huntinsonovagun Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 OK....there's this girl at work, who is VERY attractive. I liked her, and was going to ask her out (about a month ago) and then found out she likes going to the club, drinks occasionally, etc... Now, she is working at a casino. These are all things I have been raised up against. Anyway, her last day at work, she leaves her number on my truck. When she was around me all day, I could tell she wanted something....she was acting nervous. I know the feeling....I've been there before. Anyway, I called her, to try to explain that I don't feel like a lasting relationship would ever come of us. I usually don't date girls if I KNOW that a relationship won't last...if I know, what's the point in dating? Anyway, we talked for a little while and I explained that I usually won't date girls that I know won't last, but I didn't specifically say anything about her. She had to get off the phone and said she'd call me back tomorrow (I called her on Sunday night). Well, here it is Thrusday, and I pretty much forgot about her....she never called, so I figured she got the hint. Don't get me wrong, I really like her, but I don't think it would last! So today, she comes in to work and talks to me a little and says she lost my number. She gives me hers again and says to call her. Also says she's not doing anything on Saturday night. Now....I don't know what to do! I don't know if I should take her out and try to explain what I'm looking for in a girl, or tell her over the phone. I don't want to lead her on, but at the same time it may be good for her to see want I am looking for in a girl and she'll know that she's not what I'm looking for. I know SO many guys that would love to be with her, even if it's a one-night thing. I'm just not that kind of guy. I want to find the right girl and fall in love.........but not till hunting season's over..... Tell me what you would do (everyone except JB...I know your answer) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reloader Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? You can try the "we can get together as friends" concept over the phone. If she is interested in a friendship then great. Friendship can work out as long as she doesn't expect you to do the things she does. Eventualy by your example she may start to change. But if you find yourself wanting to change for her...RUN LIKE MAD! I would not sugest dating someone who differs that much from your own core values. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? Take her out for dinner and talk. Your not giving her a chance to get to know you and your not giving yourself a chance to get to know her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RyanH Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? LOL Ryan I have talked to you about this! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tedicast Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? Dude, just go, out have fun. Maybe she is the one for you. Maybe she isn't. either way, what have you got to lose?...nothing. Sometimes opposites attract. A single date doesn't mean a life long commitment. just go out and enjoy yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? give it a chance. listen to buckee. you may have pre judged her. maybe she is a nice gal, who wants to settle down, but no one wants anything but a 1 night stand. talk with her. and get back with us. good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
captkb44 Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? I agree with buckee. You never know until you try. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
markyj987 Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? Well, if you think that working in a casino, going to clubs, or drinking occasionally are immoral--then I'd say to stay away. Why lead her on if you think she has no potential? Looking at it in "black and white" that's what I'd say. But...love and life are full of many grays. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TheNumber1Young1 Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? Dude, so what if she works at a casino, it doesnt matter where you work....Your not even giving her a chance, give her a chance go on a date, have fun, and tell her you like her, when ya'll get married you can thank all of us at realtree Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hoyt03 Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? dude if your single its a no brainer. hang out with her see what happens. Just because she occasionaly goes to the club to dance and have a drink and tries to make a living in the casino shouldnt be a reason to not give her a shot. Take her out see what happens. Man to only be single again Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DSGB Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? [ QUOTE ] Take her out for dinner and talk. Your not giving her a chance to get to know you and your not giving yourself a chance to get to know her. [/ QUOTE ] Couldn't have said it any better. Take her out and find out what kind of person she is. Maybe she just goes out because her friends like to. Maybe she doesn't really like that sort of thing and you could be her reason to not drink and party with them. You never know until you give her a chance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swamphunter Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? [ QUOTE ] I usually don't date girls if I KNOW that a relationship won't last...if I know, what's the point in dating? [/ QUOTE ] I married this girl...we have now been together for 12 years. She is the most giving, caring, loving mother and wife I could ever ask for. Started off as a date I did not think would ever amount to anything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
double_drop Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? I would give it a try and see what happens. Never know it could work out have to give most things a chance. Live and learn. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chrud Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? I'd go out with her. Maybe it something that would work out, who knows. You've got nothing to lose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dg Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? Give it a try, but be careful since y'all work together. That could be damaging if there is personal troubles at work. And if after one night out you still feel the same, BE DIRECT AND HONEST and don't let it linger on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
huntinsonovagun Posted November 4, 2005 Author Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? We don't work together anymore. She just quit this week. I just don't want to lead her on.... Another thing is when I'm 'with' a girl, I will try to make something work. I guess it's sorta like everyone likes the security of having someone by their side. Anyway, I guess I'll give her a call and try to go hang out next week...Thanks fellas.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
billkay Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? I would be more interested in a scond date while on the first rather than considering a long term relationship. One step at a time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ultratec1 Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? *DELETED* GIVE IT A SHOT what do you gotta lose? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? I have no idea how old you are............but if you are younger than 25.....................DATE AROUND!!!! I wouldn't even consider getting serious with anyone at your age. Just be up front with her. Tell her that she and you can go out but that going to clubs and drinking isn't your style and you want her to know that before you start dating. That way she will know what to expect and what not to expect from you. If she doesn't like that.........she'll move on. Start out as friends first anyway. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Then after a while, if you find that she's not the "alcoholic party-girl" you thought she was......then try that next step!!! Good luck. I applaud you for sticking to your morals. Hope my boys are the same way when they grow up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HuntingInMaine Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? [ QUOTE ] ............but if you are younger than 25.....................DATE AROUND!!!! [/ QUOTE ] I'll second that recommendation! Don't be in such a hurry to settle down....it took me a long time to find the 'one'! I wouldn't be put off that she works in a casino. My brother runs a resturant at the Taj Mahal and while he was never a big drinker, after seeing how it affects their customers, he doesn't drink at all. And watching everyone else lose their money, the gambling isn't much of a temptation either. lol I would make sure that she knows you are going out as friends and see what happens from there... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dartonman Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? Take her out to dinner, and keep an open mind for goodness sakes....who knows, her dad might own the 1000 acres that hasnt been hunted since great grampa was alive...lol.......give her a chance, people change.......al Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? Sounds to me kind of like shes playing with you bud. Some girls seem to like playing games. If you want to take her out and talk with her go for it. If she is not the girl for you and you dont think you would have fun, dont waste your time, just tell her over the phone your not interested. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AJ Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? You are way too young to be worried about if you will marry this girl. Go out, have a good time, enjoy the ride. Open your mind and you may find out she is a nice person that you would like to be with. Don't force the falling in love. When it happens it happens. Making it happen is kidding yourself. Just like buying a new vehicle, test drive as many as possible to see what's available. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Griz Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? Take her out... Who knows...She may like to hunt to. You never know... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NY911Bowhunter Posted November 4, 2005 Report Share Posted November 4, 2005 Re: What would YOU do about this girl?? [ QUOTE ] LOL Ryan I have talked to you about this [/ QUOTE ] But for the love of God - don't take his advice!!! Trust me - I've seen pictures!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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