BowtechsWife Posted October 3, 2006 Report Share Posted October 3, 2006 One of my children joined a sports league this year. Her team has won all their games. At their last game it was suggested by a ref that they were the best team in the league. Well tonight they lost all 3 games. They weren't even close games. Afterwards the girls pouted, were relectant to smack hands with the other team and none of them stuck around to watch their older team mates play. Since the game ended I have been living with a royal pain in the butt. I am so upset about how the girls acted. The coach said she would address it tomorrow at practice but we shouldn't be too upset because "this was their first loss". My questions to you are...is this normal behavior from a team experiencing their first loss? Or does this team need a lesson in sportsmenship? While I am on my knees asking for advice...does anyone have any to deal with a tween with a major attitude regarding the loss? My tongue is turning blue from biting it for the last hour. Thanks much!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Dust Posted October 3, 2006 Report Share Posted October 3, 2006 Re: Sportsmenship ? Well my daughter was on one of those never lose teams last year. Won everything from tourneys to the season. Come back this year expecting the same thing and BAM a traveling team is put into the mix. Now we are talking 8 year olds with 20 year old calf muscles. So we are no longer the big dog on the block. After the first loss it was hard for them, but they quickly realized it's all for fun anyways. The girls seem to have alot better time playing now instead of worrying about winning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NiteRunner Posted October 3, 2006 Report Share Posted October 3, 2006 Re: Sportsmenship ? Not to Sound mean or anything. Sportsmanship is something we cant't live without! I play in competitions and there's always one that will whine and complain why they didn't win. But when they win they expect the whole world to congratulate them, because they are the best! When you get to thinking that "We're The Best" attitude it's time to take a break and just forget the score. We "PLAY" this "GAME" why? Those words mean FUN in my vocabulary! If they like Playing Sports so much a win or lose won't make a difference. I can imagine a being a Little Sore for not winning after all those other games, But you can't win them all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vagobbln Posted October 3, 2006 Report Share Posted October 3, 2006 Re: Sportsmenship ? That's the first lesson on Sporttsmanship 101. Learning how to be a grateful winner and a gracious loser. That attitude is why I hate the liberal version of t-ball and soccer we have around here. They don't keep score so everybody wins and nobody's feelings get hurt. Isn't that just wonderful. Not! IMO. I say teach the kids early on how to be good winners and losers and they'll be better prepared to deal with, not only what your daughter did, but life. Guess what, nobody wins all the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Texan_Til_I_Die Posted October 3, 2006 Report Share Posted October 3, 2006 Re: Sportsmenship ? Yep, there's going to be a lot of losses in life. Better learn to deal with them, or she'll go through life feeling miserable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted October 3, 2006 Report Share Posted October 3, 2006 Re: Sportsmenship ? I am the mother of two boys. I've seen them win and I've seen them lose. And I will tell you this................there's a tremendous difference in girls and boys when it comes to sports and winning and losing. ( In my experience) My niece plays softball. So I have been watching her play as she's been growing up. I have seen some pretty pathetic attitudes on the girls' teams. When they lose.......it's such a dramatic event. You would've thought they'd just all had their heads shaved. With the boys, sure, they'd be disappointed but not to that extent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newarcher Posted October 3, 2006 Report Share Posted October 3, 2006 Re: Sportsmenship ? If my child acted that way, I would sit him in the bleachers for the next game. Being upset because they lost is natural and if channelled correctly can be a great motivator. However, showing had sportsmanship to the other team is unacceptable...IMHO. Of course, my kid is probably going to turn out to be a mass murderer so you may want to take my advice with a grain of salt! Sitting them out would be a great lesson, IMHO. New Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted October 3, 2006 Report Share Posted October 3, 2006 Re: Sportsmenship ? [ QUOTE ] Of course, my kid is probably going to turn out to be a mass murderer so you may want to take my advice with a grain of salt! [/ QUOTE ] OMG....................you are so bad. Your kid's gonna be just fine. LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newarcher Posted October 3, 2006 Report Share Posted October 3, 2006 Re: Sportsmenship ? [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] Of course, my kid is probably going to turn out to be a mass murderer so you may want to take my advice with a grain of salt! [/ QUOTE ] OMG....................you are so bad. Your kid's gonna be just fine. LOL [/ QUOTE ] Wanna lay some money down on it! Nah, he will be fine....I can't get him interested in any sports at all. He tried soccer but was just aloof and had fun but didn't posess that pit bull killer instinct. In fact, he didn't even possess the knock you down and lick your face poodle instinct! Gotta love them. New Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted October 3, 2006 Report Share Posted October 3, 2006 Re: Sportsmenship ? Kind of have to agree with new here on sitting them out. Definitely time to have a talk with her though. Our oldest has had some attitude issues we have had to deal with, never fun, but you definitely cannot just let them go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikeB Posted October 3, 2006 Report Share Posted October 3, 2006 Re: Sportsmenship ? My daughter is 10 and I also notice a difference between boys and girls when it comes to losing. I don't know if I'm doing somthing wrong or if she is learning it in school. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted October 3, 2006 Report Share Posted October 3, 2006 Re: Sportsmenship ? it's always good for a kid to have a reality check. winning and losing are part of life. kids are kids, and will get over the loss. it's good she was upset, and even better she knows she can't always win Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Finn Posted October 4, 2006 Report Share Posted October 4, 2006 Re: Sportsmenship ? I've never allowed my kids to get away with any unsportsmanship, and I mean none. It started with their very first competitions and continues today. There is no place in sports for that...unless you're TO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BowtechsWife Posted October 4, 2006 Author Report Share Posted October 4, 2006 Re: Sportsmenship ? Thank you everyone for your advice. Glad to hear that I wasn't over reacting. Her coach did address the situation today. The team must write letters of apology to the opposing team's coach. If they show any signs of unsportsmens like conduct in any future games they are over with. Coach informed them they will be dropped and the team will forfeit the remaining games. Plus they had to do double laps. I had my daughter apologize to her older teammates for not sticking around to watch their teams play. I think she has been lectured enough over the last 24 hours. She now understands how her opposing team felt and her other teammates. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Finn Posted October 4, 2006 Report Share Posted October 4, 2006 Re: Sportsmenship ? That's great to hear. Good luck to them the rest of the season. Hope they win the rest of their games. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newarcher Posted October 4, 2006 Report Share Posted October 4, 2006 Re: Sportsmenship ? Sounds like a great alternative to sitting them out....I like the coach already! New Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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