wtnhunt Posted February 9, 2015 Report Share Posted February 9, 2015 Wife has this sister, sister is not exactly responsible. Sister has borrowed money from my wife/us multiple times. She has never paid back all she has borrowed. I have told my wife we simply cannot loan her money anymore for the obvious reasons. Came to learn long ago that loaning family money more often than not is giving it away, bad idea. Needless to say leading up to a couple weeks ago she was way behind on her rent and getting kicked out of her place. Wife was pretty upset so I told my wife, rather than give her more money we will likely never see, let her stay with us until she can get back on her feet. Seemed probably the best idea to me even though I am not her sister's biggest fan. Not planned to ask for anything from her, trying to help her so that maybe my wife won't give her anymore money. So she is moved into our oldest daughter's room, Christina is off to college. Last week at some point, think it was Tuesday afternoon, she went and retrieved her cat, which had been a stray before she adopted it. Anyway the cat was mostly a non social outside cat. Things I did not know. I told my wife I did not want the cat here, for pretty obvious reasons. ONE, I DON'T LIKE CATS. Two we have a serious predation issue, bobcats, fox and yotes with which the cat would likely not survive here. They bring the cat here and against my wishes, and as if it was not bad enough they let the cat loose in my 18 year old daughter's basement bedroom, I did not know this. I come in Wednesday morning after taking my kids to school and am hit at the front door with a horrible odor. I realize at this point the cat is in the house and has done its business in my daughter's room. I text my wife to let her know the cat is inside and has stunk up the house and she needs to take care of it. She takes off work early and gets the cat in our dog cage and takes it outside. After about a half gallon of odoban baking soda and laundry detergent I get the stench to a tolerable point. I am thankful that floor is a wood floor and not carpet. The cat got let loose outside and my wifes sister was scared it would get killed so they tried to catch it and get it in the garage. Last I knew Friday early in the morning they were unable to catch it. At some point before 6:30 am Friday morning she does get the cat in the garage. No one shared this with me. I am about ready to leave to take my kids to school and I see my garage shop lights are on. I cannot stand wasting electric, so I go out to shut my lights in my garage off and as I open the door I see the cat. Cat darts to the door and I try to close the door and cat gets there too quick and I catch it with my leg pinning it against the door frame. Didn't think a thing about it when I reached down to grab the thing. As I went to reach down and grab it to push it back in the garage it proceeds to latch onto my right hand, biting to the bone narrowly missing that major vein in the hand. Instant reaction I flung the cat in and slammed the door. Cat has never had any vaccinations, her sister's irresponsibility. I did not know this until later that morning before I went to the Dr. The nurse had to turn her head away when she was cleaning the wounds, pretty messy. Got me on augmentin(sp) and an antibiotic cream for infection. Hand swollen so bad still cannot see my knuckles, but it is much better now than it was over the weekend. Great, another $50 gone I won't even ask her sister about it. Rabies was my biggest concern, but seems everyone dr's. and animal control have no concerns about the cat having rabies. Vet's office strongly suggested catching the cat and bringing it in for a quarantined observation period. Sister in law is the only person who can get close to the cat. Cat was actually in the garage Saturday morning and someone let it out! I told my wife her sister needs to catch the cat, I would pay the vet bill for the quarantine period. She has put forth little effort to catch the cat. Here I am doing all I can to help her sister out and seems she really could care less. She came in last night and said she was able to pet the cat but did not try to grab it, don't see much concern on her part. Ok, that is ok, I am going to buy a live trap. More money spent on this, but maybe i will get some other use out of it in the future. If that does not work I will get the cat to the vet one way or another. Just about everyone, including the dr and nurse first question has been "did you kill the cat". Surprisingly no. I must really love my wife! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhino Posted February 9, 2015 Report Share Posted February 9, 2015 All I can say is...yep...you must REALLY LOVE YOUR WIFE!!! BTW...been there...done that with loaning $ to family. Same thing...it's like giving it away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MUDRUNNER Posted February 9, 2015 Report Share Posted February 9, 2015 Man o man....I am with you. I have never been a cat person. If you are kind enough to let somebody live with you for a period of time, the least they could do is not inconvenience the entire family by bringing pets with them. It seems totally disrespectful on her part. I am pretty sure the cat would've disappeared if it would've been my hand. We offered to let my sister live with us while she was getting divorced. I love her more than anything, and she is welcome to stay with me anytime she needs to. The problem was she had a German Shepard and a cat at the time, and I didn't want them in the house so she found somewhere else to stay for a few months. She understood completely and eventually found good homes for both animals. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RangerClay Posted February 9, 2015 Report Share Posted February 9, 2015 I think using antifreeze for bait in your trap would be a great idea. You are a far more patient man than I am. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted February 9, 2015 Author Report Share Posted February 9, 2015 I think using antifreeze for bait in your trap would be a great idea. You are a far more patient man than I am. Hope to get it to the vet alive. Vets office said not to rule out rabies, strongly suggested a 10 day observation period. Most everyone else(doctors,health dept, and animal control) seem to think rabies is not a concern. I could probably find the cat and shoot it, dunno if the vets office could take it and test it or not? My understanding is to test, the brain has to be removed within a short time frame. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin R10 man Posted February 10, 2015 Report Share Posted February 10, 2015 cat wouldn't have a brain left after I got done with it. liter box is bad enough, start dumpin on the floor NOT happening! Good luck Will Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maine Hntr Posted February 10, 2015 Report Share Posted February 10, 2015 You've got true patience William! Why you even tried stopping it from getting out of YOUR garage is beyond me.. I'm not at all a cat fan, don't like their demeanor, I'm allergic and can't stand their smell and the whole litter box thing. Good luck, hope the hand heals up for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hoosierhunter Posted February 10, 2015 Report Share Posted February 10, 2015 SSS........... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fly Posted February 10, 2015 Report Share Posted February 10, 2015 While I've been asked for money and to co-sign auto loans from family members I've never done it. 10 years ago I allowed my 17 year old sister to move in the basement when she dropped out of high school. It only lasted 3 weeks. She wanted to have her friends over (people I had never met). I said no party's and one friend or two is okay after I have met them and on weekdays they leave at 9pm and weekends at 11pm. The agreement was for her to finish school. Couldn't live by those rules so she left. Still has no diploma or GED. I think you did a good thing having your wife's sister move in. Sounds like you didn't set a time limit so the cat problem may be around a while. If its just another month then maybe just suck it up a little while longer. if not I would just tell her that the cat was an unexpected add on that you tried to deal with and that it didn't work. Also that having the cat is making you quite unhappy. Then allow her to make the decision about the cat. If she makes the wrong one then You will see where your happiness in your own home lies on her priority line. You might feel much better about making the decision concerning pets in your home and giving her the option to comply or move out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin R10 man Posted February 10, 2015 Report Share Posted February 10, 2015 SSS........... Yup Pat,.. could not say it better Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted February 10, 2015 Report Share Posted February 10, 2015 Tough spot. I'm kind of in a spot like that. My youngest sister married a class "A" DB. The guy had no financial sense at all. Ran bills up and credit card debt up to the point where she had to divorce him. Right before the divorce, the bank foreclosed on her home, so she moved back in with my dad. In the mean time, my dad got remarried and now lives with his new wife and my sister and her 3 boys occupy the house. It's the only real asset my dad owns anymore, and when he dies, my brother and other sister will be in a real pickle as to what to do with our little sister. According to the will, I imagine we would have to sell the house and split the proceeds equally, but that would likely mean tossing my sister out on the street. There's no way she could afford to pay off 3/4 of the house and still raise her boys. Tough spot. As for that cat, I'm afraid I'd have killed it when it bit me, and probably by my own hands. Hate cats. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted February 10, 2015 Author Report Share Posted February 10, 2015 You've got true patience William! Why you even tried stopping it from getting out of YOUR garage is beyond me.. I'm not at all a cat fan' date=' don't like their demeanor, I'm allergic and can't stand their smell and the whole litter box thing. Good luck, hope the hand heals up for you.[/quote'] Thanks. Healing up pretty fast, this antibiotic cream is some pretty good stuff. In hindsight not sure why I caught the cat either. Guess reaction, was in the back of my mind they could not catch it and she finally did so I tried to not let it get loose again. All happened split second. While I've been asked for money and to co-sign auto loans from family members I've never done it. 10 years ago I allowed my 17 year old sister to move in the basement when she dropped out of high school. It only lasted 3 weeks. She wanted to have her friends over (people I had never met). I said no party's and one friend or two is okay after I have met them and on weekdays they leave at 9pm and weekends at 11pm. The agreement was for her to finish school. Couldn't live by those rules so she left. Still has no diploma or GED. I think you did a good thing having your wife's sister move in. Sounds like you didn't set a time limit so the cat problem may be around a while. If its just another month then maybe just suck it up a little while longer. if not I would just tell her that the cat was an unexpected add on that you tried to deal with and that it didn't work. Also that having the cat is making you quite unhappy. Then allow her to make the decision about the cat. If she makes the wrong one then You will see where your happiness in your own home lies on her priority line. You might feel much better about making the decision concerning pets in your home and giving her the option to comply or move out. This is not the first time her sister has lived with us. She got kicked out of her parents house when she was about 18, probably about 14 years ago. I genuinely want to help her sister, hard though to help someone in their 30's. I cannot really talk to her about credit and financial stuff, feel like I am talking to a brick wall. There is a reason my wife and I have good credit, we know our limits and do not spend beyond them. Wife's family has always had issues with taking care of their bills. Learned behavior or maybe something genetic, I don't know. I really just don't get it. Wife has learned the hard way I am afraid about co signing too. She is on the hook for a $5000 loan as a guarantor for her little brother(almost 21) college loan. He has been late almost every month since he dropped out of college and she gets a notice. Last month he was two months behind, he is making more payments towards penalties and interest than he is towards the principle. He sat in our living room pleading with her to sign and looking nervous promising he would make his payments on time when he finished college. I told her bad idea, don't do it, of course she did not listen. Her mindset was that he had noone else, their mother passed from cancer when he was very young. I get it, wanting to help, but there are limitations to what you can do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shaun_300 Posted February 13, 2015 Report Share Posted February 13, 2015 Very tough situation William. Hope things get sorted out, and your hand heals up quickly! You're doing a great deed by having her in your house like that to get her out of a bind, she should come to terms with the way you want things to be and be respectful to the rules. I'm pretty much positive that cat's 9th life would have expired if it were me in that situation! I have no use for cats that act like that for no reason. I don't mind certain cats. We have one, adopted her as a kitten last summer when she was only about a month old. She's awesome, and acts much the same as our chocolate lab. Probably from being around her since she was so young. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin R10 man Posted February 13, 2015 Report Share Posted February 13, 2015 (edited) Thanks Will, your experience gave me a dream..... Had to go through neighbor lady's pole shed after her death, (she did pass away lately),I could fly...(I love my flying dreams),... so I hovered up near the rafters to take a look around at the job at hand. All of a sudden these wild Feral Cats started to jump up at me scratching and clawing. She had old beer bottles on a top shelf, so I grabbed them and when the cats got near me I swung and chopped off their head..I sure killed a lot of cats last eve.... Edited February 13, 2015 by Mathews XT Man Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ruttinbuc Posted February 14, 2015 Report Share Posted February 14, 2015 (edited) Sorry about the cat bite, William . Sounds like the cat has as many issues as the sister in law. My brother is feeling the pain of lending money to his children. His oldest daughter is next to evil the way she treats him. He and his wife did all they could to help her and their grandchildren. She doesn't respect any of it and continues to make up stories of being abused as a child which is totally imagined. She had a cat early in her now defunct marriage. It was a black cat named Blitz. I went to pet it when I first met it and the little (word I can't put here) darn near ripped my thumb off. I got a hold of it and squeezed it's throat until his eyes almost left their sockets. All the while my niece was screaming and pleading with me to leave her cat alone. I pushed the cat to the floor and it scampered off behind the refrigerator. It started hissing and howling like evil cats do. It was then that her ex husband told me that cat was nuts and wouldn't let no one near it except my niece. I look back at that experience and truly think that the cat put a spell on the girl making her nuts, too. I went to the doctor for my ripped thumb and got a few stitches and a shot. There was no concern for rabies as the cat was up to date on it's shots. I hope you heal quick. We are our brother's keeper, but sometimes you have to draw the line. . Edited February 14, 2015 by ruttinbuc Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin R10 man Posted February 14, 2015 Report Share Posted February 14, 2015 rutinbuc...I can just see those eyes poppin out...lol those teeth are sharp! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John Andrews Posted February 14, 2015 Report Share Posted February 14, 2015 Wow! That hadda hurt and make you mad, wtn! I shoot feral cats everytime I have a chance, for good reason. I have been hard bitten by cats a couple of times and shot one cat close to home that had full blown rabies that attacked my dog and me. You for sure have a lot of patience, much more with that cat and inlaw than I would have. I was holding a neighbor's big pet cat that had just killed most of a batch of wood ducks that bailed out of their nest by home. My brother and I were teenagers at the time and were debating as to what to do with the cat. Suddenly, the cat snatched my throat in it's teeth and wouldn't let go until I finally choked it enough that it had to release my throat. It's claws were dug in me, also. I won't admit to the cat's demise but that cat's duckling killing was brought to a sudden end. The cat owner searched for a long time for his free ranging cat, without luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin R10 man Posted February 14, 2015 Report Share Posted February 14, 2015 Trapped a couple feral cats this fall/early winter. Man I'm glad they were in a live trap!! they jumped at me and bit the cage, spit & hissed..thought they were possessed!! After thier "Ruger" session,..they became veery docile. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John Andrews Posted February 15, 2015 Report Share Posted February 15, 2015 Ha ha, tamed them right down, proper, XT! A few hours before I went on duty a while back, one of our day shift Lt's went to check out a big male bobcat snared around its middle, was caught with a too long length of wire. It was on top of a tall high security fence and tangled up with the top strands of barbwire. The cat was maniac crazy. Boss tried to club it without success because he left HQ without his issued sidearm. He had to drive some miles back to HQ, strap on his sidearm, and then go shoot the cat. Years ago I worked for an airline. On occasions, we received pets. Dogs were fine but cats in the cages were like crazy rabid animals. we couldn't offer cats water or food due to a real risk of personal injury. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin R10 man Posted February 15, 2015 Report Share Posted February 15, 2015 Yup...Rugers have this..."calming" effect on them?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted February 21, 2015 Report Share Posted February 21, 2015 i'm with the sss crew, arty. your sister in law is taking advantage of you. it's terribly rude to bring an animal into a host's house in the first place, but what that cat is doing is beyond the call. a good pellet gun will make the situation better. my sister in law had a little poodle. while she was out skiing, her poodle bit my toddler daughter, but only once. it ran off that day.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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