Muff Posted January 1, 2008 Report Share Posted January 1, 2008 The last few weeks have been really trying....Lauren has started to argue everything we say....and if it does not go her way she starts to cry and scream...its so bad we were heading up the road for Christmas at my mom and dads...(1 minute trip) when we got outside I said everyone into the truck...no she said I want the van.....argues about everything...its really driving me nuts...our 6 year old never was this bad....I feel so bad for having to yell at her or make her take a time out so many times but I just don't know what to do.....Lord give me strength. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lauri Jo Posted January 1, 2008 Report Share Posted January 1, 2008 try hot cauliflower or a hot "pickle" (jalapeno). LOL Our 5 year old has started the arguing thing and whines like a baby when things don't go his way. I have tried time outs with him-he laughs about them. I have also been told to simply ignore the arguing and go about whatever it was we were going to do-whether he likes it or not. I have to say, it is dang near impossible to ignore a high pitched whine that doesn't quit. Good luck to ya. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Randy Posted January 1, 2008 Report Share Posted January 1, 2008 Oh does this sound familiar!! I have a 7 year old boy that is so well behaved you'd never know he's mine. On the other hand I also have a 2 year old girl that, unfotunately has a few of my traits from my younger years. Anyways, I always tried the "time out" thing because I told myself I would NEVER spank one of my kids because I was afraid that I might be doing it out of MY anger. Well, I grew up a little and now that little pat on the butt does wonders! Good Luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OJR Posted January 1, 2008 Report Share Posted January 1, 2008 My wife does that all the time!! Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arrow32 Posted January 2, 2008 Report Share Posted January 2, 2008 I don't have those problems. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BowJoe Posted January 2, 2008 Report Share Posted January 2, 2008 I say don't be afraid to give a spanking. More importantly than anything else you do, always, always, always be consistent with your punishments. Adjust them to each child's age and count to ten before you give any physical punishment. Besides, a whippin through a diaper is nothing. I mainly do it for shock value. I have a 17 month old and she just gets a pop on the diaper when she's trying to turn off the tv or something and it never hurts her. It does surprise her though. I learned with her that she does know exactly what she's doing because I used to raise my voice telling her no. Then she started turning off the tv and then covering her ears. That's when you know you yell too much. So now it's just a little flick on the diaper and she backs away or I pull her away from it. I'm no expert but I'm learning quickly to adjust to her speed of learning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VermontHunter Posted January 2, 2008 Report Share Posted January 2, 2008 I say don't be afraid to give a spanking. More importantly than anything else you do, always, always, always be consistent with your punishments. Adjust them to each child's age and count to ten before you give any physical punishment. Besides, a whippin through a diaper is nothing. I mainly do it for shock value. I have a 17 month old and she just gets a pop on the diaper when she's trying to turn off the tv or something and it never hurts her. It does surprise her though. I learned with her that she does know exactly what she's doing because I used to raise my voice telling her no. Then she started turning off the tv and then covering her ears. That's when you know you yell too much. So now it's just a little flick on the diaper and she backs away or I pull her away from it. I'm no expert but I'm learning quickly to adjust to her speed of learning. I don't have any kids ,,, but I totally agree with above statement 100% .. Good Luck Joe .. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muff Posted January 2, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 2, 2008 oh she just went to bed kicking and screaming...would not give hugs and kisses to dad...I really don't know what to do...oh and yes I will give her a smack on the bum but her mother will not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted January 2, 2008 Report Share Posted January 2, 2008 I have high schoolers that still do that. I just agree with them. When they whine I just say, "I know, I know...............OK, let's go to work...." When my kids did that, I'd do the same thing, and then go ahead and do what I said I was going to do. If they pitched a fit, I just gently put my hand on their neck, if they calmed down, it was a gentle neck massage, if they carried on, the grip got tighter and tighter until they forgot what they were whining about. There's some psychology behind all that, but I'm still tired of writing grad papers, so PM me if you want details. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
horst Posted January 2, 2008 Report Share Posted January 2, 2008 There's some psychology behind all that, but I'm still tired of writing grad papers, so PM me if you want details Kinda like the dog whisperer:D:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nut Posted January 2, 2008 Report Share Posted January 2, 2008 Wait until they are adults and teenagers:eek: As for kicking and screaming that is what I use against my wife when I want my way:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JasonLester Posted January 2, 2008 Report Share Posted January 2, 2008 Things will get better I promise. I have 5 kids. 4 girls and a boy. My boy just turned 5 and two of my girls are almost one (twins) My older girls had very little of that. My boy however tried my patients more than a few times. I can remember several times we were out and he refused to get in his carseat screaming at me "Bad Daddy" it crushed me. But he is sooooo much better now. You'll get through it just take some deep breaths and then deal with it. You and your other half should support each other with disipline as well as take over if the other is getting pushed a little to far. Good luck with everything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted January 2, 2008 Report Share Posted January 2, 2008 I say don't be afraid to give a spanking. More importantly than anything else you do, always, always, always be consistent with your punishments. Adjust them to each child's age and count to ten before you give any physical punishment. Besides, a whippin through a diaper is nothing. I mainly do it for shock value. I have a 17 month old and she just gets a pop on the diaper when she's trying to turn off the tv or something and it never hurts her. It does surprise her though. I learned with her that she does know exactly what she's doing because I used to raise my voice telling her no. Then she started turning off the tv and then covering her ears. That's when you know you yell too much. So now it's just a little flick on the diaper and she backs away or I pull her away from it. I'm no expert but I'm learning quickly to adjust to her speed of learning. Got to agree with Joe here. Kids need structure and discipline to learn, dont be afraid to punish them and or spank them. Our 2 year old does try us, and she does get spanked, she is learning consequences. Amazes me at how some kids run over their parents and they learn to expect. Perfect example, we had my niece(4 years old) with us for a good while back over the summer and she DOES NOT usually listen to my sister, which really bothers me. I raise my voice and she will listen to me, unfortunately I did have to spank her a few times for her to understand that I was not playing. Think it made my sister quite upset with me that I got onto her daughter in our house at times when she was here and her daughter was not paying her any attention. But the kid listens to me, she seems to ignore my sisters idol threats and has no respect for her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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