preacherman Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 I could use a quote from a sermon that I heard several years ago........but I won't...........I won't tell you that the preacher said, in a men's only meeting mind you............I won't tell you that he said that "women have been a pain in the side from the beginning!" I won't tell you that...........I don't believe that, especially if my wife reads this thread..........I don't believe that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Well see there shouldn't of ever been an argument in the first place. No screaming, no yelling. Simply "NO" I am not stopping. She would get over it eventually. But the hanging up of the phone on me would of really bothered me. We don't have these problems though. I get everything I want :Dand so does she. Everyone in the house knows the ground rules and that is the important part. Mind your father is the rule of thumb for the kids. Take care of your husband is the rule of thumb for her just like he takes care of you. Let me handle the bills and what we need to survive. You handle all the logistics:D Man, looking at some of this replies....I pitty some of you:D Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight. Give me a BIG FAT BREAK. Are there ever things that YOU have to get over???? You do realize that you're painting a portrait of a family where your wife is basically a doormat right ? And you are the dictator. Right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TreeStandBowHunter Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 No, not in the least. Thats just the way you portray it, thats all;). A woman who is used to having all the power will usually see it that way:D On another note, I am a nice guy:D...really!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 No, not in the least. Thats just the way you portray it, thats all;). A woman who is used to having all the power will usually see it that way:D On another note, I am a nice guy:D...really!!! Excuse me while I : Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bfletch7441 Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Next time she asks you to stop, say "No problem". Pick up what she wants you to get, plus about $100 worth of "junk" that you had to have. You know - ice cream, chips, beer, whole milk, etc. She won't send you again.... Same works for the dishes in the dishwasher, put the dirty ones away once and tell her, "Hey, I thought they were clean!" Won't ever be your job again.... I use this approach too. It irritates the fire outta me, but I do it anyway. JaLynn stays home with our girls, and I work 40-50 hours per week and am taking 6-10 hours per semester at night after work. If she needs me to stop for something, I bite my tongue and buy what she needs and an assortment of other things she would never buy. I think it is slowly working. She used to call 2-3 times per week, but now it's only once every other week or so. Ben Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TreeStandBowHunter Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Now you see what I been feeling during this whole thread:D I am going to bed, it's night time here in Okinawa! Todd, good luck;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Really surprised by some of the replies here. Was always one to think marriage was about a partnership, sometimes you have to give a little for things to work. A simple trip to stop in the store to pick up a few things on the way home is not much to ask in my honest opinion. Really with gas prices it might even save you some money in some situations. Think some guys here could get a real awakening if they ever got the opportunity to have a reversal of roles. The life you think your wife lives may not be such the picnic some of you seem to think it is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Turkeygirl Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Uh oh...I smell trouble but here's my 2 cents. God created man and women, but both genders have different ways of deeling with emotions and what not, I won't go into detail. I think if a wife calls and needs the husband to pick something up on the way home, he should out of respect, courtesy, and convenience. After all, it seems that the wife prepares and cooks the dinner. My mom cooks dinner basically every day of the week unless my sister or I cook. Sometimes shewon't realize she doesn't have an ingredient until she starts cooking. Well it's alot more convenient to call Andy at work and tell him to stop on the store on the way home. Why? Because he drives by the store everyday, and it saves gas and gas $ since he drives by there. If mom is in the middle of cooking, she doesn't have time to run out the door and grab something. The Bible may say God gave man dominion, but that doesn't mean he should sit on his butt while the wife does all the housework, it may be hard after a hard day's work, but your wife had a hard day also, caring for kids, cleaning the house, getting meals ready. Also the roles of genders are changing, whereas years ago it was the husband who worked and the wife did all the housework, now women are going out and getting jobs and how society is portrayed now kind of affects our way of thinking. So quit bickering and give each other respect and appreciation. Think of it this way, if you suddenly lost your wife...how would you feel then? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hutchies Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Todd, You ever heard if momma ain't happy ain't nobody happy........... It's the little things in life that will make her happy. She's at home all day and feels unappreciated for all the work she does. I know my wife is a stay at home mom right now. I do anything I can to take some of the stress off her. I love my kids but if I had to put up with them all day everyday I might be ready to get a real job. Just remember Todd.........Keep momma happy and the house will always be clean, you'll have clean clothes, and a great meal. Piss her off and she will be like mother nature..........you'll be wearing clothes that didn't get washed last week, and you'll be living on Ramen noodles. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Andrea Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Really surprised by some of the replies here. quote] I'm not surprised.....at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elkoholic Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 not my job man Husband and wife (men and women) are not union jobs where you can say "not my job man". I am not sure where this idea came from but the idea of a marriage is the sharing of life's tasks. This includes covering for the other person when the situation arrives. Stopping at the store to pick up a few items is hardly something to get your shorts all bunched up about. If it happens on a regular basis and your wife/husband has been out and about earlier in the day maybe mentioning it is not a bad idea. If that is all you have to worry about then you have it easy. Life is a ride. Enjoy the ride! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hutchies Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Really surprised by some of the replies here. quote] I'm not surprised.....at all. Give some credit.........Not all of us are like that........geeeeeezzz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dogdoc Posted October 16, 2007 Author Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Now don't think in a moment I'm one of these "dominating" type husband that believes a womans place is in the home. My wife probably only cooks a true "home cooked meal" two times a week. But I swear--almost everytime she does I get the call at 5:55--can you stop at the grocery store for this or that. It never fails either--it's always on a busy day that i'm beat and just want to get home and relax with a cold one. Also--the kids were at school all day--she passed the grocery store two times without the kids--once after dropping them off and once on her way to pick them up. I spend my lunch hour going to the appliance store to get a heating element for the dryer--then spent the time after dinner repairing the dryer. I've enjoyed the thread!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hutchies Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Thanks for the update..........That makes more sense now cause I couldn't picture you being a dominating husband after meeting you........... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ricfirefighter Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Ok i believe that every thing should be 50/50. I've been married and now live with my g/f. I make 100% of the money that means she does 100% of the house work. dont like it leave. If she made 50% of the money then i would do 50% of the house work. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Texan_Til_I_Die Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Guys, you should know that arguing with your wife is a waste of perfectly good logic. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scrubhunter Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 I'm not a dominating husband either. My wife doesn't have it bad at all. First of all the oldest daughter is at school from 8:20 till 3:15 in the afternoon. The middle daughter goes to preschool from 9:00 to 1:00. The youngest which is now 2 months old is with her all day, right now. In two weeks she will be off to the babysitter as my wife returns to work. For the past two months my wifes days have consisted of pretty much nothing other than warming up a bottle and changing diapers, when I'm not home anyway! Me? I work from 7PM to 7AM, production job that busts my butt. I come home after picking up breakfast that my poor exhausted wife that only slept 6 hours can't get up to fix, then I take my oldest to school. I come back home, help my 3 year old get ready and it's off to pre-school with her. I get back home, shower and am off to bed most times around 10 and am awake again with only 6 hours sleep by 4 because my wife doesn't keep the kids quiet. Sometimes she has me something to eat, other times I stop and grab something on the way to work that evening. On my days off like today, I'm here, not in the woods, with my youngest because mommy just had to take a break! So she is off getting a haircut and getting caught up on all the gossip she has missed while being out of work. I guess I'm a bit grouchy too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wildside Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Mercy me, this one is nearly too hot to touch! Yet, I'm oddly drawn to the fire. . . . Seems as though we all - man, woman or child - have our moments of being a bit miffed by something someone said or asked of us. It is a real trick to walk in the shoes of another and attempt to better appreciate his or her perspective. In matters of running a household, flexibility and respect sure do go a long way. I am personally blessed with a wonderful spouse with whom I share mutual admiration, appreciation, respect and love. We choose to build each other up versus put each other down. It is not for either one of us to judge the other in whatever efforts we make toward accomplishing the numerous tasks of life together as parents and partners. At the same time, it is also surely each of our responsibilities to communicate to one another in as kind and productive a way as possible if either one of us is feeling as though we're pulling more weight than we're able and could use a little help. Together, we get it done and even have fun in the process. By the way - how was dinner that night and what did you eat?! Please pass the Puppy Chow? (I'm just teasing - I couldn't help myself!) hmmm--Don't you just think God was bored when he made man and woman:confused: As for this, I'm guessing that there was an intentional cynical tone and maybe even an effort to keep it a little light. Seriously, though, I must say that God's creation of lifemates and friends is surely one of His most marvelous and gracious gifts. I'm more than confident that boredom played no part. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawg Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 I'm probably going to sound a little........whooped, but I learned not to mess with the wife along time ago. One night she asked me to take out the trash and I didn't, so when she tried to throw away some left over cake that didn't fit into the trash............she dumped it on the floor and said "Now you can pick that up while your TAKING OUT THE TRASH!" I've learned not to mess with the wife when she's a little mad!! I would've stopped at the store and got the groceries. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deb Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Have you never had to run to Lowes/HD for something to complete a project? Wouldn't it be nice if everything went as planned? And how many times was I a 'go-fer' for the men in my family? The answers aren't important. We are put there to help each other. This Realtree family is always ready to help each other. Maybe charity should start at home!?? Nativetexan, too bad you're already taken, I'd be on your trail. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gone_postal Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Todd; Is she aware of how much this irks you week after week? Maybe she doesn't have a clue. Why not have a little chat about it when you both have some quiet time together. That is better than keeping it all inside and having it come to a head when it won't be so pretty:eek:. After 30 yrs. of marriage I'm still learning every day about this journey......you got some good and NOT so good advice here...LOL.....best of luck!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Randy Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Here's the deal--you guys/gals tell me if I'm just an old grouch or do I have a valid point?? My wife is a stay at home mom. I work a good 40 to 50 hours a week. AT LEAST once a week she calls me and wants me to go to the grocery store--after a long day at work--to pick up a few items. So this afternoon she calls me at work--"Todd, can you stop by the grocery store and pick up a loaf of bread, some lettuce, a tomato, and some Ranch dressing for dinner tonight?" My response---"Didn't you just pick up the kids from school? Couldn't you have left a few minutes early and stopped by the store?" Wife: "Well I didn't know what I was going to cook for dinner when I left to pick up the kids." Todd: "Then why didn't you cook something that didn't require the above items?" Wife: "Fine--I'll just wait until you get home and I'll go get it." Todd: "No--I'll go ahead and get it." Wife: "Fine---click!!!" hmmm--Don't you just think God was bored when he made man and woman:confused: First off, I need to say I haven't laughed this hard at a post on here in a very long time!! Some of the responses, well,....struck my funny bone! Secondly, without getting into too much detail, I'm with ya brother!!! :D:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Tominator Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 Well see there shouldn't of ever been an argument in the first place. No screaming, no yelling. Simply "NO" I am not stopping. She would get over it eventually. But the hanging up of the phone on me would of really bothered me. We don't have these problems though. I get everything I want :Dand so does she. Everyone in the house knows the ground rules and that is the important part. Mind your father is the rule of thumb for the kids. Take care of your husband is the rule of thumb for her just like he takes care of you. Let me handle the bills and what we need to survive. You handle all the logistics:D Man, looking at some of this replies....I pitty some of you:D "Son, we live in a world that has walls, and those walls have to be guarded by men with guns. Whose gonna do it? You? You, Lt. Weinburg? I have a greater responsibility than you could possibly fathom. You weep for Santiago, and you curse the marines. You have that luxury. You have the luxury of not knowing what I know. That Santiago's death, while tragic, probably saved lives. And my existence, while grotesque and incomprehensible to you, saves lives. You don't want the truth because deep down in places you don't talk about at parties, you want me on that wall, you need me on that wall!!!! Just kiddin' Gunny! Couldn't resist. LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin R10 man Posted October 16, 2007 Report Share Posted October 16, 2007 very funny....btw Todd Has been nuetered...LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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