I just can't do it...


Griz

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As yall know, a real good friend of mine passed away this pass Thurs. I found out yesterday that his funeral is Tuesday afternoon.

And to be real honest with ya, I just can't do it. I don't want to sound like I'm disrespectful or anything. But I just can't do it.

I fill soooo bad that he is gone and all. I just don't want to see him this way. It was always Eddie's wish for everyone to remember him as he was and not to fret over his lost...

I would rather remember him as he was.

Does this make any since...

Am I wrong by not going to his funeral...

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Griz - that's a very personal decision that most all of us face at sometime in our lives. For me it boils down to how I'd feel after the funeral if I hadn't gone. If I'd be kicking myself for not going then I'd go. If you'll be fine with the memories you have - you'll be fine in not going. Its a tough one...

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I know how you feel. Five years ago I lost my best friend, my best man, my fishing partner, the older brother I never had.

It was one of the toughest things I ever had to do. But I knew I had to go. We had put a lot of time on boat. To this day I still talk about him, but it really hits home when the fishing seasons are here. I recently met somebody new this weekend, his name is William also. Made me sit down and think if somebody is putting the puzzle together.

I know your hurt, and I know your pain. I know the feeling of not going. But later on in life you may reget this not seeing him for his final goodbye. Its ok to shed tears! God knows I have left many of them fall. Even now while trying to respond to your post, my eyes are tearing up thinking about my friend.

Go to your friend.

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Griz, I do know how you feel as it has happened to me. I lost a very good friend( he was only 25) in a quad accident a few years ago. If I were you, I would go to the funeral even though it will be hard for you. Other friends and myself from our hunting "group" were able to say our final farewells. Some were not going to go but we changed our minds. I think it was one of the best things we did.

My condelonces to the family please.

Ron

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Don't think I could not go, think I'd regret it later in life. As tough as it would be to go.

I had a student die 1 day after he graduated, that was tough, but I went to the funeral. I think funerals are for the surviving family more than anything, maybe think of that and reconsider attending.

Tough call for sure, I'm sure a card or flowers to the family explaining the situation would be fine.

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I say go and celebrate his life. You may regret not going.

I'll 2nd that.

Been there before too Griz and felt like you do with those that were close to me. I went to both get support and give support to others there too.

If it were me I know I'd regret it if I didn't go.

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I was in this situation a few years ago when my mother died! I had talked with her about this several times and we had both agreed that I would not go the funeral.

It was one of the best things I have done! I think of her often and it is about the good times we had together instead of seeing you lying in the coffin!

A few years before she died, my last uncle passed away and I didn't go to his funeral either. He was the one who taught me how to shoot and took me hunting dozens of times! Again by not going, it was the best thing for me then and it still is!

About 7 years ago, my hunting partner died and I didn't go to his funeral either. No regrets again and when I look at the pictures of the 2 of us, it brings back great memories, not the final act of the funeral!

If I were you, I would not go and live with the great memories instead!

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Dale I think it you don't go you will regret it later. Funerals are a time to mourn and let that greif out. If they are doing an open casket and you don't want to go up I can surely understand that. Dale the great LORD is not going to put on you anything you can't handle. If you can't go to see Ed at least go for his family. Tell them about all the great things you loved about Ed and share the laughs and tears with them. I promise you will feel better after the funeral. I'm praying for you and I know the LORD is gonna help you thru this hard time.

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The reason to you go to the funeral is for the friends and family ... there is nothing more you can do foryou friend ... but think how many other ppl like yourself who will be at that funeral ... it should be a healing time for you all and you can all feed off of the great storied you will share ... it is a personal desision but I think you should go also you will regret not going I think

Steve

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If you want to go, go. If you don't don't.

I don't think you would be disrespecting him if you didn't go. Perhaps, if you are worried about the family somehow missing you, send them a card of condolences explaining that you simply preferred to remember him how he was and that the funeral would be too hard for you to attend.

I hate funerals and am currently researching a way that I can skip my own.

But like others have said, be sure that when it is over you aren't going to regret not going.

Prayers pal, I know that it is hard.

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