Muff Posted December 29, 2006 Report Share Posted December 29, 2006 Ok guys and girls.....you guys are my best friends....I need help PLEASE....my wife has been going though depression latley...crying all the time and not wanting to be around her childeren....Please help me...most days she is great but the odd day she is just off side....I am not sure how to help her....has any of you went though this????? and can you help me....PLEASE.......thanks Muff Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ALAN Posted December 29, 2006 Report Share Posted December 29, 2006 Re: I need HELP...PLEASE ive been going through depression and started seeing a dr. he has put me on this new drug called cymbalta i take 90 mg of it in the morning right when i wake up..my wife has noticed if i dont take it for a week or im out of it..im a growily old bear and very very grumpy not happy but when im on it im happy all the time... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newarcher Posted December 29, 2006 Report Share Posted December 29, 2006 Re: I need HELP...PLEASE Listen to me..... Get your wife to a doctor and get her help. Once you get too far deep into depression it is almost impossible to dig your way out. PM me and I can tell you everything you need to know. Ah never mind, I just PM'd you. Let me tell you that you CANNOT possibly take this seriuosly enough. New Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OJR Posted December 29, 2006 Report Share Posted December 29, 2006 Re: I need HELP...PLEASE I agree that you have to get her to a doctor ASAP!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NS whitetail Posted December 29, 2006 Report Share Posted December 29, 2006 Re: I need HELP...PLEASE I had that problem with my first wife --- like the rest have said, Get her the help she needs now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Randy Posted December 30, 2006 Report Share Posted December 30, 2006 Re: I need HELP...PLEASE [ QUOTE ] I agree that you have to get her to a doctor ASAP!! [/ QUOTE ]I agree, my wife went through it and it took 2 years to get her out of it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Turkeygirl Posted December 30, 2006 Report Share Posted December 30, 2006 Re: I need HELP...PLEASE Take her to see someone like the others said. The sooner, the better and don't let her talk you out of it! She might say oh she's fine or she'll be fine in a few days. Take her to see someone! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mike Posted December 30, 2006 Report Share Posted December 30, 2006 Re: I need HELP...PLEASE okay muff! first things first! does she realize it! you have know reason to trust me but on this subject you can! i know exactly where you are coming from! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted December 30, 2006 Report Share Posted December 30, 2006 Re: I need HELP...PLEASE Prayers are in order here too Muff Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muff Posted December 30, 2006 Author Report Share Posted December 30, 2006 Re: I need HELP...PLEASE yep guys she is getting help....what I really want to know is what I can do to help????? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newarcher Posted December 30, 2006 Report Share Posted December 30, 2006 Re: I need HELP...PLEASE Oh, okay I see. In that case, all that you can do is be supportive. Lots of hugs, kisses, good mood, encouragement, and reiteration of the fact that everything is going to be okay. I heard someone once say that the really brutal part of depression is that it steals your ability to understand and apply perspective. for instance, if a divorce causes someone to become truly depressed...I am not talking about just sad and blue....something like a flat tire or gaining a pound will be like shots to the soul. So as far as what you can do.....inordant bouts of kindness, reassurance, sensitivity and helpfulness is about all that you can do. Just remember that she may be able to control what caused the depression but not the depression itself. New Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RangerClay Posted December 30, 2006 Report Share Posted December 30, 2006 Re: I need HELP...PLEASE I'm not sure what I can offer but if you need anything from your neighbor, just give me a shout and I will be there. Will some beans from the States make her feel a little better? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted December 30, 2006 Report Share Posted December 30, 2006 Re: I need HELP...PLEASE boy, new's hit it on the head once again. go back and re-read it all, then do it. lots of love, hugs, a doctor, and some medication. and much more. but, get it done NOW Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted December 30, 2006 Report Share Posted December 30, 2006 Re: I need HELP...PLEASE Yep, good advice New Your Love, Patience and Understanding is what will get her through this. [ QUOTE ] Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. [/ QUOTE ] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newarcher Posted December 30, 2006 Report Share Posted December 30, 2006 Re: I need HELP...PLEASE I can't express how important it is that someone who is depressed has a positive and very confident support staff. The truly depressed person lacks the perspctive to understand what is happening to them and everything that happens...a flat tire, a stubbed toe is a signal that the sky is falling. I read an interesting study about depression. We know that stress chemicals in the body kill brain cells among other things. Brain cells receive seratonin and dopamine floating in the brain and use it to regulate your moods. Sudden or prolonged stress kills the brain cells and suddenly you can't use the available chemical and your mood is altered. Now the cool research part. They never knew why anti-depressants take 3-4 weeks to work. They always claimed the "gotta get your chemicals back in balance". But a researcher working with rats found that AD's increase seratonin or dopamine and that flood of chemicals causes brain cell generation. Those brain cells take...voila 3-4 weeks to mature and start taking on the excess Seratonin or Dopamine. Pretty cool stuff. Keep reassuring your wife and if she isn't on meds, it may be time to start. Not sure what 'help' means and I understand if you don't want to say. Sometimes you can get so deep in, that you can't get out without help. New Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Randy Posted December 30, 2006 Report Share Posted December 30, 2006 Re: I need HELP...PLEASE [ QUOTE ] boy, new's hit it on the head once again. go back and re-read it all, then do it. lots of love, hugs, a doctor, and some medication. and much more. but, get it done NOW [/ QUOTE ]I agree 100%. Good post New. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bulldawg Posted December 31, 2006 Report Share Posted December 31, 2006 Re: I need HELP...PLEASE Not sure how old your kids are, but if they are young, get a sitter for a whole day. Spend some one on one time with her, and reminisce about good things you have done together. Take her to a nice dinner, and possibly out to a place where you have had great fun in the past. Stress to her how important she is to all of you. Tell her that many good times will be coming. And, as stated, get her to a professional to check her out. Good luck. Dawg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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