py_archer Posted March 5, 2007 Report Share Posted March 5, 2007 I was doin the laundry today and I found a trojan in my 14 year olds pocket. Dern, I didn't start till I was 15. Guess I'm gonna have to talk to that boy tonight but not sure about what I'm gonna say. Any suggestions? Atta boy might not be appropriate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted March 5, 2007 Report Share Posted March 5, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? Hmmmmmmmmmmmm.........................my son's 14 and if I found it, I'd wanna know when he ever had an opportunity to be doing that. I pretty much know his whereabouts at all times. However, I'm not naive either. To be honest, I'd first assume he had it for "show". But I'd still sit down with him and have a really long talk. I'd stress abstinence and the fact that he's a new Christian and what the Bible says about pre-marital sex. After that.....he's pretty much either gonna do what is right or have sex anyway. I just hope and pray he makes the right decisions and leave the rest to God. That's really all I can do as a parent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
slugshooter Posted March 5, 2007 Report Share Posted March 5, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? I wouldn't jump to any conclusion right away. There could be any number of reasons why he had it: he found it, a friend gave it to him, he got it from school, he got it out of a vending machine in a gas station...who knows? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted March 5, 2007 Report Share Posted March 5, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? I agree with Andrea and Marc here. [ QUOTE ] Atta boy might not be appropriate. [/ QUOTE ] Definitely not. If you had a daughter, you wouldn't even think along those lines..right. Boys and girls both have the same responsibilities. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Texan_Til_I_Die Posted March 5, 2007 Report Share Posted March 5, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? [ QUOTE ] ...he got it from school... [/ QUOTE ] And isn't that a sad reflection on what our public schools are doing for (or is it to?) our children. But, back to the topic of the thread, communication is the key here. Find out why he thinks he needs a condom at that age and the answer you get will determine what your next step should be. BTW - Does he have a girlfriend? Do you know anything about her? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ryan1990 Posted March 5, 2007 Report Share Posted March 5, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? id be willing to bet he got it to be cool. when i was around that age i know that me and some of my friends had them that we got from vending machines or other kids at school. we never used them but we just thought it made us cool. and other people would think we used them. just let him no that its not cool and as a christian he should save it for marriage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnf Posted March 5, 2007 Report Share Posted March 5, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? I think I was in the 9th grade when I got my first "wallet buddy". I don't remember how long I kept it, but I can promise it wasn't in any shape to be used. He's probibly just got there for show, but I would still have a talk with him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted March 5, 2007 Report Share Posted March 5, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? [ QUOTE ] I agree with Andrea and Marc here. [ QUOTE ] Atta boy might not be appropriate. [/ QUOTE ] Definitely not. If you had a daughter, you wouldn't even think along those lines..right. Boys and girls both have the same responsibilities. [/ QUOTE ] Got to agree with Steve here. Would most definitely be having a discussion with him as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DU_man_84 Posted March 6, 2007 Report Share Posted March 6, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? i really cant tell ya, where he got it from, hopefully he has it to look cool, or got it from school, but teenagers these days honestly are stupid, (not accusing your kid) but in majority honestly at least in our town they are, i cant believe how many teenage girls i have noticed these days that are preganent, its like your not cool if your not preganent or on some kinda smack, kids these days are really starting to scare me, but yes i would definately be sitting him down and having a talk with him Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newarcher Posted March 6, 2007 Report Share Posted March 6, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? I wouldn't assume anything. This stuff starts in middle school. My mother's neighbor is a school administrator and just last week two middle schoolers decided they wanted to do it. Only she didn't want to get pregnant so they...boy how do you put THAT. Well, they were doing a very unnatural act and weren't doing it just for themselves, they were performing for a group of students....on campus. Most young boys and girls think that peers are safe as far as STD's go. The sad fact it that they are not. They are co-mixing with older people and bringing it into the young peer groups. I would definitely talk to him. I already talk to my kids about drugs and alcohol and other things like that. Just be factual and make sure to dispell all the myths about sex. It is too important not to. New Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted March 6, 2007 Report Share Posted March 6, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? Education is critical. If you are not talking with your kids or are ignoring these topics, you are only letting them down. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dg Posted March 7, 2007 Report Share Posted March 7, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? Don't sugar coat the conversation. Be graphic and don't act like it is the end of the world or you are so surprised. It's natural. Be frank and open. And if you talk to us about it, you darn well better talk to your own kid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DU_man_84 Posted March 7, 2007 Report Share Posted March 7, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? telling him his happy place will fall off, if he becomes involed, lol i heard that one when i was younger Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnf Posted March 7, 2007 Report Share Posted March 7, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? My mom sent me in a room with my uncle who told me how they get rid of the clap, or maybe it was gonaria. He had first hand experience Pretty much did it for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick Posted March 7, 2007 Report Share Posted March 7, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? 1st off....If he is doing "it" at least hes being safe and thats the important thing. And on the other hand...you need to explain abstinence to him. I don't know about other state....But sex is legal here in Michigan at age 16. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest malikai Posted March 7, 2007 Report Share Posted March 7, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? Good Point nick. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HuntinDiva Posted March 8, 2007 Report Share Posted March 8, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? [ QUOTE ] 1st off....If he is doing "it" at least hes being safe and thats the important thing. And on the other hand...you need to explain abstinence to him. I don't know about other state....But sex is legal here in Michigan at age 16. [/ QUOTE ] i'm almost 15 and would have to agree, but me being a Christian and going to a Christian school am waiting 'til i get married --------------- Silly boys, trucks are for girls!!!! ---------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arrow32 Posted March 8, 2007 Report Share Posted March 8, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? My parents found some in my room about 6 months ago and got me a long talkin. What my parents did was basically sit me down tell me that if Im having "sex" this is my decision but it can ruin my life for good. Possibility of having a kid and other things. I can tell you them not going off the deep and and laying into my butt was a great thing just a normal chat with them got to me more than yelling at me. If I were you not telling you what to do Id sit down and just have a conversation with em. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted March 8, 2007 Report Share Posted March 8, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? [ QUOTE ] My mom sent me in a room with my uncle who told me how they get rid of the clap, or maybe it was gonaria. He had first hand experience Pretty much did it for me. [/ QUOTE ] LOL.....good idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
slugshooter Posted March 8, 2007 Report Share Posted March 8, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] 1st off....If he is doing "it" at least hes being safe and thats the important thing. And on the other hand...you need to explain abstinence to him. I don't know about other state....But sex is legal here in Michigan at age 16. [/ QUOTE ] i'm almost 15 and would have to agree, but me being a Christian and going to a Christian school am waiting 'til i get married --------------- Silly boys, trucks are for girls!!!! ---------------- [/ QUOTE ] Hope you're able to keep that pledge. It's tougher now with peer pressure than when I was your age. Just keep strong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deerslayer79 Posted March 8, 2007 Report Share Posted March 8, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? It isn't hard to believe that kids are doin it at younger ages these days.look at who kids look up to these days,they don't look up to their parents any more,because where not cool enough,they look up to the Britney's,Paris's ect..all the, spoiled imature shmucks that worry about the height that their noses are compared to everyone else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted March 9, 2007 Report Share Posted March 9, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? i'd sure ask a bunch of questions before i got too awfly upset Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RangerClay Posted March 9, 2007 Report Share Posted March 9, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? http://www.cnn.com/video/education/2007/03/08/chapman.in.6th.grade.sex.wthr/content.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
murphy617 Posted March 9, 2007 Report Share Posted March 9, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? got caught when i was 15, had a very embarrasing talk with my mother, it was not fun!! it'll be hard to do, but try your best not to make it an uncomfortable subject, i wish it could of been more of an open topic for me. good luck with your talk! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carbonhunter Posted March 9, 2007 Report Share Posted March 9, 2007 Re: teenagers and sex??? Also dont forget that if he has had sex ed at school he may have gotten it there. Planned parent hood used to pass them out at school break,sporting events, concerts and the like. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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