Apology!


RyanH

Recommended Posts

Re: Apology!

I understand where people are so quick to forgive. Honestly I can let this slide but not without expressing that people did have a loss in this. You can call it what you will but in the end people put a lot of emotional value in this accident.

The truth is this forum is close enough people put emotional value in a lot of post, otherwise asking for prayer would be pointless. Everyone reached out to help Ryan and was then dropped like a hot rock. Their trust (including mine) was betrayed.

IMHO I dont see where people are wrong for expressing that. If people were posting that Ryan would be an enemy for life that would be one thing but conveying their distaste for his actions is helpful all the way around. You get the pressure off your chest and hopefully Ryan takes the gravity of his actions seriously. Folks there is a gravity to this. There are people up north that extended themselves and did so in vane. There are others that spent emotion and time on the subject to find out it was a lie.

There is a lesson to be learned here and everyone wants to be sure he gets it. Most are doing that by telling them exactly the effects it had on them. Dont confuse that with Bashing him for the heck of it. That isnt at all whats going on.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • Replies 76
  • Created
  • Last Reply

Top Posters In This Topic

Top Posters In This Topic

Re: Apology!

Wow,I wasn't expecting this at all.When I heard your story Ryan I was concerned for your family.I had a similiar incedent that actually happened to me and I kinda relived the feelings I had that day.That was about as bad of a lie someone could tell,especially considering all the thoughtfull people associated with these forums.That being said,I know it was wrong,you know it was wrong,and everybody else on these forums know it was wrong,so I'm not going to preach about it,you have to live with it.

I personally accept you apology and hope you don't get scared off of the Realtree forums.I enjoy your posts and always look forward to reading about your hunts and just how things are going.It will take time for this to go away,and I have a feeling you more than likely learned your lesson and won't be doing it again any time soon.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Re: Apology!

I haven't been on the forums for some time, but if what I read was true the WELL SAID GRIZ.

[ QUOTE ]

You Lied about all of this and I'm suppose to forgive you for it...

No I don't think so... mad.gif

Yall can think what you want but this doesn't surprise me one bit about Ryan's lying.

No sir not at all...For he has lied to me more then once and thought nothing about it. Like it was no big deal. Sorry folks but I have lost my trust in the guy from day one and the way I look at it, Ryan you are going to have to earn your trust back. After pulling a stupid stunt like this and involving your parents of all things, saying they were in a bad car wreck when they weren't. I would hate to think what your parents would say if they saw all of this...Dumb dumb dumb...

It makes me wonder how many more lies you have told on here and to other folks...

Just like I told you before Ryan I don't trust you at all and you need to do alot of growing up...

Call me old fashion or just plan ole human but I don't take to kindly being lied to...

Man oh man what a deal...What a let down...

[/ QUOTE ]

Amen brother!

Sorry, but I don't forgive easily, and I still try to believe that their are decent people out there where a handshake or word is all I need, but this is another example of how hard it is to find people like that.

Using your family to solve your issues in the way that you did, you should be ashamed of yourself.

Just my .02 frown.gif

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Re: Apology!

Don't know the guy (other than through this forum) and don't know any details about what went on other than what's been posted here. But my best advice for Ryan is to go forward and make sure you never ever lie to anyone again. Eventually you'll regain the trust of some of the people you've hurt. But lie again and the damage may be beyond repair.

My .02 worth...

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Guest Racksnbeards

Re: Apology!

Ryan, I dont know what happened, and don't consider it any of my buisness, I do however think you have started to do right by appologizing. Only time will tell.

You were the first person I ever traded guns with online. During our trade, my wife was hospitalized, you worked with me, you were paitent, and supporting. That showed me your character. Take care, and remember these are all bumps on a long road.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Re: Apology!

WOW, the lies about the family is really low and totally unexpected Ryan. No doubt about that, but I am not here to judge you buddy and it is not my business your reasons for not wanting to stay in Wyoming. While it does take a person with some guts to openly admit something like this, I just am not sure what to think about this whole deal, there were a lot of people with genuine concerns praying for you and your family here, and I cannot believe you let this charade go on. I accept your apology, but at the same will question things you post in the future.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Re: Apology!

[ QUOTE ]

Don't know the guy (other than through this forum) and don't know any details about what went on other than what's been posted here. But my best advice for Ryan is to go forward and make sure you never ever lie to anyone again. Eventually you'll regain the trust of some of the people you've hurt. But lie again and the damage may be beyond repair.

My .02 worth...

[/ QUOTE ]

Well said...

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Re: Apology!

[ QUOTE ]

Guys I need to come clean. I can't live like this. And you guys will hate me for it or respect me for it.

[/ QUOTE ]

Respect??? I don't think so... Why should I respect you for something that shouldn't have been done in the first place? Hate you??? No, I don't hate you either because I really don't know you other than from your 12,000+ posts. smirk.gif You say you have your reasons and maybe you do but it just disappoints me that you used such a horrible incident as your excuse.

Sorry dude, you've really disappointed me on this one.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Re: Apology!

This is the first I've read on this since Steve posted about Ryan heading back home.I understand the anger for those that was involved in this move but my thoughts are he certainly hurt his reputation by making up a lie but he's young and made a mistake,we've all made mistakes.I think he was concerned about letting people down and not only being young but moving halfway across the country would have to be stressfull.I can't stand for someone to lie to me but at least he had enough guts to come back on here an apologize.I think he will need to learn from this and earn not only our respect but respect for himself and not to ever do this to his friends again.

Ryan I accept your apology.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Re: Apology!

He's young is about all you have to say about that.

I see people getting on him.....understandably so....about "manning up" and "doing the right thing". Well, you guys are--in most cases--a lot older than Ryan.

Are you telling me that as a young person you NEVER EVER did anything that was so blatently stupid that you hesitate to talk about it now? And are you telling me "if you would just give me one more chance"......

Not trying to stir trouble but I sense a lot of forgotten hypocracy afoot here.

Getting to be a man takes some fumbling and some stumbling and our friend Ryan just did both. He will get there, I think.

New

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Re: Apology!

Man I still can't believe all of this...

Simply unreal...

You know when I was growing up the number one rule in our house hold is "Don't Lie" and Lord help me if I had ever said something like that about my folks. You know sometimes honesty will make you fill like a fool but a down right lie will get you into deep trouble.

If you can't tell the truth and be honest about what you say. Then the next best thing is keep your mouth shut and don't say nothing at all...

Like I said before...Lying is lying...There is no excuse for it...

That is one thing I can not stand...I don't like it and I don't do it...Period!!!!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Re: Apology!

I know I have as well......

I am just talking out loud is all....acutally typing out loud! laugh.gif. I am talking to myself as much as anyone else and my comments weren't directed towards anyone in particular.

I have done things in the heat of the moment or out of sheer desperation when I was younger that simply defied logic or common sense. Some were just dumb and some were downright embarrassing. It is the nature of a young person to do stupid stuff.

I am just trying to explain that while many have the right to be outraged, some temperance would go a long way because we have ALL BEEN THERE. If you say you haven't you're lying now.

This will serve as a great lesson for Ryan.

New

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Guest Broncho10

Re: Apology!

Dang Ryan, what in the World was that all about? My mind is running circles trying to figure out what all has happened. You had Andrea and I concerned about you and your family. When I was reading the post about your mother, I actually teared up and was thinking to myself how quick a life can change from things like that. I was putting myself in your shoes and was heart broken. Thought it was kinda funny when no one back in Tuttle had heard of it. I believe you should have put a little more thought into this before you made a post. There are a lot of people on here that are close to you and personally know you. I know you are thinking the same thing right now, but dang man...anything other than the well being of your family. You'll be ok, just take this as a lesson learned and move on.

Wow....just speechless!!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Re: Apology!

Ryan it seems to me that you took your real family and you realtree family for granted in posting such a horrible lie.....maybe to you we are just a bunch of screen names, but to us your our brother whom we all cared for and wanted to see suceed and help out, and then you let us down by this. Thats a very low thing to do when you say your mother is in "critical" care. I'm disgusted by this developement, and I have lost alot of respect for you because of this. But with that said I accept your apology, but I'm afraid the trust is lost and gone. Good luck in life and I hope everything works out for ya. Learn from this and don't do it again......

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Re: Apology!

[ QUOTE ]

I am currious to know if you actually thought you would get away with this? You had to have known that this board would be planning some sort of gesture for your family. How did you plan to deal with that?

[/ QUOTE ]

Squash it. He realized he couldn't do the job and pulled a piece of stupid. He knows that now and you want to keep dragging him down over it. We all make mistakes. Accept his apology or don't but let the man without sin cast the first stone. I doubt you or anybody else would step up to that line to cast it.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Re: Apology!

I think, IMHO, that it is time for this thread to get locked. The apology has been accepted or not, and it is starting to turn into a thread over justification for not accepting Ryan's apology. He lied about it, every single one of us has lied to someone about something in our lives. The sun will rise tomorrow, the birds will chirp, I'll have to go to work, and the cycle will repeat, as it will for all of us. In the grand scheme of things, this is a drop in the bucket. For some it will take a long time to regain trust in Ryan, for me, I never had any reason to not trust him in the first place, and while I admit that he screwed up, and he admits that he screwed up, there is forgiveness for everything.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.