Heated Marital Debate Over Santa

[aksheephuntress]

  nativetexan said:

Santa is real da**it!

...a real WHAT???:confused:

-I honestly can't figure out by filling in the blanks...??-tried all letter combinations...I'm at a loss-?

[Ohiobucks]

  aksheephuntress said:

...a real WHAT???:confused:

-I honestly can't figure out by filling in the blanks...??-tried all letter combinations...I'm at a loss-?

darnit! kinda.......

[johnf]

  aksheephuntress said:

...The biggest missed point here....the origional problem was the difference in opinion on this between BOWJOE and his WIFE....

-Those of you who choose to not incorporate the tradition of Santa Claus in your home ,seem to do so without the marital strife and disagreement between you and your spouse......and there's no problem in that!!

-The difference is when two parents DISAGREE on this matter, and a decision...and comprimise...has to be made...

-THAT is what this discussion was supposed to be about, and what Bowjoe was asking advice/opinion on....and - it seems clear what opinion the vast majority here has offered...

...No one really seems critical of another's household beliefs...just defensive of... and striving to justify..their own.

HO!HO!HO!!...MERRY CHRISTMAS...AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!:D:D:D:D:D:D:)

(we still have SNOW,here...LOL!)

Good point girly girl. Joe just seemed to be getting slammed here on this and it seems most of them were ignoring the point as bad as I was. So let me start over.

There will be lots of disagreements with you and your wife on what should be done with your children as they grow up. Some are very important and some really don't matter in the whole scheme of things.

Ask yourself these things.

How important is this?

Why do you not want to do it?

Is it going to cause problems every year between you and your wife? Is it worth it if it does?

Do the people around you "do santa"? If so, you will have to do some explaining to your child if you don't. If not you'll have to if you do.

Are there a lot of small children that will celebrate Christmas with your kids? Will they "do Santa" how will that affect your kids?

My situation is probably different from yours. I'm the youngest of 5 and my oldest child is 5 years younger than her youngest cousin. By the time she was old enough to understand the concept of Santa no one else believed in him, that didn't affect her at all. My wife and I made that decision together before she ever got pregnant, so there was no disagreement on the issue. We go to a Southern Baptist church and probably 1/2 of the kids in her Sunday school class didn't do Santa for the same reasons we don't. They didn't talk about Santa in Sunday school for that reason and all parents involved agreed that Santa would stay at home and Christmas at church would be Christ centered.

My wife and I don't agree on everything. I don't like the commercialization of Christmas with all the lights and the trees and such. There's actually a passage in Leviticus that talks about decorating a tree not being a "good thing", but then later it says that it is also not harmful. My wife on the other hand loves all the lights and trees and decorating and such. Our compromise is this. I don't help her put it up or take it down because I don't want it. She does it on her own, because I don't see any harm in it. It's kinda the same with me and guns/hunting. She doesn't want any part of it, but when I've got extra money she doesn't mind me getting something I want.

I think your right, as do you. But it doesn't always matter if your right.

Sometimes in marriage you have to give in to something you don't necessarily like.

There has to be some give if you ever want some take.