tennswamper Posted April 27, 2006 Report Share Posted April 27, 2006 I just need to vent a little here. I have been dating a girl for almost 2 years. We are planning on getting married next summer. She had done well for herself, being a teacher and all and is a very, very good person. However, in the 2 years we've been dating, I've never once met her father. He left them about 8 years ago. She was around 17 when it happened. It started sooner than that but that is when they finally had to leave the house because he wouldn't. Anyway, he has had nothing to do with them since, NONE!!!!!!!!!! He is 10's of 1000's of $$$ behind on child support (don't have to pay now of course for her but her sister is still in college) and even spent all of her and her sister's inheritance from her grandfather, that was in a trust fund for them. Lucily, a lean on his house forced him to pay it back when he sold it. Smart move on her mother's part. Now, I don't know the hole story but I know the last straw was him cheating on her mother, who happens to be one of the nicest people I have ever met. This family is one in a million, same for her grandparents and her stepfather is 100% real and as good as it gets. I just don't understand people like her father. I can see the hurt in her eyes when she talks about him. Her sister is getting married saturday and sadly, her father, who was a great dad according to them til 8 years ago, probably won't show up and frankly, they don't want him there. I've been put in charge of escorting him out if he does. How can anyone do this to their kids???????????????? Sorry, I just can't understand it. I don't have any kids yet but 26 years of having great parents just blinds me to reality on this matter I guess. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BowJoe Posted April 27, 2006 Report Share Posted April 27, 2006 Re: Deadbeat Dads!!!!!!!! I've been married to a woman for 3 yrs and I have never met he father. He left when she was a little girl and she hasn't seen him in about 6 yrs. It's not always a bad thing to have the father out of their lives. Sometimes it helps them to see how a real Dad should be and it sounds like she has one. There is a major difference in my eyes of a Father and a Dad. A father is someone whom you are biologically from and a dad is somebody that should have been your father or really is your father. I have a deadbeat father and in all truth, it should have been my Uncle Darryl as my dad instead. Growing up without a dad is no fun and I can't help but feel like I missed out on a lot of things in life. Most of what I miss are the times other friends have had fishing or hunting or just being a kid with their dad. It sucks but it's just a part of life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MCH Posted April 27, 2006 Report Share Posted April 27, 2006 Re: Deadbeat Dads!!!!!!!! Last time I saw my dad I was two years old. He never paid child support, never offered to visit me or my sister. I always thought that one day I would understand why he left. I just figured he must've had a good reason and I just couldn't see it. Well, on January 22, 2003, all that thinking went out the window. That was the day my son was born. As soon as I laid eyes on him, I knew that I would always be a part of his life. I realize now that he's not a "deadbeat" dad. He's just a plain deadbeat. He wasn't cut out to be a father so why call him a "dad"?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted April 27, 2006 Report Share Posted April 27, 2006 Re: Deadbeat Dads!!!!!!!! I've never understood that either. I see it all the time here in the public schools. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tennswamper Posted April 27, 2006 Author Report Share Posted April 27, 2006 Re: Deadbeat Dads!!!!!!!! True MCH. Guys, I'm sorry if I brought up any bad feelings on this subject. That was not my intention at all. What gets me is the fact that they say he was a great dad until then. Always around, spending time with them. He had a great job, ect. Heck, he even took my girlfriend hunting with him all the time. I have wondered what I would do or say if I ever met him. I hope he's nice or it could get ugly, fast! I have no respect for those like him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted April 27, 2006 Report Share Posted April 27, 2006 Re: Deadbeat Dads!!!!!!!! Sure dont understand it. The way some people are just makes not sense to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reloader Posted April 27, 2006 Report Share Posted April 27, 2006 Re: Deadbeat Dads!!!!!!!! Makes no sense to me either...see it all the time though. My wife worked in a school In VA Beach that had a single parent family rate of over 70%! (Corporate Landing Middle right by NAS Oceana for those of you in that area...) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Texan_Til_I_Die Posted April 27, 2006 Report Share Posted April 27, 2006 Re: Deadbeat Dads!!!!!!!! [ QUOTE ] What gets me is the fact that they say he was a great dad until then. Always around, spending time with them. He had a great job, ect. Heck, he even took my girlfriend hunting with him all the time. [/ QUOTE ] When I hear something like that, I usually suspect some type of addiction. Drugs, alcohol, gambling, womanizing, etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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