archerjg Posted January 18, 2005 Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 I'm asking for some advice on what to I should do. I have been at my job for six months and recently got promoted to a better job. I am now third in line on my shift. I love my job except for one thing my supervisor. When I first got there and on shift she treated me like the rest of the crew except she would make a nasty remark here and there at times. However since I got promoted (which she tried to prevent, but was over ruled by the top personnel) she has treated me like dirt and a two year old. I have responsibilities that I am supposed to be learning and things that I am supposed to be doing however she will not show me or help me o do these things and when I don't she gets mad because I didn't know how to do them. When she talks to me it is always in a condescending voice and very rude. I have talked to the second in command and he sees the same things as I do. She treats the rest of the crew pretty bad as well. I am at the end of my rope trying to deal with her. I have sadi nothing to her, but I am very tempted to talk to her as I have just had it with the abuse of me especially, but with the rest of the crew as well. I am also considering talking with the top bosses, but if I do it will get back to her and she will retaliate against the whole crew. I really want to say something to her, but she will make up some kind of excuse to justify it and then try to cause problems with me and the bosses. Any suggestions? My thoughts are to speak to the bosses I just don't want to have myself or anyone else retaliated against. Archerjg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VermontHunter Posted January 18, 2005 Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice [ QUOTE ] I have talked to the second in command and he sees the same things as I do. [/ QUOTE ] Use this second in command as a witness and confront her in his/her presence, if he/she will back you up. I agree going over her head will just aggrivate the situation. Confront her head on in a respectful manner with the above mentioned witness...Hope things work out and wish ya the best... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin R10 man Posted January 18, 2005 Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice I second VH ideas, but if that dont help Id go right to the top...she needs to go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest gfourhunter Posted January 18, 2005 Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice I would ask her what her problem is and nothing else, dont start a fight or get loud, if you do, problem gets worse. if that dont work i would go to her super. all three of you sit down and work it out in privet. i wish you all the luck. there is always something you hate in every job, thats why it called a job not a vacation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OJR Posted January 18, 2005 Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice Agree with what has been said. Meet with her and have the 2nd in command go with you. Both of you confront her as to what is going on! If she refuses to do anything then, both of you go to the higher ups and let them know in no uncertain terms what is going on! Sounds like she is insecure in her position and that is the reason she is acting the way she does! Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norm Sauceman Posted January 18, 2005 Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice [ QUOTE ] I am also considering talking with the top bosses [/ QUOTE ] I think this is the best course of action right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carbonhunter Posted January 18, 2005 Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice I think you go all the way to the top with this. She has to know what she is doing, and is prob. trying to get a outburst out of ya in public. If you go above her it will cut her off at the pass and maybe catch her off guard. Turn the tables on her a bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bulldawg Posted January 18, 2005 Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice I go right to the top when I have a problem with a supervisor. I have a real bad temper, and when he picks at me, or doesn't do his job, I go to the top. I'd rather do that then lose it and get fired for kickin his butt. And, the big man knows that I do that, because I don't want to cause major problems for myself. He knows what I get like when I get ticked. If I've got it coming to me, I stand up and take it like a man. But if I don't deserve the sarcasm or he climbs all over my case for no reason, me and him are going to get it hashed out in front of the big guy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Turkeygirl Posted January 18, 2005 Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice Go to the top...that is what my mom always says,lol. Use the other "witness" also. Good luck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NYBUCK Posted January 18, 2005 Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice I have always been one to try to solve things myself. I would try talking to her and then if things don't change, then I would go to the top. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted January 18, 2005 Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice I guess I'd try to talk to her directly first. If you don't get satisfaction I'd inform her that I'm going abover her head to the next level. Is this a union shop? I know we have channels here at the school I work for. I'm not the biggest proponent of unions, but in some cases like this, they help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RyanH Posted January 18, 2005 Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice [ QUOTE ] I second VH ideas, but if that dont help Id go right to the top...she needs to go. [/ QUOTE ] Yup Me to! VT you the man! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Finn Posted January 18, 2005 Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice [ QUOTE ] I guess I'd try to talk to her directly first. If you don't get satisfaction I'd inform her that I'm going abover her head to the next level. [/ QUOTE ] I agree. Talk to her directly. Recommend doing this in private with the 2nd in command. Stay in control and be calm as possible. Then let her know you'll go above if need be. Good luck. That's always tough. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted January 18, 2005 Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice Gotta go with vermont on this one and you do definitely want the 2nd inline in the room. A confrontational conversation with her alonewithout any witnesses, would probably not be such a great idea. Best to have person you have already talked with to be involved when the conversation takes place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HuntingInMaine Posted January 18, 2005 Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice I agree that you should talk with her first and if she refuses to do anything about her actions then go over her head. At least if you talk with her first she can't say you never took up the subject with her. I think you should talk to her alone (and nicely) so she doesn't get defensive feeling she is being ganged up on. After that, it is up to her to change and do her job as she should or management should can her. I only say to do all of this nicely because if she doesn't get fired, you still have to deal with her on an almost daily basis. Good luck, hope it goes well! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
archerjg Posted January 18, 2005 Author Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice Thanks guys and ladies, I plan on talking with her tomorrow when we are back at work. So far I have been calm and bitten my tongue, so I will continue to be calm as I speak with her. Again thank you for the advice. I will also speak with the bosses if need be. Archerjg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Roadkill10 Posted January 19, 2005 Report Share Posted January 19, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice 3 rd. vh ideas!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitetailkiller Posted January 19, 2005 Report Share Posted January 19, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] I am also considering talking with the top bosses [/ QUOTE ] I think this is the best course of action right now. [/ QUOTE ] yeah me too... go to the top of the food chain, and knock her down a peg or two!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
puffy Posted January 19, 2005 Report Share Posted January 19, 2005 Re: Looking for some advice When you go to talk to her with or without your second in command, I would advise you to take a personal recorder with you to catch her response on audio just to prove ....if need be, that she has a problem that needs to be rectified. It may seem a little underhanded , but , in this case you need for your superiors to hear her first hand. It does help your acusations when all can hear her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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