Guest Andrea Posted April 5, 2006 Report Share Posted April 5, 2006 Here's something I have thought about for a long time. For me personally, I could never donate eggs. The thought of my child/children out there somewhere whom I would never meet or know.......is just not something I would want to deal with. But there are so many couples out there that been trying for years, only to find success in the donation of sperm or eggs. I told my sister once that if she could not carry a child to term, that I would gladly carry it for her. As long as the child was biologically hers. I'd just be the "oven" so to speak. What's everyone's thoughts on this?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted April 5, 2006 Report Share Posted April 5, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations I gotta be honest here. I have mixed thoughts on this. On one hand it is a wonderful gift that someone could give to couples who cannot seem to have a baby on their own, and on the other hand, there are so many babies up for adoption that need good homes, and so many babies being aborted instead of adopted. I'm not condemning it, I just have very mixed feelings about it. It almost seems selfish in a way, considering all the babies up for adoption. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TreeStandBowHunter Posted April 5, 2006 Report Share Posted April 5, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations Just the thought of how men donate sperm blows my mind Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted April 5, 2006 Report Share Posted April 5, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations I know that there are a lot of children that need adopting but the hoops you have to jump through and the microscope they put you under is pretty meticulous, nevermind the cost of adopting a child. (It's cheaper to go thru in-vitro than to adopt.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations when i was 16, all i thought about was being a sperm donor. but, i grew up. don't want any "mini-me's" out there. my kids are just that, my kids Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shaun_300 Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations LOL @ TSBH... I don't think I could ever donate sperm. It just wouldn't feel right. Sure it would be great to provide someone who cannot have children the miracle of life, but I could not imagine having one of my own children out there and not even knowing them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doughboy1956 Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations [ QUOTE ] LOL @ TSBH... I don't think I could ever donate sperm. It just wouldn't feel right. Sure it would be great to provide someone who cannot have children the miracle of life, but I could not imagine having one of my own children out there and not even knowing them. [/ QUOTE ] Amen to that. Same here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations Have to agree with the others. Just dont think it would feel quite right. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations [ QUOTE ] when i was 16, all i thought about was being a sperm donor. but, i grew up. don't want any "mini-me's" out there. my kids are just that, my kids [/ QUOTE ] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leatherneck Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations Well I have never been a sperm donor, but I have had to go do the fertility test thing. Let me tell you boys, it aint no fun. Everyone there knows what you are going to do when you walk out of the waiting room with that little cup in your hand. On of the strangest things I have ever had to do, and I have done some strange stuff. LOL!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muggs Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations I've never donated sperm, and I still probably have some illigetament children running around somewhere, so what's a few more, I'd do it...plus I'd get paid Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LifeNRA Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations I think when a girl is born, she has over 300,000 eggs in her ovaries. By the time she is ready for child bearing, she only has about 300 left. Big difference in numbers! Most parents now of days have 1-3 children. So what about the other 297 possible eggs? Sure test will have to be stringent. But giving the possibility of helping out somebody that wants a baby to grow in her own body! I would not have any objections to it! The DNA from the donors would not change, which is something they would have to consider and research. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldksnarc Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations I have problems with the donating concept and not never being able to know what happened to them or who they had become. There are a lot of children looking for homes - and yes it does cost a lot. But, I hope that's because of the application process to assure they get to good people/homes. However, I don't have a problem with Huntin Girl's second part. She's not donating the egg or allowing someone else to donate the sperm for her sister egg. She's simply donating the oven for her sister and sister's husband's recipe. It would mean a lot more to have a chidl of your own rather than adopting someone else's. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TreeStandBowHunter Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations Going back to sperm donation....when I had the doc "Snip me" a few years back, I had to take a sperm sample in about a month or so afterward. Now I don't get embarrased very easy but the most embarassing time in my life was when I handed them my little see-through cup with my sperm in it. The brown bag I had for it ripped when the bottom got wet due to me spilling water on it so I had nothing to cover the bottle with. And you know the pervert on the other side of the counter is thinking "Gee, I wonder what he did to get it in that bottle". Now when you go to the sperm bank, people know what your doing in there. So therefore...naaaa, I will never donate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VtBowhunter Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations I think it's great that folks do donate, but I couldn't. What happens if my daughter or one of my sons starts dating one of their "unknown" siblings? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ParrotHead2005 Posted April 7, 2006 Report Share Posted April 7, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations We had two ladies and there husbands who could not get pregnant. So they went to Russia and adopted. IT was 25,000 for each. I told them I was happy for them but all that is, is a baby selling market. It's sad the stories they told about how it was over there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted April 7, 2006 Report Share Posted April 7, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations [ QUOTE ] I think it's great that folks do donate, but I couldn't. What happens if my daughter or one of my sons starts dating one of their "unknown" siblings? [/ QUOTE ] Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwww...........you know I think that has actually happened. Saw it on 20/20 one time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted April 7, 2006 Report Share Posted April 7, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations In your situation, I could certainly understand. That is an awesome gift to give to a loving husband/wife who would be good parents who unfortunately are not able. However giving to an unknown person, would just seem too weird to me to have my offspring out there and not knowing them or anything about them. I would always be kind of curious about who they are, just wouldnt want to have to deal with that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeramie Posted April 7, 2006 Report Share Posted April 7, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] I think it's great that folks do donate, but I couldn't. What happens if my daughter or one of my sons starts dating one of their "unknown" siblings? [/ QUOTE ] Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwww...........you know I think that has actually happened. Saw it on 20/20 one time. [/ QUOTE ] When I was a kid (around 14) Unsolved Mysteries was shooting across the road from my house. A family had busted up because the dad was a drunk and the mom eventually killed herself. There was a total of 6-7 kids. They all went to child services. They shipped all of the kids to the same area and they were all addopted by different families. One of the daughters dated her brother for a while and they even talked marriage until they got into stories of finding the rest of their families. I met both of them, true story. I got to hang out on set the whole time and they paid me for local advice on locations of different stuff. I also got to help with the cameras and such. Anyway, both admitted they had dated for a while before they found out they were siblings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leatherneck Posted April 7, 2006 Report Share Posted April 7, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations Im your sister, I'm your sister, I'm your sister!! LOL Sorry, Joe Dirt flashback hehehe!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnf Posted April 7, 2006 Report Share Posted April 7, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations [ QUOTE ] Im your sister, I'm your sister, I'm your sister!! LOL Sorry, Joe Dirt flashback hehehe!!! [/ QUOTE ] That is just so wrong. I thought about the same thing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest longknife Posted April 8, 2006 Report Share Posted April 8, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations Wow i believe i will leave this one alone.But i do agree with ya'll. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ParrotHead Posted April 12, 2006 Report Share Posted April 12, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations Now wait a second – you wouldn’t donate because you wouldn’t know the child BUT you would carry your sisters and gladly give it up to here after the birth? I’m not so sure you could actually do this, being a parent myself I will go on the record that the greatest thing I’ve experienced in my life is the birth of my child. As someone once told me, you will never know the true meaning of un-dying love until you’ve had a child and that folks is the honest truth. For someone to say that they would give birth to a child and then give it up well….is someone that I would say hasn’t experienced giving birth to your child. I don’t care who the father is or how you got pregnant, you still carry that child and you give birth to it – it’s as much a part of you as you are a part of it. As for donating – hey, what some guy does for his Saturday night kicks is his own business and who am I to judge him? Just know that I’m all for the old fashion way of doing things – especially on this subject. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted April 13, 2006 Report Share Posted April 13, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations [ QUOTE ] Now wait a second – you wouldn’t donate because you wouldn’t know the child BUT you would carry your sisters and gladly give it up to here after the birth? I’m not so sure you could actually do this, being a parent myself I will go on the record that the greatest thing I’ve experienced in my life is the birth of my child. As someone once told me, you will never know the true meaning of un-dying love until you’ve had a child and that folks is the honest truth. For someone to say that they would give birth to a child and then give it up well….is someone that I would say hasn’t experienced giving birth to your child. I don’t care who the father is or how you got pregnant, you still carry that child and you give birth to it – it’s as much a part of you as you are a part of it. As for donating – hey, what some guy does for his Saturday night kicks is his own business and who am I to judge him? Just know that I’m all for the old fashion way of doing things – especially on this subject. [/ QUOTE ] Why would I have a problem carrying my sister's baby if it is not biologically mine....but HERS and her husband's?????????????? I have already given birth, thankyou, to my OWN 2 children. If my sister needed my help in that way, I would not hesitate at all. I would just be the carrier. And I would continue to know her child all his or her life. Please don't tell me what you think I could or couldn't do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted April 13, 2006 Report Share Posted April 13, 2006 Re: Sperm/egg Donations Like I said before under the circumstances you are in, it is easy for me to understand why you would consider. You know your sister and you know probably really well, better than anyone else whether or not the child would be cared for like it should. An awesome gift on your part to be the carrier. On the flipside, my sister and brother in law have been tring for a long time to have kids. I hate to say it, but in my honest opinion I just dont think they need to have kids, at least not right now. They are very loving, and good with kids for the most part, but are just not at all responsible, and it is quite scarey the thought of them having to deal with raising a child. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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