PARENTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Guest goose21]

Alright so its saturday night and me and my friends all go out to see the 40 yr old virgin

so we get done with the movie and we go get something to eat then we go to my friends house and start to watch another movie around 10:30

now i usually have a curfew of around 11:00 (keep in mind im only 15)

so i call my house and my dad answeres and i ask if i can get a ride home from someone elses parents at midnight when the movie is over

that way they dont have to stay up and i will have a safe ride home

so my dad starts to gripe and goes uh no u cant curfew is 11 ill be there in a little bit to pick u up

so i hung up and everyone else called to see if it would be cool if they could stay out and it was ok with their parents which sucked for me cause i was the kid that had to leave during the middle of the movie

so my friend says that he can give me a ride home at midnight and i say i cant cause my dad wont let me

now u have to know my dad but he is a little bit of a control freak

my sister is twelve and can stay out till whenever she feels like but god forbid i stay out for an extra hour

so my dad gets there and he asks if everyone else is staying till twelve and i say yes as a last ditch effort to stay but he just gets in the truck and we drive off

yes my dad is a control freak which is why i do all my hunting with my 26 yr old uncle who would rather pick me up at twelve because he knows im having a good time

and my aunt asked me one day they were going to pick me up from a party cause i was going hunting with my uncle the next day if they could pick me up at one in the morning and i said that the party ended at twelve so she would have liked to pick me up later

but they are cool like that cause they are young enough to understand what i am going through with my parents mainly my dad

so i guess this whole story is about how i didnt have a very good night

sry if this is a waste of time for yall

ive just had a bad day

[joebobhunter4]

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haha its alright sometimes parents r like that im 14...

sept my parents are kinda lienient on stuff like that sept i usually dun get a ride home and i tried walkin home from the country 15 miles out town

haha wasnt a good idea ill tell ya that much...

jus appreciate that your parents care about you because some kids would love for parents like yours

[Nut]

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Some parents are over protective of their children because they love them so much. It is hard for me sometimes to allow my 2 youngest sons(they are 15 and 13) some freedoms. But following curfews is one rule they must follow for me also.

It is hard being a parent and also difficult to be a son.(I'm both and very experienced ) The best thing you both can do is to keep talking with each other.

I think your post is a good way to vent how you are upset. It also shows me you are also maturing very well.

[JoshM]

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My Dad isnt like that...But my mom is....She is way to over protective!

[The_Kat]

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Buddy,

I know how you feel. My mom was so over protective that I NEVER got to go to a friends to spend the night, or EVEN hang out for a little bit until I was in the 7th grade! I am talking not once in my life til I was in the 7th grade and 13 yrs old.

Don't take it personal, I learned not too. Your dad loves you to death, but a rule is a rule. Or it is in my house at least. At 15, 11 is a pretty good curfew. I know several boys and girls that aren't much younger than me that have to be in at 11 or 12 and they are 17/18.

It'll get better in time. Your at the age where life isn't fair. You'll grow outta that. Trust me like nut said, we've all been through what you are going through, or we will. It seems like my parents and I fought the most when I was 14-16.

But remember they are your parents. Love them no matter what!

[sureshot]

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I am overprotectiev of my 2 girls age 9 and 14, but they understand why,if I say 11 oclock and they are one second late they will not be going out again for some time, they also know not to call back and ask! You want to know why I am that way, am I a controal freek?no I do it couse I was a kid not long ago and knows what goes on inside of the heads of kids,also I remember many night when my brother pulled crap not callign and us staying up all night and what my mother went through worring! plus I will tell you know kids learnign resposability and respect at a young age will be well worht the few nights they did not get to stay out with there buddies in the long run, I have no doubt the way i am raisign my girls that they will grow up to be respectable adults, it is tough on the parents sometimes but all you have to rememebr is everythign we do is for your future and some day you will realize we are not controal freeks and mean!I see it in the kids that work out at our shop, the ones that had soem disaline and order in there life are the ones who show up at work and are not scared to work, the ones that coudl run all over there parents and do what they want are the ones with no respect and will be late for work and slack off!!

I am not runnign you down goose I am jsut tryign to get the point of the parent across a bit,we do it for your future and trust us most of the things parents do is harder on us than you,it hurts us bad to hurt your feeligns but there is a reason behind the madness,you will find it someday!!

[Guest bexar_county89]

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I'm sorry about you having to go home early that sucks. Parents just try and do the best they can. I remember my mom telling me that she wished I came with a manuel I think that holds true with almost all parents. If you learn to accept your parents now, then you won't have to fight with them (much) later.

[HuntingInMaine]

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My mom was WAY worse than your dad! LOL Until I was 18, I had to be in the house by 10 pm, no exceptions. I hated it the entire time, all my friends got to stay out, but I had to leave....really rotted.

And now I am a mother, and guess what? I thank her every day for being so strict! She didn't want to control me, she wanted to protect me from all the trouble that comes when you are out late at night. (and she did...I am old enough now to admit I would have been in more than my fair share of trouble! LOL)

And yes, I plan on making my own sons just as miserable as I was! It's not a control thing, it's a love thing.... I remember well what it is like to be a teen...all the more reason to keep them home! LOL

[The_Kat]

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I disagree with ya huntinginmaine. I think a kid should get more freedoms the older they get. Being 17 and being forced to be home at 10PM is just nuts in my opinion. Your kids will miss outon so much of the high school experience. I remember the kid who always had to go home early. they were the social outcasts. Not bad kids, just never got to do anything. I agree with you loving and protecting your children, but parents in general have to learn to let go a little at a time. otherwise you shelter them so much that they can't cope when they get in the real world.

[xtremehunter45]

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Dang!! all of those stories suck!

[MichiganHuntr1]

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I agree with Kyle 100%

Dont be a control freak with your kids, well, at least when they start reaching teenage years. The kids that were told to be home really early were the outcasts. And I felt bad for them.

By the way, if you shelter your kids for too long, they wont know life when you CANNOT shelter them anymore. Let them get the feel for things when they are teens,

Too much control, or "love" is not good, because it doesnt even give your kids a social life.

My cousins are controlled like Linda was, and they hate it. Their mom loves them, but they cant be out at 9, and this mom is nuts. You have to let your kids experience things when theyre young.

They will break away if you hold them too close for too long. Trust me, I know all about it. But I honestly dont want to talk about it.

And you know what linda, some trouble isnt that bad. It lets kids learn whats right and whats wrong.

If kids grow up sheltered, their social life is never too good.

My social life is great, but thats because I got sick of my moms sheltering life at 15 and moved with my dad. My mom wouldnt let me do a thing, and when she did, i had to be back at 8!

These kind, not meant to offend anyone words come courtesy of MichiganHuntr1, have a good day.

[HuntingInMaine]

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I'm not saying my kids won't be allowed to go out. But, I will not tell them that once they reach a certain age, they can stay out until say 11pm. It will be based on how they behave. If one boy is 15 and well behaved, I will allow him to stay out later than his older brother who can't stay out of trouble. We live in an area where there is little to do during the early hours and even less when it gets late. The kids in our area that stay out late are the same ones that are drinking, breaking into people's homes and stealing cars.

If not allowing my kids to be like this makes me over protective, then so be it. I already have one son who told me he can't wait until he gets his license so he can fly down our road, lock them up, and swing it around so he can fly back down the other way. This worries me, more than you can ever know...there were three empty seats at my graduation, each person died in different accidents, late at night.

And I am not so stupid as to think they won't figure out how to get around a curfew (I did! LOL) I just don't see how letting them stay out late readies them for the 'real world'. They both play sports and are involved in school groups, they have lots of friends, and are well socialized.

Before I was a parent, I would have agreed with you all....but everything changes when they place that little bundle in your arms. I don't expect you to understand this right now, it's something you have to experience for yourself!

[Guest chicks_hunt_to]

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i think u ant stay out as late as your sister because she might be a little more matuer thatn you no offence or anything i can only be out till 9 on school nights and then 11 on weekends

[Guest Canadian_Chic]

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i don't have curfew, but my parents still need to know who, what, where, when, why. but with sum of the people i hang with i can't blame them, and i don't mind telling them, its keeps the trust going.

CC

[spyderpancake]

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I really don't have a curfew either, but my mom makes sure she knows where i am ALL THE TIME!lol

[hogwild63]

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You have to let your kids experience things when theyre young.

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Hind site is 20/20. Dang, if I had it to do all over again, screw experiencing things... the consequences are costing me more now than when I "experienced" them (rollingmyeyes).

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and this mom is nuts.

[/ QUOTE ] Be careful about calling adults "nuts"... you become like them. I used to hate when my dad said, "ok, do what you want. Dad does not know anything. He's lived his whole life and did not learn anything". (I knew he was right, but I hated it). Now I have to refrain from saying the same thing.

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Too much control, or "love" is not good, because it doesnt even give your kids a social life.

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My high school social life has got me squat over the years. No one cares after you leave high school how popular you were or were not. When it comes to getting a job and providing for your family, your employer doesn't give a squat about your high school social life. Many of the geeks and social outcasts I knew from high school are making WAY more money than I am and do not pass up an opportunity to let me know about it. They learned discipline. I learned how to goof off. They excelled; I was average ...but popular (but that depended on who you asked).

You know what is funny, alot of guys that talk about not wanting to be controlled, ended up joining the military

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And you know what linda, some trouble isnt that bad. It lets kids learn whats right and whats wrong

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YOU ALREADY KNOW WHAT IS RIGHT AND WHAT IS WRONG, COME ON! I am a probation officer, some trouble is usually ...bad. It follows you like luggage. I have 18 year old people on my caseload for "some trouble" and they get offended when I... have to "do my job" and say, "it's not like I am a criminal". I usually respond, "So, when I order your criminal history (RAP sheet), it'll be blank, right?"

As a parent, I know that no matter what I do, my kids will find trouble, rebel and pay the consequences. My job is to help them minimize the consequences.

"Oh, youth is wasted on the wrong people." - from the movie "It's a Wonderful life".