Tominator Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 couple other posts got me to thinking: where you spanked as a child? if you have kids, do you spank your kids? me: yep, i was spanked, and yep i spank my kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lil hunter Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 Re: Spanking? I was some, but not too often. At least not that I remember. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeramie Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 Re: Spanking? Yep, I got my rear warmed up on several occasions and I cant think of once that I didn't deserve it. I will discipline my children also. I harbor no hard feelings toward my parents. Everything they did help to mold me for today. Unlike a lot of todays generations I understood (and still do) that all of my actions have consequences, both good and bad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texastrophies Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 Re: Spanking? Yes & Yes Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norm Sauceman Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 Re: Spanking? Was spanked...do spank... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dartonman Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 Re: Spanking? Yes..........and Yes.........al Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oo_buck Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 Re: Spanking? Yes / Yes Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
too_pointer Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 Re: Spanking? Ya, I got the belt too, thats hurts!! I spanked my kids but not very often, and yes I and them deserved it! too_ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
strubedog Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 Re: Spanking? I was spanked with a belt deservingly. I do spank only for certain things and use time outs for lesser offenses. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest okladeerhunter Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 Re: Spanking? I had my butt warmed up a time or two,well maybe more than that LOL. And yep I will my kids too. I feel that there is nothing wrong with it I am OK and harbor no hard feelings tward my parents either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orion_70 Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 Re: Spanking? I was spanked and when I have kids, they'll get it too when they deserve it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steven Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 Re: Spanking? There's no telling how many times my dad's belt kept me out of jail, or worse. Just the thought of my dad coming home kept me in line. LOL (And the fact that my mom never could keep a secret) And I plan on spanking enough to plant that same fear in my kids. [ 05-22-2003, 05:50 PM: Message edited by: Racksup ] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest buckifan21 Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 Re: Spanking? i got spanked and will spank Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest beardsNspurs Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 Re: Spanking? I did also...and have my daughter. Most of the time I try sittin her down and talking with her. But sometimes that just doesn't work....thats when the spanking comes in. I do it more than anything just to get her attention and let her know I'm serious in what I'm telling her. But more times than not she knows when she's in trouble before I say anything to her about it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NS whitetail Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 Re: Spanking? i was spanked as a child ( but not often since i was so good lol ) i try and punish my daughter in other ways like taking away toys for a while or sitting in a chair for a set time -- it seems to work OK. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted May 23, 2003 Report Share Posted May 23, 2003 Re: Spanking? Well, I sat back and watched this thread from the start and decided to wait on my input, and give everyone else a chance to put in theirs. I, as some of you may know, was abused verbally and physically as a child. I think my Mom got the worst of it for trying to stick up for us. With that said ...I still believe a spanking has it's place in disipline...but..on a very limited scale.(very limited) The only time I think calls for a slap on the butt, is if your child outright defies your authority ...like when a kid says NO to you for the first time. Some folks seem to think it's cute or funny, but that NO needs to be nipped in the butt at a young age. That is the only thing I have ever spanked for and I never did it in anger. All the other things can be dealt with in other ways, but it is still dealt with. Disipline, doesn't have to be a physical confrontation all the time. Any more than 1 or 2 slaps on the butt cheeks is abusing your authority and getting carried away.. (I think) We certainly were hard on my daughter growing up, as far as disipline goes, but it was rare if she got a spanking....really rare. Something I think that's worse than getting beaten, is getting screamed at, cursed out and threatened by a parent. That can leave more scares than anything physical ever could. Disipline is a must, but it doesn't have to be physical. The problem with most folks is they figure a spanking is a quick fix and the answer for everything...it's not Diana and I sent our daughter to her room a lot and she wasn't aloud out until she had a change of heart and apologized etc. Then after she said she was sorry, we would sit her down and have a good talk (not a yelling match) just a good talk, so that she knew exactly where we were coming from. The bible talks about sparing the rod and spoiling the child...but it also mentions "thy rod and thy staff...they comfort me" I pondered this over for years because of the abuse that I suffered and came to the conclusion, that the ROD of correction, does not have to be a stick, or a belt, ...the ROD of correction is Gods word, "the truth". There are time though, where a smack on the old behind is needed to get their attention long enough to get the truth across to them. So, Jimt....I'm kind of with you on this issue, but I still think there is a place for a slap on the behind.....not to try to inflict as much pain as you can on a child, but to get their attention, Enough said from me....(I still hurt) OH...my daughter is 24 and she has not been into drugs or heavy drinking...she is living on her own with a good job, which she works very hard at. She has good self-esteme, comes to visit 4-5 times every week, good sence of humour, loves the Lord and is firmly planted .....and she loves me and thanks me for disiplining her as a child and into her teens. We have talked about spankings with her and she says she doesn't even remember them...(that's how few we had to give.) [ 05-22-2003, 08:14 PM: Message edited by: buckee ] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
archerjg Posted May 23, 2003 Report Share Posted May 23, 2003 Re: Spanking? I was given every oppotunity to behave before the options ran out and I got spanked, but you know I never did that again. It was rare I can count only a half dozen times at most. It was a last option but as I was told if it won't go in one end it will go in through the other. Archerjg [ 05-22-2003, 08:16 PM: Message edited by: archerjg ] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted May 23, 2003 Report Share Posted May 23, 2003 Re: Spanking? The problem with a lot of parents now-a-days is they won't spank their kids or that's all they do, because they won't take the time to think up any good disiplinary measures for their child or take the time out of their "BUSY SCHEDULE" TO TALK TO THEIR KIDS, so they resort to frustration and scream obsenities and threats to their children. .... All they end up with are spoiled little, louder than Mom or Dad, brats. [ 05-22-2003, 08:22 PM: Message edited by: buckee ] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steven Posted May 23, 2003 Report Share Posted May 23, 2003 Re: Spanking? I was never "beaten" as a child, a term a few of you choose to use. I'll admit, I was a pretty bad kid at times. But, once the precident was set, and I was in that situation, I always remembered the few times I was spanked and whatever I was planning on doing seemed far less enjoyable. I also think it's very irresponsible throwing around words "beating" and "hit" with little regard to context. A spanking is not a beating by any means. A spanking is a last resort after all else has failed. I expect better from you people and that is a very questionable choice of words. No one in this thread even remotely suggested beating their children. Edit: I still love you guys though. [ 05-22-2003, 08:34 PM: Message edited by: Racksup ] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted May 23, 2003 Author Report Share Posted May 23, 2003 Re: Spanking? hmmm, don't know why i'm surprised at the answers, but i am. probably because i didn't qualify my definition of spanking, and how much i was spanked. and like racksie and buckee say, there's a difference between a spank and abuse. i can only remember my dad losing it once, and in that case i was beat, but, looking back, i deserved it. it scared me more than anything. but we joke about that now at family reunions. as far as my kids go, a spanking consists of one swat on the behind. i only regret one spanking that i gave to my son one day. i can't remember the last time i spanked one of my children. the 3 older ones haven't been swatted in well over a year. groundings and restrictions are the name of the game now. yeah i've been trained in child psychology and the notion that spanking is condoning violence and adults losing control and the ideas that jimt is talking about. i say if you can get through child rearing and don't have to spank your child, you're luckier than i am, because there have been times where my kids deserved an attention getter, especially the boys. i'll bet i've only spanked my little girl 5 or 6 times, she's just naturally better behaved. i have a friend who's never spanked his little girl and she's never needed it, she's an angel. so, i'm sorry if this struck nerves with some, especially buckee and anyone else who might have been abused as a child. i truly didn't mean to dig up old memories, i was just curious as to some of your discipline strategies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted May 23, 2003 Report Share Posted May 23, 2003 Re: Spanking? Hey Tom...no need to apologize buddy. I think this is a great post. Makes everyone sit back and think. As far as digging up old memories...they are always there buddy...no need to dig nothing up. My Mom gave her share of spankings to us kids ...but they were just that ..spankings and never in anger. A wack on the butt to get our attention, when all else failed.She (of course) wasn't the kind of Mom who would say wait till your Father gets home, because she was afraid for us. Sure miss her ....I was lucky to have such a loving Mother. This is a Darned good thread Tom...don't apologize ...and don't feel sorry for me, because I can do that one all by myself...OK...LOL [ 05-22-2003, 10:07 PM: Message edited by: buckee ] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wisconsinboy Posted May 23, 2003 Report Share Posted May 23, 2003 Re: Spanking? i was and i will Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Griz Posted May 23, 2003 Report Share Posted May 23, 2003 Re: Spanking? Heck if I made through a week with out my dad taking me to the wood shed and whipping my tail on the way there I was lucky. And yes I will spank only if they really, really need it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ParrotHead Posted May 23, 2003 Report Share Posted May 23, 2003 Re: Spanking? Spanking was a weekly ritual around the house when I was growing up!!! And yes, I do spank my child. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
10acboy Posted May 23, 2003 Report Share Posted May 23, 2003 Re: Spanking? Was and do! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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