Muff Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Do you ever get down and just have a hard time coming back to your self......Long story short,I had a rotten weekend with my girls....they were and still are a bit sick....they just are not right......very cry baby like and just all around not happy....my wife was away for 2 days and they drove me NUTS...now she is back but the girls are still not right and I am really feeling bad for them.....I LOVE them to death but I find myself not wanting to be around them right now and that is really making me feel bad about myself!!!!!!!!! do any of you ever feel like you just need a break from the ones you love or am I losing my mind? I feel so bad for feeling this way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BowtechTurkeyHunter Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... Its ok to take a break from the ones you love ... sick little ones are no fun to be around all the time but just remember that it isnt always like this they get better and trust me they appreciate you being there for them when they were sick ... its all good they know you love em and you know you love em ... thats really all that matters in the end ... nobody said raising kids was easy ... but I wouldnt trade it for the world ... no way now how. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Exturkinator Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... Muff - I know what you are saying - I have a beautiful bride and two precious little girls (3 years and 1 year) and I know what you're saying about having a "slump" - but the best thing about is that slumps are temporary, and God will give you the strength to persevere through this... Hang in there man, David Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... YES. YES. YES. I remember you saying you were having teeth pulled? Wife outta town ? And sick girls?? I believe you need a "Dad's weekend" off. Go fishing, go camping, go somewhere........sans kids. I had to spend the entire spring break with my boys and thought I was gonna need to start drinking. Yeah, I love them to death, but enough was enough. Ya know??? Besides, I think your wife owes you this one buddy. Big time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jbeck Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... Man am I with you, I'm headed on a fishing weekend Fri. Sat. Sun., I haven't been on Vacation since Nov. 2 years ago. I love my wife and Carlee, but I'm ready to be with the guys. Moms are usually much more patient then dads when it comes to the little ones, so don't beat yourself up. Carlee just has been miserable this week, time change as well as a cold, I must admit I enjoy the quiet time of work. LOL Never thought I'd say that. All I can say is the girls can wear ya down quick. Good Luck My friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
007hunter Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... Yep, I know what you mean, cept I don't got kids. There are times when I just want to be alone. Sounds like you need some time by yourself! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... yep. everyone reaches a boiling point. hg's boys day out seems in line... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ohiobucks Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... I have a golf weekend planned for April 27-30, let's just say I am looking forward to it for sure..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VermontHunter Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... NO kids here, but definately know where you are coming from.... it's called burn-out my friend,,, nothing a little alone time won't cure... It's totally normal, so don't get down on yourself... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doughboy1956 Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... We all go through that. I have 2, with kids of their own now. Love my grand kids but need a break from them sometimes. So it will not end with just your kids. Its normal and we love them dearly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RyanH Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... Yup I have been down for the last 6 months of my life! Got fired! I might have a Job at Fed Ex and hopefully things get better! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... I think you just need a well deserved break. There is nothing wrong with stepping away for a bit to clear your head and get things back into perspective. And don't feel guilty..eh Besides, I think your wife owes you some RNR too A fishing trip sounds great. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AaronS Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... [ QUOTE ] do any of you ever feel like you just need a break from the ones you love or am I losing my mind? [/ QUOTE ] Oh yeah. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... Ummmmmmmmmmmmm Yeah, Every year. Hits right around mid July when I'm stuck at home alone with all 4 of my kids. lol. It's getting better as they get older because they can take care of themselves now, but back when they were in diapers and couldn't reach things, couldn't get food for themselves, etc., it was a bear. I used to crave adult interaction. I love getting back to work in August. I actually talked to my priest about it because I was feeling pretty bad about it like yourself. He said he's had other dads with the same feelings and his guess was that men aren't naturally predisposed to taking care of kids. In some ways I agree with that, because like you, I love my kids to death, but when they're constantly around me, following me, bugging me, fighting, etc, it gets old really quick. I've even made rules in my house in the summer time like the "Hey Dad" rule. After lunch time, nobody's allowed to say "hey dad." Hang in there bud. It really does get better when they get older, and then you actually start to miss their dependence. Life is cruel that way I guess. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TreeStandBowHunter Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... Rule # 1, Never, ever allow your wife to leave when the kids are sick. Now to your question, if you would follow rule # 1, you wouldn't have a problem now would you? Go backpacking or something. Sure sounds like you deserve it. Make her the slave for the next 2 days Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muff Posted April 6, 2006 Author Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... thanks to all for the kind words.....It has made me feel like I am not alone and that I am not a bad DADDY.....A trip just is not in the cards right now but I hope that golf season starts soon.....maybe I can get away for a round. I have the girls again today....its nice outside so I hope to get them out of the house....maybe that will help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Finn Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... Yep, I get that feeling all the time. Just never let it bother me for more than a couple seconds. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NYBUCK Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... Muff it happens. I have four children, all one year apart. They are all grown now, but back in the day my wife worked Saturdays and I had them all day. I wanted to go nuts and really felt the same way as you sometimes. We were lucky, my wifes mother watched them while she worked and I went to college. Yeah we started young, 4 kids by the time I was 22. Anyway, I appreciate how our mother-n-law helped us out through those years, I probally would have gone nuts. Hang in there. It gets better. The older they get the more self sufficient they get and it is so worth it. Plus sometimes we need this to see what our other halves go through when we are not around. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RangerClay Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... I hear you Muff and I have felt that way several times. I still am sticking to my guns that the Mrs. should not have left you alone with the sick kids. Now that she is back she needs to step up to the plate and help out more. Maybe she can take a day off from work to give you a break so you can go fishing or better yet come down here and visit me and I will take you fishing Ranger Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted April 6, 2006 Report Share Posted April 6, 2006 Re: ever get down....... I get down at different times every year. Sometimes on fathers day, and then sometimes around the time that my father died. I dont think under the circumstances as they were there would be any way in this world that my wife would have wanted to be away from the kids, nor under those circumstances would she have felt right about leaving me home with them by myself. Have three girls 10 years old, 4 years old and 5 months old. The 10 year old and 4 year old usually fight constantly, I am home with them now, it does get pretty frustrating at times for sure and I need a break, the wife usually does not haveany problems with me slipping away to hunt or go for walks on my own and it does help. Everyone needs a break now and then. Even if it is just a couple hours away to go hunting or golfing or whatever. Sometimes I need a break away from the kids, but guess it is kind of ironic in a sense that the kids are what always bring me back up when I do get down. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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