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  stevebeilgard said:
anyone can make a mistake. to forgive takes an act of contrition and an apology. both must be sincere and come from the heart. he must be truly sorry and really want forgiveness. without those two, it will most certainly happen again.

yet, if he does admit his sin, beg for forgivness, you may have something there. he must know, though, that next time is the last time. and be sicerere.

Well put Steve... and I agree with Jeff as well...

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I certainly have my personal opinions on this subject, and as others have mentioned, it wouldn't make sense to determine a course of action for your life based on the opinions of others on this particular subject. It would have been so much easier had you asked simple questions like, "What broadhead is better?", or "Compound vs xbow?". You know, real easy stuff! KE Ke ke!

But here's a question that you have to ask yourself as it will have a direct bearing on the future of your relationship:

Regardless of how sincere the apology, or assurances that "it will never happen again", can you, FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, personally rise above all of the fact that your partner cheated on you with another?

Oh sure, it's easy to forgive while they're teary-eyed in front of you, but what happens in 5, 10 maybe 20 or 25 years down the road, when that apology is an eternity behind you both, and those grains of doubt (that have never really faded into obscurity), start to surface once again. I can almost guarantee you that there will be days when those traces of jelousy, and doubts of their fidelity will tear you apart. That is a fact! And anyone who said that you will never think about it again, is only fooling themselves and you.

If this relationship has any chance at longevity, and at a sharing and loving union, then you have to be prepared to forgive for the REST OF YOUR LIFE, not just a day. And you, and only you, can make that determination.

All the best!

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I know of one who did and never done it again. But I have had it happen and I did not trust them for about a year or better and then once I gave them a ounce of trust again they did the same thing. For me since I have lived it if they cheat they are not worth keeping around because that little seed of doubt has been planted in your mind and you will trust issues for a very long time and always be wondering what they are doing.

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