c_lou Posted February 16, 2012 Report Share Posted February 16, 2012 Corey is coaching 4th grade girls basketball. This is the first year they play games. Corey stepped up when no other parents would. Now Corey is getting emails from parents who aren't happy with how their girl is being played. Corey does not reply to said emails, though he wishes he could just to tell these fat, lazy, thankless, so and so's just what he thinks. There are 16 girls on the team. 5 or 6 get it, 5 or 6 are getting it and the rest are just there taking up space. :angry: Yes Corey went 3rd person, that is how frustrated he is with parents. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jbeck Posted February 16, 2012 Report Share Posted February 16, 2012 I know what you mean, I usually invite parents to attend all practices and games with there kid along with helping the other children. I usually explain that it takes a minimum of 25 hrs before you are qualified to form an acurate assesment of the team and its limitations. That usually stops the complaining. I have had a few that continue to complain and I usually hand them an application for head coach, that works too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ohiobucks Posted February 16, 2012 Report Share Posted February 16, 2012 16 kids on 1 basketball team? Dang! I've seen good coaches and I've seen bad coaches. To some parents, I've been a good coach and to some parents, I've been a bad coach. You sure can't please everyone, and with 16 kids on 1 basketball team, there are going to be big headaches on playing time, etc. Best of luck Corey. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MCH Posted February 16, 2012 Report Share Posted February 16, 2012 Been there...doing that. It doesn't get any better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redkneck Posted February 16, 2012 Report Share Posted February 16, 2012 I coach softball most summers. No way are you going to please them all, esp when you don't have enough kids to split multiple teams and end up with 16+ girls all wanting to play 10 positions. Gotta keep your kids in there full time that are going to help you win games and sub out the ones that don't make the cut and don't try (or even the good ones that have a crappy attitude). Usually I don't get too much static out of them, but when I do I tell them to check the little box that says they can coach next year and that's when they usually shut up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
c_lou Posted February 16, 2012 Author Report Share Posted February 16, 2012 If I would have been involved from the beginning, I would have asked to split them into 2 teams. Parents were told there was a coach so I was just going to help out at practice. Turns out there was no coach and the couple of us that were helping out were "promoted" to coach. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Kat Posted February 16, 2012 Report Share Posted February 16, 2012 Thats a big problem with America these days....you have to give equal and fair playing time to kids. Even if they can't spell the sport they are playing you're supposed to play them. The everyones a winner attitude is what is wrong with todays kids. They ALL get the reward in the end, so why work hard for it. If you wanna be the best you gotta train like the best. You gotta work hard to become a starter. Not everyone is talented athletically I understand that. Call me harsh but if your kid isn't athletic and shows no potential then involve them in something they're good at. I get so sick of the "it's not all about winning" crap. It's not entirely about winning, but why even play the game if you don't care about the score. Good luck....and stick your guns. Your the coach...you see the kid for what they are....talent or not. Potential or not. The parent sees 4th grade baby girl LEBRON. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shaun_300 Posted February 17, 2012 Report Share Posted February 17, 2012 Yeah it's crazy. You oughta see parents at kids hockey games here, crazy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pruts Posted February 17, 2012 Report Share Posted February 17, 2012 Yeah it's crazy. You oughta see parents at kids hockey games here, crazy! Agreed, a lot of hockey parents are nuts! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adjam5 Posted February 17, 2012 Report Share Posted February 17, 2012 I know when my sons played little leauge baseball. Parents had to sign an agreement that they would not coach kids from stands, not question coaches judgement(playing time, positions ect), not razz any other players and act orderly when attending games. I have seen the leauge invoke these rules and have parents tossed from the field. This is what it has come to. My hat is off to all the Dads who find time to coach kids. That to me is important community service. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted February 17, 2012 Report Share Posted February 17, 2012 Wow Corey, 16 4th graders by yourself, those parents should be thanking you for stepping up. Maybe next time around if their kids are so great, they will step up as coaches. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
layin on the smackdown Posted February 17, 2012 Report Share Posted February 17, 2012 There is one real big difference from the current time to 15 or 20 years ago... 15 and 20 + years ago, the schools actually held tryouts - if you were good enough, you made the team, if not, you got the axe...Now everyone makes the team, and if one kid doens't, his parents might take legal action... its a joke, and i commend all coaches for at least trying to help. dan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MUDRUNNER Posted February 17, 2012 Report Share Posted February 17, 2012 If I would have been involved from the beginning, I would have asked to split them into 2 teams. Parents were told there was a coach so I was just going to help out at practice. Turns out there was no coach and the couple of us that were helping out were "promoted" to coach. That's funny...the exact same thing happened to me when my daughter started playing t ball a few years ago. One thing that urked me was parents not taking any time to to practice with the kids. We had team practice an hour every week, but you could tell the differance between kids who made it to practice every week and got some practice at home, and the kids that didn't come to practices and got no help from the parents at home. Half the team was only there because the parents wanted to give the kid something to do, and they could care less about ball. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted February 17, 2012 Report Share Posted February 17, 2012 Been there. My first year coaching at my current high school I got called an a**h**e by a parent, and the other parents cheered. Couple of things, which might be too late in your case: #1--commissioner of the league has to set down the rules to the parents before the season even starts, put it in writing. #2--don't ignore the parents, that's only going to make it worse. I'd gather them together and let them know how you would prefer to run the team. If they don't like it, tell them to volunteer next year. #3--these kids are 9? 10? play all of them equal time anywhere they want to play, take turns if the same kids want the same position. It's not about wins and losses at that age. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redkneck Posted February 17, 2012 Report Share Posted February 17, 2012 #3--these kids are 9? 10? play all of them equal time anywhere they want to play, take turns if the same kids want the same position. It's not about wins and losses at that age. Oh Christopher.... no wonder OH doesn't compete in any sport anymore! Of course it's about winning!!!!! You must be thinking of T-Ball! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 obnoxious parents are the scourage of every game, no matter the game. the parents aren't there to enjoy a game, they are there to re-live their youth through their kids. it's a sad thing for me to watch. most parents are taking the fun out of the game for the very kids the coaches are trying to help. now, for you coaches out there. in the late '70,s we in gillette started a rule in ALL SPORTS. if a kid was on a team, every game he played equal time with all those others on the team. and, up until varsity in high school, he played every position. lets take basketball, just as an example. the 6th grade team (or whatever) had 9 players. each kid had equal time on the court at every game. and, the short 4' kid put equal time in at center as he did at point guard. now, by time he was on the varsity, he may be 7' tall and not a good point guard. lol. but the fact is, he knew each position, played it, and we all knew where he was the best. since the mid 1980's, gillette kids take most (about 80%) of the state titles in ALL team sports. that system was developed by a kid kicked off his junior hs basketball team by a coach who told him he had no talent and would never amount to anything. michael jordan. what do coaches know? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MCH Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 Oh Christopher.... no wonder OH doesn't compete in any sport anymore! Of course it's about winning!!!!! You must be thinking of T-Ball! Even Tball is about winning down here. More parents get kicked out of the park over a tball game than any other age group. Luckily, my daughters team should go undefeated this year so I won't have to worry about parents that much!!LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ruttinbuc Posted February 20, 2012 Report Share Posted February 20, 2012 I used to umpire midget and biddy baseball years ago. God forbid you called some kids out. There were more than a few parents that felt the need to get in your face for their kid watching strike three or being out by a yard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhino Posted February 20, 2012 Report Share Posted February 20, 2012 Heck...it's worse with girls parents than it is with boys. One of my best friends coached youth basketball for years. He had the same issues...every year. Some parents understand while others don't have a clue. Bottom line is...you can't make every parent happy so don't even try. Corey just needs to teach the girls the game of basketball and do what's best for the team. Some good points made already too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redkneck Posted February 20, 2012 Report Share Posted February 20, 2012 Girls softball is one of the most competitive sports around here. My girls started JV with the high school team as soon as they finished 6th grade, and immediately start weight training 3 days a week until school starts in the fall. If a girl misses 4 sessions, they automatically take themselves off the team. Some of the girls teams around here practice 7 days a week. It's year-round, slow pitch in fall, fast pitch in spring, league ball and tournament ball in summer along with weights and training. For league ball, I make sure all the kids get play time, but NOT equal time. No way should a kid that makes no effort to improve get the same benefits as the kids that are all heart. Just my 2 cents. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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