I'm Having Way Too Much Fun...


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Well, most of my close buddies on here know what I went through last year with losing my Grandmother and then getting dumped 2 months before my wedding, which, I now thank God for, and many of ya'll know that I got back in touch with a girl I dated in high school 13 years ago and we're happier than we've ever been and are planning on getting married some time this year. In fact, I am about 2 weeks away from flying down to Florida to pick her and the kids up and move up here.

Well, Kari was up here for most of the last 2 weeks. She was here about a week with the kids, back to Florida for a few days, and then right back up here for almost another whole week. Since it was just us and no kids, we had ourselves a little date night last Friday. I took her to dinner, and then we went to the coliseum for a little minor league hockey action. Here's the kicker.

Last year, when I was with the woman I couldn't stand, we basically went to all the hockey games together, well, 2 weeks after she dumped me, she started dating this Army kid 7 years younger than she, she's 27, he ain't even 21 yet. Through the grapevine, and myspace, I learned that their new favorite thing was to go to the hockey games together also. Well, soldier boy is in Afghanistan for a year now, so she has to go by herself.

Last Friday, we basically went to the game, knowing we would see her but not trying to openly confront her, basically, if we run into her, we run into her type attitude. Well, after a couple of close calls, we were walking around the stands during the intermission, and the ex was about 50 yards ahead of us, her and her friend turn around and start walking towards us, I look at Kari and said "They turned around." I look back, and the ex is going full speed ahead in the other direction with her friend turning around looking back at us. I told Kari, "I've known that girl 9 years. That's her pissed off walk." grin.gif

Well, we decide we should go to the game Saturday night also. As luck would have it, we ended up not sitting too far away from the ex. I wasn't looking, but Kari was, when the ex turned around to try and find someone, and instead she found us. Apparently, the look the ex got was less than flattering.

I told Kari tonight that the final game of the season is March 25th in the afternoon, and wouldn't that be a good time to take the kids out for some fun that day and take them to their first hockey game. She agreed that would be fun also. I'm really looking forward to seeing the look on the ex's face when she see's me with kids, especially considering that a month before she broke up with me she told me that if she got pregnant she would "Want to get rid of it."

Ya know, it's the little things in life that just bring a smile to my face. grin.gif

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Marc.......you and Kari and perfect for each other. I am really glad you guys found each other again. Can't wait to see the wedding pics. BTW....I LOVE that song by M. Featherstone on your site. smile.gif Wish I'd had that back when I got married. smirk.gif Good luck at the last game. wink.gifwink.gifgrin.gif

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I think Steve Holy said it best:

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She said, "i need sometime to find myself,

i need a little space to think.

maybe we should start seeing other people.

baby, things are moving way to fast for me."

so, i, i picked up what was left of my pride,

and i put on my walking shoes,

and i got up on that high road,

and i did what any gentleman would do..

i, um...

I got a brand new girlfriend.

we went and jumped off the deep end,

flew out to LA for the weekend,

spent the whole day, lyin' on the beach,

You know the rest....

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I cannot see where shoving it in your ex's face is "fun". Talk about revenge! I couldn't live that way!

Why don't you and your new girlfriend just enjoy life together and forget the old one!

Good luck in the future!

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Ummm, lets see, shoving it in her face is fun because:

1) She broke up with me less then 2 months before the wedding after I had paid for everything. I got most of the money back though.

2) She shoved her new boyfriend she had 2 weeks later in my face because I had no choice but to still live in the same house as her until I could find a place on my own. It wasn't real fun listening to her talk on the phone and watch her get ready for dates while I'm miserable.

3) She told me 3 months before we were supposed to get married that if she got pregnant "I would want to get rid of it." (Her words, not mine.)

4) She treated me like crap most of the time we were together.

This is payback. And this is our way of me and Kari living our life together and being happy. I live in this town also, I like hockey, so does Kari, so we will go to games together. If the ex doesn't like it, she can stop going. I'm not going to be a prisoner in my home because I don't want to run in to her and "rub it in her face."

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Marc, while it may feel good, you have to ask yourself if it the right thing to do and you really feel good about what is coming from this. I mean really, think about it from a standpoint that this was a person you really and truly cared about, is this really the way you want to act? I can certainly understand the reasons why you think the way you do, but at the same time, think you could potentially later on regret rubbing it it, especially if you are trying to get your life in order and are trying to live a Christian life. Another thing too to consider is just how really and truly does your current fiance really feel about doing this. I mean sure she may tell you she gets a kick out of it, but deep down, does it really feel right for her and does she appreciate you using her to get back at your ex? Maybe nothing might ever come of that, but then again, there could be potential there for future problems that might be all together avoided now.

Honestly think you should forgive and forget and move on, but that is just my opinion.

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Another thing too to consider is just how really and truly does your current fiance really feel about doing this. I mean sure she may tell you she gets a kick out of it, but deep down, does it really feel right for her and does she appreciate you using her to get back at your ex?

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Ummm, going to the games was her idea. tongue.gif

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I think it's fun for a bit but then it should get tired and fruitless. You'll get bored or Kari will and then it will spoil the fun times you have at the games. Let it go. You should now be proving to Kari that you're the better man and more mature about it. She'll respect you more for it and so will her kids. By the way Sluggo, congrats and I hope you two have a long and happy marriage and you show the kids the wide world of the outdoors. Good luck and best wishes in all cases.

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