Cheating....


Ozarkgal

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Dunno, but think it may depend some on circumstances. Think people who get married too young sometimes make mistakes and may "grow" out of them. Far as trusting someone who continues to lie even after they have been confronted, don't think I could do it although I would forgive them. About all more I can say is pray.

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i know of a few couples that it's happened to. people make mistakes sometimes. the ones that stayed together went through a very ruff patch, but it was discussed and then put in the past. never happened again. a mistake is something that you didn't want or mean to happen and don't plan to repeat. i hope things work out. Best of luck to you Ozarkgal.

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Lets examine the word....

A "mistake" is something someone does (generally) that they didn't know was a "take" therefore being referred to as a mistake...

has nothing to do with cheating or being unfaithful...

As far as i know, there is no word for a "mischoice", because, as adults, we all know we have a choice, and our choice was to be faithful.

So regardless of the circumstances at hand, cheating was a choice not a mistake, mistakes happen all the time - married people, brothers, sisters, friends everyone deals with mistakes, but cheating is a choice not a mistake...its a given moment when someone has the time to make a decision - and the decision that person makes is what determines being unfaithful or not...Cheating is not part of the question, but maybe part of the answer...

just my opinion...

I feel guilty when i can't take my lab goose hunting, but i know that he knows where i was at and what i was doing... that is cheating.

dan

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wow, No one should have to apologize for their opinion. Every cheating experience I have seen has been a repeat. So, my thoughts, once a cheater always a cheater. And it was a mistake on their part to cheat. it was their choice as well. Its their consequences to deal with. its their life to live. But they wont learn and will do it again. People cheat in a relationship because they are not happy. No one has ever heard a story of cow eating the grass across the fence because the grass on his side is the best grass ever. There is no excuse for cheating. Man up and end it if you're not happy, dont stay unhappy and cheat on someone that you're to chickenpoo to break up with.

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I believe that people can change if they want to. I was not always the fine outstanding gentleman you see here today;). I spent a lot of time in trouble, and looking back now I think it's fair to say I was pretty much a jerk through my teens and early 20's....especially toward women.

That being said, I don't like liars or excuses. It sounds like he needs to man up and make a decision. I think people generally cheat when they are unhappy with the way things are, or what they've become. If that's the case some decisions need to be made. Can things be worked out and get back on track? That's a personal decision the couple has to make. I agree with Ben...if he's not happy and you can't trust him, then there's no point in stringing somebody alongin a reationship that's destined to fail.

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In my opinion, everyone has weak moments, but not everyone chooses to act upon their impulses.

Those that do always have excuses. And I know people are supposed to learn from their mistakes, but in my experience, those who cheat on their spouse/significant other, rarely learn the first time.

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Yes he does need to man up. Its just not that simple to leave. There are other things involved. I wish i could just leave, because there is no trust at all, he broke that long time ago, only 2 months after being married. I wish i could go back 7 months ago and this wouldnt have happened. But thanks everyone for your opinion.

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In my opinion, everyone has weak moments, but not everyone chooses to act upon their impulses.

Those that do always have excuses. And I know people are supposed to learn from their mistakes, but in my experience, those who cheat on their spouse/significant other, rarely learn the first time.

Once someone has gotten away with it the first time the easier it will be to try it again the second, third, forth etc. Who knows who the cheater's partner (s) is? ( are ) Do they get around a little too much? Then your significant other brings home a disease you don't want to contend with!

I put a number on the chances I would give. That is 0. As in zero, none.

Lynn

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