Jeramie Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Now that I have a daughter this effects me so much more then it use to. My wife's brother was married for a while. He is roughly 25 years old and has been divorced for just under two years. They had a little girl together that is now three. His ex ran out and got herself a cowboy and then of course hung that over his head. They are sharing custody and so far there has been a little friction but everything hasn't been to bad. Occasionally the little one will show up hungry or looking a little dirty and while its irritating we didn't think it was enough to blow up. Instead my in laws took really good care of her, would buy her new clothes, etc. Yesterday my mother-in-law gets a call. Its a close friend of the ex-wife. This girl and 3-4 others are blowing the whistle. Apparently the new step dad is abusive. He has picked my niece up by the chin and then slapped her in the face. He drags her around by the wrist. He has picked her up and slammed her to the floor, etc. Apparently he has done this on a few occasions and all of the ex-wife's girl friends have had enough. They had already called the baby's daycare, DHS, my in laws, the ex-wife's mom in Virginia, etc. They are taking this guy down. They have no proof that he has been beating the mom (ex-wife) too but she always has bruises according the these girls and he has a habit of separating them from her. To make it worse they had a baby shortly after they got married. We didn't even know she was pregnant and somehow she hid that fact while dropping off our niece. Come to find out he is abusive to the new baby too. He was throwing her into the air and catching her when she was just a couple of day old. My in laws told my brother in law last night. They didnt tell him the exact extent because they knew he would blow up, as any father would do, and that wouldn't be good right now. They have an immediate court date set for tomorrow and the mother doesn't even know. In fact she doesn't know that DHS and everyone else has been called. Its all breaking loose tomorrow. We never suspected a thing. We have seen the baby trip over stuff and get bruises so we never suspected any bruising would be from abuse. We never had a clue. I know I'm not suppose to have this attitude anymore but id like to have 5-minutes alone with that idiot to have a nice "talk." Anyway, everything works for the good of those who love the Lord. If you're in prayer and it crosses your mind you might throw my family on the prayer list. Lift that baby up. My in laws (including my Brother in law) are wonderful kind hearted people and this has hit them like a brick to the head. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Finn Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? Hope they hang him. That stuff chaps my backside Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
horst Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? Jeremie, in all honesty your showing much more restraint then I probably could.Id probably be the one sitting in jail right now instead of him.Hope things work out for the best and they get those kids someplace safe. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeramie Posted November 15, 2006 Author Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? Everyone has to. In Oklahoma 9 times out of ten the kids get placed with the Mother. If someone blows their top it can lean the judge back to shared custody. It isnt easy to stay cool about it and to be honest with you, if it were my daughter I would have been on the news last night.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWSmith Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? God Bless those who have been abused and prayers sent!!! As for the Abuser...May God have mercy on his Soul. Because this human...He deserves a one way trip into the Florida Everglades!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MUDRUNNER Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? Sheeesh,that's a tough situation Jeramie.At least it's getting taken care of now instaed of later on down the road.My sister and myself grew up in a silmiliar situation,and my dad eventually got custody of us. I agree with Horst...if I was one of these kids parents it would be on like donky kong.I can't stand when people do this kind of stuff to children.Discipline is one thing,but this guy sounds like he's got a major problem. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest PAdeerdreamer Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? I have 2 little girls.Lets just say I would take up fishing with big bait. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NYBUCK Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? Jeramie, your too close to the situation. You will get in to too much trouble. I will fly out and have a "talk" with him. Please let me. I have no use for scumbags like that, my blood is boiling right now. I never understand why someone would do such a thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QDMAworks4me Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? After reading that and dealing with school children on a daily basis it makes me wish I lived closer to you and would knock the snot out of ol mister cowboy I hate people that think they are tough for hitting beating or being rough with little kids. They can not defend themsleves, if they want to be tough go down to the local pub and push one of those guys around, at least they have a fighting chance! If it does not get to ugly will you keep us updated, I will be thinking about the kids and your family, good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Dust Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? I have seen this many times and it is sad. Children are not someones anger outlet. To let you know the truth, when I use to haul one of these people (man or woman) it was all I could do to keep from stopping at the river bridge on the way to jail. Kinda of figured, who would miss them? Yes I do believe in the switch, paddle or spank law here, but to excessive means is by far stupid. I can't understand what enjoyment a man can get out of this. I hope everything works out well for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
3whunt Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? Hopefully everything will work out for the better.... I'd want to have a "talk" with him too. What a coward.. Prayers sent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrswtnhunt Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? Prayers sent to you and your family and the kids...Hope they hang the guy...sure would like to have a "talk" with him myself...that's one body that would never be found. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newarcher Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? He would be DEAD! The ex-wife should be beaten for allowing it to happen....if she knew. I find it hard to believe that she didn't know. Too many times they don't want sugar daddy to go away and let this junk go on. New Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest gabuckbuster03 Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? that is not right i agree with new he would be dead Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muggs Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? I couldn't even begin to imagine what I'd do if I was in your wife's brother's shoes. I can't even think how I'd begin to react to hearing that sorta thing...all I know is there would be a reaction...and it would be fast and fierce. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LifeNRA Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? [ QUOTE ] Jeremie, in all honesty your showing much more restraint then I probably could.Id probably be the one sitting in jail right now instead of him.Hope things work out for the best and they get those kids someplace safe. [/ QUOTE ] Yeah really!!! Me too! That IDIOT needs a lesson learned the HARD WAY! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? Some "men" shouldn't be allowed to breed. I hope they "abuse" him in jail. Prayers for your family Jeramie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
c_lou Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? [ QUOTE ] He would be DEAD! The ex-wife should be beaten for allowing it to happen....if she knew. I find it hard to believe that she didn't know. Too many times they don't want sugar daddy to go away and let this junk go on. New [/ QUOTE ] You must have read my mind. There is no way that guy should be walking this earth. Keep us posted Jermaie and prayers sent to the family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Exturkinator Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? It doesn't take much of a man to beat up on kids and women... Unfortunately, this is very likely more common than we know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QDMAworks4me Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? [ QUOTE ] Some "men" shouldn't be allowed to breed. I hope they "abuse" him in jail. Prayers for your family Jeramie. [/ QUOTE ] I agree he will probably get bread when he is in jail, I hope someone makes him thier little "Soap on a rope" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orion_70 Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? Shoot, Shovel, Shutup Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OJR Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? Sad! This needs to go to the authoritites and followed up! There are some crazy people out there!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newarcher Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? This does happen a lot more than you know. Too often the family just bows to the pressure of the wife/mother to just let her work it out and 'he didn't mean it'. Not me, I'd extract a toll on that individual that God himself would have to forgive me for. I made it clear when talking with my wife about others who had divorced and got a 'cowboy' in the family that if that ever happened to us and she got herself a 'cowboy' I would hold her equally as responsible for what happens to our kids. I have not been in a fight for probably 20 years and I have almost been in two in the last year because of someone messing with my kids. Had either of them wanted to backtalk me, we would have fought. My wife calls me a teddy bear who would hurt no one unless they mess with my kids. So she knows I would do it. Sick sick sick world we live in. New Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest gabuckbuster03 Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? new is right this is a sick world that we live in Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Re: Why Beat Kids? Most certainly is a sick world we live in today, hope this piece of filth gets what he has coming in jail. Hope everything works out best for the family Jeramie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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