Gator Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 As many of my Okie friends know, me and the wife had a major setback a couple of weeks ago. We had been talking, and I was under the impression that we were gonna try and work things out. Last night, she dropped the "D" bomb on me, but only after I asked. This whole thing has come out of left field and knocked this big ole boy down quite a bit. Think I have slept about 4-5hrs a night at the most the last two weeks. Evidently she hasn't been happy for quite sometime, yet I thought things were pretty good. We did have our moments, but doesn't everybody? She says she "loves" me, but "not in love" with me. Sure wish I could figure THAT out. Sad thing is, I never knew anything was wrong, not a clue. Anyways, looks like I will be single by huntin season, don't know if that is good or bad........... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bfletch7441 Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 I'm sorry to hear that. Just try to keep your spirits high, and your head low in prayer. You'll definitely be in my prayers. Ben Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mike Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 sorry to hear that gator. keep your head my friend, things will get better with time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 She says she "loves" me, but "not in love" with me. Yeah, there is a difference, and unfortunately that type of thing happening is fairly common. You can certainly love someone and genuinely care about them without being "in love" with them. Sorry to hear about this Jason, sometimes things happen for reasons we just dont understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 Jason if you need anything buddy just let me know. i havent been sleeping very well either. i had to drop the D bomb on my ex and i still think about her every once and a while even though its been 10 years. we were in communication about once a month after it happened, but i havent even talked to her for 3 years now. the hurt will go away slowly, just keep your chin up, and dont do anything crazy. Shoot Strong Tony Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest bowhunter56 Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 :(My friend, it will take some time for the hurt to go away, and I for one, believe it neve totally goes away. I wish you the best, if you belive in God, then pray and some of the pain will be lessened.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 So sorry Jason. Wish I knew what to tell you. This certainly turned out to be a bad week............ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
c_lou Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 Sorry to hear about your situation Gator. Stay positive and we are here if you need. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeramie Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 Jason, words are going to change much right now. Prayers will make a difference. You have em bud... Keep us updated on how things move. Right now there isn't anything anyone can say that will change things but hopefully as time passes we can help.... You know where we are bud. You probably still have my number too. If you dont feel free to PM me, ill shoot it to you in a heartbeat. God bless. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AdvantageTimberLou Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 Gator, My buddy is going through one right now. 10 years of marriage and he found out she was cheating behind his back. Totally caught him offguard and I would have never expected it. Never in a million years to expect she was capable of it. She felt the feelings were not there and she strayed from the marriage and broke her sacred marriage vows. She feels lousy now but I think that is because she got caught!! She will lose a ton over this deal and I feel bad for my buddy. 2 kids involved so it could get ugly. She just told him she is not in love with him at all, more of a friendship but no love. So they are in the process and even before the affair was found out they were going to marriage counseling but that did not help. The affair was a huge bombshell and it messed up my buddy's mind for awhile, keep feeling he was the cause of it but I talked with him as did others and being there for him has helped a ton. I will help him through this and be there for him. I have too and your friends will be there for you too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newarcher Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 We've had our arguments back and forth, but I am really sorry to hear this Gator. It sounds like there may be some wiggle room in there from her perspective....did you suggest or ask her to try counseling first? Sorry to hear this Gator, prayers sent. And yes, the hurting will eventually stop. It will just take a while. New Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Turkeygirl Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 So sorry to hear about this Gator!!! I'll be praying for you! In time the hurt will be less...give it time and don't let your emotions bottle up. We are all here for ya! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Master_Chief Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 Gator, Sorry to hear that. I know it hurts right now but prayer will help. Just remember God won't ever put more on your shoulders than you can handle and he is there to help take the load if you ask. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hutchies Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 Only time will heal those wounds. Surround yourself with people that love you. You need anything I know there are a ton of ears in Oklahoma that will listen to ya all night long. Just remember things will get better. Your healthy got a good job and have a bunch of friends that love ya. Keep your head up and if you need anything let me know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 Jason, my dear friend. I'm sorry to hear this. The only good advice I can give you right now is keep your chin up, and take it one day at a time. All is not lost buddy and you and your wife are in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gator Posted June 7, 2007 Author Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 Thanks everyone. I gotta say, that without some of my friends here on RT, the last couple of weeks could have been alot worse. Thanks guys!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drkillemquick Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 Sorry to hear about that. It happened to me seven years ago. It hurts and it does take a while to get back on your feet. I will be praying for ya, it will get better soon!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest DarkPrince Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 As many of my Okie friends know, me and the wife had a major setback a couple of weeks ago. We had been talking, and I was under the impression that we were gonna try and work things out. Last night, she dropped the "D" bomb on me, but only after I asked. This whole thing has come out of left field and knocked this big ole boy down quite a bit. Think I have slept about 4-5hrs a night at the most the last two weeks. Evidently she hasn't been happy for quite sometime, yet I thought things were pretty good. We did have our moments, but doesn't everybody? She says she "loves" me, but "not in love" with me. Sure wish I could figure THAT out. Sad thing is, I never knew anything was wrong, not a clue. Anyways, looks like I will be single by huntin season, don't know if that is good or bad........... my heart truely goes out to you this kinda thing always gets to me i know all too well jusy how you feel although it might feel like your world is comeing down all around you remember what doen't kill us only makes us stronger in the end it's just a shame it has to hurt so much Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ricfirefighter Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 I went through this couple yrs ago. after 13yrs it was hard but i think it was for the best. it cost me alot of money and pocessions but those can all be replaced. of cource haveing a g/f that is 15 yrs younger then me now helps Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Griz Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 Man Jason I'm very sorry to hear that... You have been a very close freind of mine for a very good while... We have shared alot with one another...Your kinda like a bother to me... You know deep down inside I'm with ya and have two ears and a heart of gold... Anything you need buddy please don't be shy...I'm here 24/7... My home is your home and you know that... Keep your chin up buddy...I know it's hard... Griz... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newarcher Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 I went through this couple yrs ago. after 13yrs it was hard but i think it was for the best. it cost me alot of money and pocessions but those can all be replaced. of cource haveing a g/f that is 15 yrs younger then me now helps she said, "i need sometime to find myself, i need a little space to think. maybe we should start seeing other people. baby, things are moving way to fast for me." so, i, i picked up what was left of my pride, and i put on my walking shoes, and i got up on that high road, and i did what any gentleman would do.. i, um... [chorus] i got a brand new girlfriend. we went and jumped off the deep end, flew out to LA for the weekend, spent the whole day, lyin' on the beach, wearin' nothin' but a smile, playin' kissy-kissy, smoochy-smoochy, talkin' mooshy-mooshy bout nothin'. man, i think im on to somethin', yano i feel just like a kid again. i got a brand new girlfriend. I couldn't help it. 15 years younger huh, as someone once said "it ain't bragging if you can do it". Hang in there Gator. New Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VermontHunter Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 That's it I officially call this week to an end,,, this has got to be one of the worse weeks I've have in a while concerning bad news,,, and let me tell ya I've had some real bad ones.... My thoughts are with ya Jason,, hang in there buddy .. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OJR Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 Sorry to hear this! Time will help but it seems that nothing will help right now! It will get better, just tough it out! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 So sorry to hear this Jason. Wish we were closer so I could buy you a beer or 8, and I'd let you run the Buckeyes down and you could tell Gator glory stories. Don't know what to say except hang in there brother and God's will be done. He has a plan, trust it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SUGARKAHNE Posted June 7, 2007 Report Share Posted June 7, 2007 So sorry to hear that, Gator. You'll certainly be in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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