Griz Posted June 10, 2007 Report Share Posted June 10, 2007 As yall know, a real good friend of mine passed away this pass Thurs. I found out yesterday that his funeral is Tuesday afternoon. And to be real honest with ya, I just can't do it. I don't want to sound like I'm disrespectful or anything. But I just can't do it. I fill soooo bad that he is gone and all. I just don't want to see him this way. It was always Eddie's wish for everyone to remember him as he was and not to fret over his lost... I would rather remember him as he was. Does this make any since... Am I wrong by not going to his funeral... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
christsavedme Posted June 10, 2007 Report Share Posted June 10, 2007 Griz.....bud I totally understand where you are coming from. And personally I wouldn't think you were in any way being disrespectful! Once again I am truly sorry for the loose of such a good friend! Just know we are praying for you! God bless! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bachflock Posted June 10, 2007 Report Share Posted June 10, 2007 Griz - that's a very personal decision that most all of us face at sometime in our lives. For me it boils down to how I'd feel after the funeral if I hadn't gone. If I'd be kicking myself for not going then I'd go. If you'll be fine with the memories you have - you'll be fine in not going. Its a tough one... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LifeNRA Posted June 10, 2007 Report Share Posted June 10, 2007 I know how you feel. Five years ago I lost my best friend, my best man, my fishing partner, the older brother I never had. It was one of the toughest things I ever had to do. But I knew I had to go. We had put a lot of time on boat. To this day I still talk about him, but it really hits home when the fishing seasons are here. I recently met somebody new this weekend, his name is William also. Made me sit down and think if somebody is putting the puzzle together. I know your hurt, and I know your pain. I know the feeling of not going. But later on in life you may reget this not seeing him for his final goodbye. Its ok to shed tears! God knows I have left many of them fall. Even now while trying to respond to your post, my eyes are tearing up thinking about my friend. Go to your friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rbduck Posted June 10, 2007 Report Share Posted June 10, 2007 Griz, I do know how you feel as it has happened to me. I lost a very good friend( he was only 25) in a quad accident a few years ago. If I were you, I would go to the funeral even though it will be hard for you. Other friends and myself from our hunting "group" were able to say our final farewells. Some were not going to go but we changed our minds. I think it was one of the best things we did. My condelonces to the family please. Ron Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unioncountyslayer Posted June 10, 2007 Report Share Posted June 10, 2007 I say go and celebrate his life. You may regret not going. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Finn Posted June 10, 2007 Report Share Posted June 10, 2007 I say go and celebrate his life. You may regret not going. I agree. As hard as it may be, I would go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted June 10, 2007 Report Share Posted June 10, 2007 Don't think I could not go, think I'd regret it later in life. As tough as it would be to go. I had a student die 1 day after he graduated, that was tough, but I went to the funeral. I think funerals are for the surviving family more than anything, maybe think of that and reconsider attending. Tough call for sure, I'm sure a card or flowers to the family explaining the situation would be fine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NS whitetail Posted June 10, 2007 Report Share Posted June 10, 2007 It's your call Griz, however, I would go and be there for the family. I am very sorry for your loss Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leo Posted June 10, 2007 Report Share Posted June 10, 2007 You will regret not going. I'm sorry you lost someone close and that makes it hard. But if you don't think there will folks there who it's even harder on you're kidding yourself. You'll feel better if you go lend them your support. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhino Posted June 10, 2007 Report Share Posted June 10, 2007 I say go and celebrate his life. You may regret not going. I'll 2nd that. Been there before too Griz and felt like you do with those that were close to me. I went to both get support and give support to others there too. If it were me I know I'd regret it if I didn't go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OJR Posted June 10, 2007 Report Share Posted June 10, 2007 I was in this situation a few years ago when my mother died! I had talked with her about this several times and we had both agreed that I would not go the funeral. It was one of the best things I have done! I think of her often and it is about the good times we had together instead of seeing you lying in the coffin! A few years before she died, my last uncle passed away and I didn't go to his funeral either. He was the one who taught me how to shoot and took me hunting dozens of times! Again by not going, it was the best thing for me then and it still is! About 7 years ago, my hunting partner died and I didn't go to his funeral either. No regrets again and when I look at the pictures of the 2 of us, it brings back great memories, not the final act of the funeral! If I were you, I would not go and live with the great memories instead! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hutchies Posted June 11, 2007 Report Share Posted June 11, 2007 Dale I think it you don't go you will regret it later. Funerals are a time to mourn and let that greif out. If they are doing an open casket and you don't want to go up I can surely understand that. Dale the great LORD is not going to put on you anything you can't handle. If you can't go to see Ed at least go for his family. Tell them about all the great things you loved about Ed and share the laughs and tears with them. I promise you will feel better after the funeral. I'm praying for you and I know the LORD is gonna help you thru this hard time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted June 11, 2007 Report Share Posted June 11, 2007 Your call Dale, but think I would probably go. Have to agree with some of the others here. As hard as it might be now, you would not want to later regret not going. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted June 11, 2007 Report Share Posted June 11, 2007 i'm with you, whatever you decide dale. but, i say you must go and say goodby. for you, not for him. you will be glad you went. you do not have to pass by his casket. just go say goodby to your buddy. it is you last chance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buckslayer Posted June 11, 2007 Report Share Posted June 11, 2007 Griz, just my personal opinion, but I would go. Your choice and I'm real sorry to hear of the loss of your friend... may he rest in peace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gator Posted June 11, 2007 Report Share Posted June 11, 2007 Dale, I understand where you are coming from, but think about this, is this something you may regret NOT doing? If so, then I say go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BowtechTurkeyHunter Posted June 11, 2007 Report Share Posted June 11, 2007 The reason to you go to the funeral is for the friends and family ... there is nothing more you can do foryou friend ... but think how many other ppl like yourself who will be at that funeral ... it should be a healing time for you all and you can all feed off of the great storied you will share ... it is a personal desision but I think you should go also you will regret not going I think Steve Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeramie Posted June 11, 2007 Report Share Posted June 11, 2007 I agree. As hard as it may be, I would go. I agree 100% Dale. You're already regretting not going or you wouldn't have made this post. Its going to be hard but go and get it over with. You'll have a clean mind in 10-years versus hanging onto this from now on..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newarcher Posted June 11, 2007 Report Share Posted June 11, 2007 If you want to go, go. If you don't don't. I don't think you would be disrespecting him if you didn't go. Perhaps, if you are worried about the family somehow missing you, send them a card of condolences explaining that you simply preferred to remember him how he was and that the funeral would be too hard for you to attend. I hate funerals and am currently researching a way that I can skip my own. But like others have said, be sure that when it is over you aren't going to regret not going. Prayers pal, I know that it is hard. New Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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