntingInMaine.

The only thing I can add to it is this. You've only been talking to the girl for a week or so, so don't put any pressure on yourself--or her for that matter. It could be like HuntingInMaine said--maybe she didn't talk to you because she thought you didn't want to talk to her. Maybe she doesn't want you to think she's desperate--or maybe she thinks you might be.

At this VERY early point in the game, there's nothing to worry about.

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9 out of 10 of the Voices in her head are telling her your a cool guy....you just caught her on a bad day.

Its OK though......

9 out of 10 times a guy does not hear what a woman has to say.

If its worth anything...I cant really give you advice on women(I'm a guy...so if I were you...I would ask this Women about herself...but dont blame me if you never hear the end of it).

I simply would ask her in person If you had even a snowballs chance in the oven with her...and get over your possible embarrassment.

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i don't know if this was said, but the next time you talk to here just say, "hey, how you doing? Sorry i wasn't very social the other day, i wasn't feeling very good." and see what happens from there. if she was interested then you'll know that thats probably what happened. she thought you weren't and didn't know that you didn't feel good. just tell her you weren't feeling good and see where it goes.

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