markyj987 Posted June 19, 2005 Report Share Posted June 19, 2005 I admit I was a little bit bummed to be turning another year older on Friday...but this weekend has turned out to be great. My best friend, sluggunner suggested we go up to his hunting land "Deerhaven Woods" for a guys' night out and hang out, have a campfire, and kick back a few beers and "camp out." (The quotes are because it's a really nice trailer he has up there...so I can't really say it was camping...lol) Anyway, it was great to hang out with my best friend and talk about big bucks, food plots, women, beer, God, and politics. Since we don't work together anymore and our schedules have changed we don't get to hang out like we used to. He brought up some beers, beef sticks, summer sausage, and a homemade cake his wife made for my birthday. On Friday, we went for a fish fry at a little bar and restaurant and I had an awesome walleye fish fry before we returned to "camp" for some beers. After shooting the breeze and watchin Monster Bucks XIII (which is AWESOME!) we crashed. Yesterday morning, I woke up to a cool summer morning and went outside to the smell of dew on clover and rye grass in the food plot. It was awesome to be there...the very first place where I shot my first squirrel and first deer. I even heard a startled buck grunt as a kid on the neighboring property barrelled through the woods. Anyway we hung out there most of the day and went back to the same restaurant before we left yesterday for some of their homemade pizza. When we got there, our server was a beautiful young woman who was sweet, funny, charming, and very genuine--unlike the kind of people I see here in the city. Of course, I was interested in her right away. One of my personal rules is that you don't hit on waitresses...you just don't. However, there was something intangible about her that really peaked my curiosity. After two slices of pepperoni and black olives and a Pepsi, I finally mustered the courage to see if she'd like to go out sometime, but alas, her shift ended and she had to leave. The waitress that took over came by and I asked her about Christina--the waitress that got my attention. She told me that she's a very sweet girl who has been working there for two years. She's honest, hard-working, and very shy. She also said that Christina commented on how nice we were and so on and so forth. Deciding to gamble, I told our new waitress that I'd love to talk to her sometime and she thought it'd be great...and I gave my number to her for Christina. It's kind of strange how things work out, but it's funny that Friday night I was talking to my buddy about how I need to change my ways--and stop looking for women for the wrong reasons--then on Saturday I meet this young woman that attracted me with her smile, laugh, and just overall sweetness. The waitress I left the number with said she'd "make sure" to get Christina to call me, but that she is extremely shy--and may not even if interested. I'll give it a few days but am really not sure what to do if I don't hear from her. This woman might be interested or might not be--but if she is and doesn't call because of her shyness I have to figure out what to do. Any suggestions? (LOL at 28 I'm still as smooth with the ladies as sandpaper) I'll definitely give it a few days, but thought about maybe going up there (about 45 mins away) for lunch or dinner later this week...or maybe calling the waitress I gave the number to and see if Christina was interested. Even "crazier" things came to mind---like sending some wildflowers with a note saying something like I'd like to get to know her--and was not the stereotypical guy that hits on waitresses...lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted June 19, 2005 Report Share Posted June 19, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice Dont know Mark. Dont think I would try to call her. Probably would be best to call the other waitress and find out when she is working again and go and try to talk to her then face to face and ask her out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
christsavedme Posted June 19, 2005 Report Share Posted June 19, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice Looks like William has already given you some good advice. Other than that congrats on the weekend....sounds like you guys had a good time! Good luck with the girl! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
markyj987 Posted June 19, 2005 Author Report Share Posted June 19, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice William, I guess I'm lost in pronouns...lol. So I should try to call the waitress that took over for Christina and find out when Christina's working? I wouldn't be able to call Christina since I don't have her number....and calling to ask when she's working might scare her off too. I definitely don't want to come off as "one of those" people...I just have bad timing...LOL Also, I wonder if I came off as one of those guys acting like an idiot because he's out with one of his buddies....but if she knows I'm always an idiot, that might be alright...LMBO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted June 19, 2005 Report Share Posted June 19, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice Mark, call the other waitress and ask her when the next time Christina is working so you can conveniently drop in and talk with her. Thats all I meant. That is what I would do if I was you and I was interested. Dont really think that would make you come off as a stalker or weirdo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Finn Posted June 19, 2005 Report Share Posted June 19, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice Stick with hunting....it's cheaper and less frustrating than women Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
preacherman Posted June 19, 2005 Report Share Posted June 19, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice [ QUOTE ] Stick with hunting....it's cheaper and less frustrating than women [/ QUOTE ] DITTO! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest grunter Posted June 19, 2005 Report Share Posted June 19, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice Marky, Dude - if she had that much of an impact on you, you'd better find out more about this girl. I had something similar happen to me (except the girl was not a waitress). Two weeks ago, "that girl" and I just celebrated our 22nd wedding anniversary! After our first encounter, I knew I had to get to now her. I thank God everything turned out the way it did. Good Luck! Grunter Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
markyj987 Posted June 19, 2005 Author Report Share Posted June 19, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] Stick with hunting....it's cheaper and less frustrating than women [/ QUOTE ] DITTO! [/ QUOTE ] I wasn't even looking for a woman...was just looking to try some homemade pizza at a local restaurant...LOL. Thanks all for the advice...and keep it coming. It's been a long time since I just met someone and they've been on my mind more than five minutes...lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted June 20, 2005 Report Share Posted June 20, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice Ever walk along a beach and find something cool you weren't even looking for? Ever walk through a forest and find a shed antler you weren't even looking for? Ever weed your sweet corn and find an arrowhead you weren't even looking for? All great finds, and it would be a shame to just leave them lay there. You get my drift son, or do I need to come up and drive you over to see Christina? (I dated a gorgeous, sweet, incredible girl named Christina for about 1 month, then I got discharged from the Coast Guard. She stayed in Cocoa, and I went back to Elyria................What might have been..........) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MichiganHuntr1 Posted June 20, 2005 Report Share Posted June 20, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice Go For her Mark! I may not be of much help, since im only 18, but, if she really intrigues you that much, maybe you should go for her. Who knows, she may be a future wife. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted June 20, 2005 Report Share Posted June 20, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice don't call. go see her. and try something she's probably never heard.... the truth. tell her you'd like to take her out some day, and that your intentions are honorable. and you had a great idea with the wild flowers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest CBU93 Posted June 20, 2005 Report Share Posted June 20, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice Christinas, Christies, Krystals...any derivative of that name is some bad JuJu for me...find out if her middle name is Heather, then you are in business! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest chigger1 Posted June 20, 2005 Report Share Posted June 20, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice go with whats in your heart dude thats what i did and ive been happley married for 5 years now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deershed Posted June 20, 2005 Report Share Posted June 20, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice I think you already know what you need to do,just do it in person and not over the phone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWSmith Posted June 20, 2005 Report Share Posted June 20, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice Make a homemade card and hand it to her in person. Inside that card try what you have told us here. I think the homemade card is a better idea than possibly embarassing her in front of her co-workers with a big bunch of flowers and it lets her know you actually spent some time thinking about her to make the card yourself. I felt the same way about my wife....I asked her for her phone number and called her everyday from West Virginia while hunting and told her about the day and what happened. We talked until the battery went dead on the phone! In other words I talked about what I knew and she had enough warning about what she was in for in the future...LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newarcher Posted June 20, 2005 Report Share Posted June 20, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice Definitely do not call her or the other waitress....first, it would seem sort of desperate. Secondly, they might or might not know which one you are. What I would do is head on up there when you think she is working. If necessary, have a female friend call and ask but then hang up before she comes to the phone. I would then position myself where I knew she would be my server. After she takes your drink order, go to the bathroom, disrobe, and quietly sneak back into your seat. If she screams and runs when she comes back, it didn't work. If she....well there will not other 'if she's '. Actually, the polite and straightforward way would work best. Tell her that you were in last Sunday or whatever and that you thought she was very nice and pretty and wondered if she might be interested in going out. Tell her you know of a place that has great pizza and the help is very very nice. Great ice breaker line. All she can do is say no and then you can stiff her on the tip! New Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted June 20, 2005 Report Share Posted June 20, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice DO NOT LISTEN TO FINN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Take it from a woman...we LOVE it when a man goes out of his way to show he is interested. For goodness sakes, DRIVE over there, ( after you've made sure she's there) walk in the restaurant, find her, tell her you just couldn't wait any longer and tell her you drove all the way over there to see if she is interested in going out to dinner one night. Tell her you haven't stopped thinking about her since you saw her. WE LOVE THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That's why most girls love chick flicks and love stories. The guys are always saying the right thing, always doing the craziest things to win the girl. Use your imagination. But don't wait too long. You might regret it for the rest of your life!!! Who knows, she could be THE ONE!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Finn Posted June 20, 2005 Report Share Posted June 20, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice [ QUOTE ] DO NOT LISTEN TO FINN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [/ QUOTE ] Man, don't buy that line...she's on the other team! Remember, you don't listen to deer for deer hunting advice, you ask hunters! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted June 20, 2005 Report Share Posted June 20, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] DO NOT LISTEN TO FINN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [/ QUOTE ] Man, don't buy that line...she's on the other team! Remember, you don't listen to deer for deer hunting advice, you ask hunters! [/ QUOTE ] Honey, you just haven't found the right woman. Bad experience maybe????? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
markyj987 Posted June 22, 2005 Author Report Share Posted June 22, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice Well, here's the update for anyone who's interested. We talked on the phone and she is indeed funny, sweet, and seems pretty intelligent--but there is one thing that I think is totally unacceptable: she smokes marijuana. To me, that's an automatic disqualifier even if everything else about her is great...lol No sleep lost here...even if she does like fishing...lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted June 22, 2005 Report Share Posted June 22, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice Good you found that out Mark. Guess I missed something with your old girlfriend. Thought not too long back you were engaged to a girl who had a kid? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
markyj987 Posted June 22, 2005 Author Report Share Posted June 22, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice William, that ended back in September and had been rocky the whole year (at least) before that. It had nothing to do with the daughter, but with her. She went through some rough times earlier in life and was still suffering the consequences of some poor decisions. Though I know she loved (and still loves) me very much, I could not be with someone who didn't want to take the initiative to improve their situation. Marriage to her for me was also out of the question now that I realize it...it would've been meaningless considering she wanted nothing to do with a Christian wedding. I'm not blameless that it didn't work out--don't get me wrong--but still felt I deserved something better than that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RangerClay Posted June 22, 2005 Report Share Posted June 22, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice Take a small piece of advice from a guy who has a birthday on friday too and will be turning 40. The ones that I never got the courage to go after still linger in the back of my mind. "What might have been" is a terrible thing. GO GET HER NOW! Ranger Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Finn Posted June 22, 2005 Report Share Posted June 22, 2005 Re: Great weekend...also looking for advice [ QUOTE ] but there is one thing that I think is totally unacceptable: she smokes marijuana. [/ QUOTE ] Good call. Keep at it. There's alot of great women out there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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