HuntingInMaine Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Yesterday I got a registered letter from my ex-husband. He is sueing me for custody of the children, more visitation time, he doesn't want to pay child support, and doesn't want to provide health insurance for them. He is filing papers with the court that state that I haven't worked for 8 years and have been going to college the whole time. (Which is easily documented with the state of Maine and the university of southern maine as being completely false! ) In 2001 I enrolled in a 5 year program to get my bachelor's degree, after this semester I have 2 classes left to get my degree and a GPA of 3.85 so I am very serious about getting my education and not just wasting time and money! Before this time I was babysitting for my ex's sister. I didn't make much money, but it allowed me to stay at home with the boys and saved my ex the money in child care that he would have had to pay. While I am going to school I do get help from the state (I pay my own tuition, they help with babysitting, ect.) and the state just filed a court order against him to pay for health insurance. This is something that he volunteered to pay when the divorce went through, but he let the policy lapse and now the state is going after him. I knew nothing about this as it is something the state did on their own. But it seems he thinks I am the one that started the court order against him so he is retaliating with this b.s. against me. I know that everything he is claiming will be easily proven a lie, but just the threat about taking my boys scares me and also makes me angrier than I have ever been! Now I have to find the money for a lawyer, just when I was looking forward to getting done with school and starting a career. Please pray that all of this goes smoothly. I could care less if he ever paid another penny towards my boys, I will be able to take care of that myself soon, but I am sick with worry about the custody. He says that I don't let him see the children for a "fair amount of time". When we first divorced he had the boys three nights a week (wed. and weekends). He is the one who has slowly done away with having them on wednesdays, and then stopped taking them Friday nights, and then started sending them home early Sunday's.....and I don't let him see the boys??????? Currently he has the boys from late friday afternoon until sunday morning, again, by his own choice. Two days before he sent these papers he asked me if I would keep the boys this upcoming weekend. So, he doesn't get to see them enough, but doesn't want them this weekend??? I have bent over backwards, re-arranged my schedule too many times to count, just so he could have things convient for him....I am done, it just doens't pay to be nice! And to make this all a little more exciting, he and his wife live directly across the street from me, so I have to see them every day. (and the boys have never been told by me that they couldn't go see their dad, ) Sorry to have gone on and on and on....just really needed to vent! I could really use some prayers now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JimT Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! If you can prove all that, he does not stand a chance. He lives right across from you right? I am sure he can see the kids all he wants within reason....???? He is digging, thats about it. Sounds like he is mad at you for sure. I know a few guys that do not want to pay for their kids and retaliate often. Very sad. I think you will be all set. It is going to cost you some money to fight it though, which stinks. Maybe you can sue him for it back when you win...? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tedicast Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! To me it sounds like revenge for the court order, pure and simple. It sounds like you are on solid ground. Good Luck! Hang in there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Finn Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! You're in our thoughts and prayers....good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NYBUCK Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! Hang in there, I can understand how something like this makes you nervous. However it seems that most of the time the court sides with the mother. You have plenty of paper trails to prove him false. I will still pray for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HuntingInMaine Posted March 10, 2005 Author Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! Jim, Yes, he bought the house across the street from me a year ago. The boys can go over any time they want, but his wife has made it so they don't feel very welcome and don't go. Even when they are there for their weekend visits they spend a lot of time here with me. And like I said, I have never told him he couldn't see the kids, my mother even plans our thanksgiving dinner around the one my ex's mother has so they can go to both places to eat. I couldn't humanly do anything more to make it easy for him to be with the boys, but he made the choice not to. And it seems even now he doesn't really want them, but thinks it is the only way he could pay less money. It will be easy to prove I was working (I claimed every penny with the state, so they have the detailed records, and school is easy to prove) He only pays $80 a week in child support and that is for both boys. The insurance will cost him $90 a month. With insurance costs as high as they are, I think that is a pretty good deal, and this is something he volunteered to pay during the divorce. Thanks for all the prayers, I really need them! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AaronS Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! Hang in there HuntingInMaine, it sounds like you'll have no problem with this. As someone stated above, I would look into the possibility of having it ruled that after (not if, but after) you win this to have the judge rule that your ex pay your lawyer fees. That will put a stop to him pulling crap like this any time he feels like it. Living across the street from my ex, holy cow I can't imagine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norm Sauceman Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! I don;t think he has a leg to stand on...just talk with a lawyer (free consultation) and make sure you talk with a good one (reputation, word of mouth, etc.) Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HarvDog Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! Prayers are going up... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DSGB Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! Prayers sent. Hope everything works out for you, and you get to keep your boys. Sounds like you'll be fine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MadHuntinPastor Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! Wow I'm not envying your position. That isn't cool to have them right across the street. Prayerfully things will settle without having to go to court. You want what is best for the boys. Keep us updated and stand up for what you know is best for them. We will be praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TOMSD5 Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! [ QUOTE ] I don;t think he has a leg to stand on...just talk with a lawyer (free consultation) and make sure you talk with a good one (reputation, word of mouth, etc.) go get him.... i had the same trouble with my grandsons parents... they thought that everytime the state would step in and force the court ruleing on support that i was the one that ordered it ... but like you it wasn't me that made the order.... the last time we were in court i got the state to tell it was them pushing the order now they know ....but they still fight it and my son even has the coustidy back but he and his ex are still ordered to pay the back support(Which the state gets) Godd luck to you and prayers on the way... Good luck! [/ QUOTE ] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OJR Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! Sorry to hear something like this! He certainly isn't taking the welfare of the boys into consideration! If he did, he would work his butt off to see and be with them every time he could! He is using the kids as pawns, so sad! Wishing you nothing but the best! Hang in there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tedicast Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! [ QUOTE ] He only pays $80 a week in child support and that is for both boys. The insurance will cost him $90 a month. With insurance costs as high as they are, I think that is a pretty good deal, and this is something he volunteered to pay during the divorce. [/ QUOTE ] That is dirt cheap. He is getting off easy! Not sure what he is complaining about. Thats a small price to pay to help your own flesh and blood. If anything, he should be offering more, to help with school clothes, and stuff like that. I think he is in for a wake up call if this actually goes to court. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fisherguy Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! Sorry to hear that. Sounds like his case won't hold water, but it is unfortunate you and your children will have to go through all this extra trouble. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! Good luck with that, but it sounds like you have all your ducks in a row, I'd say you'll be fine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Turkeygirl Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! Wow, sorry to hear of your ex being a manipulative jerk! The best thing would be to move away from him,lol, but that costs money also. I'll be sure to keep you in my prayers and I hope everything works out for the better and you finish that degree!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shaun_300 Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! sorry to hear about the ex, hope everything works out for you. good luck with the degree as well. prayers sent down to Maine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
billygoat Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! Keep your chin up Linda, you will do just fine. Be strong, as we all know you are, and most importantly remain true to your boys, certainly try and protect them from all of this B.S. Prayers are sent out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jjones Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! you got it girl!! hang in there!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted March 10, 2005 Report Share Posted March 10, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! [ QUOTE ] I know that everything he is claiming will be easily proven a lie, but just the threat about taking my boys scares me and also makes me angrier than I have ever been! Now I have to find the money for a lawyer, just when I was looking forward to getting done with school and starting a career. Please pray that all of this goes smoothly [/ QUOTE ] You've got it Linda. Hang in there and be strong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
archerjg Posted March 11, 2005 Report Share Posted March 11, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! I hope that everything goes well and that he loses. I will keep you in my prayers, Archerjg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest outdoorgirl Posted March 11, 2005 Report Share Posted March 11, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! hang in their Linda ....your a strong person....things will work out for you and your boys....prayers sent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HuntingInMaine Posted March 11, 2005 Author Report Share Posted March 11, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! Thanks for all of your support, it means the world to me! I talked with an attorney yesterday and she told me things are looking very good for me and if he continues with the proceedings he will end up paying more in child support because we have all the papers to prove he is lying about his income. I am feeling much better about all of that, but I will be feeling a lot better when everything is all done with. The really good news is that it doesn't look like the boys will have to spend any time in court (something I wanted to protect them from.), so at least I won't have to worry about that! Thanks again everyone....I will keep you updated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffett1 Posted March 11, 2005 Report Share Posted March 11, 2005 Re: Need prayers, PLEASE! Thoughts and prayers are with you. Best of luck with it and keep us up to date. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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