So for all you married folks


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real simple. she met all of my 20 year old expectations.

i was 20 when i first met my wife. she was 16. we visited on a farm for 8 days. never held hands, touched, or anything. just walked and talked. played badmitton and croquet. i remember thinking as i left for home, this is the kind of girl i want to marry. (later, i learned that she told her best friend she met the guy she was going to marry.) a year later, we visited again. we lived 2000 miles apart and i was military and on the move. daily letters worked as good as could be. third time i saw her was christmas time, where she flew to chicago to meet my folks. i asked her to marry me then. and in august of the following year, we were married. yes. the 4th time i laid eyes on her, we were married. i haven't stopped looking since.

now, that's what worked for me. doesn't apply to all. fact is, at 20 you're in heat, not in love. you'll find out about what love is after you're married for 10 years or so. so, you'll never be sure of the person until there is a lot of water under the bridge. love is secondary, anyway. you must like the person first. i know you like the way she looks, but you have to like the whole person. don't think you'll "change" anything about her after you're married. that doesn't work. and you don't have to like everything about her. my wife loves to shop, i can't stand it. i love to hunt, my wife tried it once and hated it.

be yourself, and let her be herself. if that works, maybe it's worth a try. call it a "starter wife". j/k

my opening line is really pretty good. i hope you see the humor in it. 20 year olds just don't know what to expect. and you won't figgure it out, either.

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Really kind of strange really. It wasn't a big burning desire or great feeling of desperation that I needed to be with this person.

For me it was like when I go to a coke machine and just look at the diet Pepsi button cause I know I don't want any of the others. I just knew.:)

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I had been dating her for 4 years or so, and had known her for more like 10 years. I was maybe 21, and my dad asked me if she was the one, and I said, "How do I know?"

He answered with another question, "If you don't marry her, is she the one you'll always wished you had?" Which I also understood to mean, if I don't marry her, will I regret it?

My answer was yes, I will regret letting her get away. So I didn't! 14 years ago this July, and 3 beautiful children later, turns out I was right, she was THE ONE!

:)

HB

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When we went on our 1st date, I gave her the test.

I opened the lock and door on her side to let her in the car, to see if she leans over to unlock the drivers side. She did.

Right then and there I knew she was the one.:D

Power door locks came later

She wanted the same things out of life as I did, kids, house, she could cook, worked in a Deli.

Plus she was available and a Babe too:eek::D

We dated for 6 and married now 17.

23 years and 3 sons later...still going...She is the anchor of this family...a good woman:)

You kind of just know...ya know?

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I will tell you right now I'm single and never been married. But a guy I used to work with did tell me something a couple years ago that really made sense and I'll always remember it. He says "don't marry somebody you can live with, marry somebody you can't live without".

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Thanks guys this means alot. Im not second guessing my fellings I cant stand a day with out her. I know shes the one and she actully sid I was the only one for her. Im going to marry her im just waiting for her to start medical school and me to get my company little bit more established so I can pay for her medical school. (she starts in 6 months) Thanks guys

I was just thinking about it and wondering what other people thought or knew. Ill say this you could all say im dumb and to young and id still feal the same about her. It s like one of you said the feeling is indescribable

thanks

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