cinch314 Posted May 9, 2008 Report Share Posted May 9, 2008 Ok this is kinda odd but after I posted that question to yall last week, guess who called me last night wanting to see his daughter. I said that he could see her because I dont want to be the bad person but that I HAD TO BE WITH HER. Im not just letting him take her because 1. she doesnt know him 2. he has not shown me anything in the way of wanting to be in her life other than out of the clear blue. He said that is fine and wants to take her to Chucky Cheese for her birthday. The fact that he remembered her birthday surprised me. I asked when and he said next weekend and I told him we would have to play it by ear because we had plans that weekend. He said that is fine, he will work around MY schedule. Soooo my question is WHAT GIVES? Is he having a change of heart or what? As for that question that I posted, yall all had some great suggestions and I think that when the time comes Im gonna tell her that her mommy and daddy thought it was best if she stayed with her mommy. That her mommy and daddy love her very much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gator Posted May 9, 2008 Report Share Posted May 9, 2008 Sounds kinda ironic to me.......... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cinch314 Posted May 9, 2008 Author Report Share Posted May 9, 2008 LOL yea thats exactly what I was thinking. I know he doesnt hunt and there is NO way he couldve known it was me because very few people know that my daughter is his. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Texan_Til_I_Die Posted May 9, 2008 Report Share Posted May 9, 2008 When I see things like this happening, I'm reminded of the policy that the U.S. had with the old Soviet Union back in the 80's. It was called "trust but verify." In other words, give him the benefit of the doubt, but keep a very close eye on what is going on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OJR Posted May 9, 2008 Report Share Posted May 9, 2008 I think you should allow him this visit and see how all of you react to each other! Maybe something could work out for your daughter's sake that he would be a part of her life. Very controlled, but still be a part! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RangerClay Posted May 9, 2008 Report Share Posted May 9, 2008 Just some food for thought. DON'T let the employees of Chucky Cheese stamp his hand. If you go to the bathroom he could leave with her and they would not question him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BowJoe Posted May 9, 2008 Report Share Posted May 9, 2008 As a soon to be divorced father, even I say be very careful about your next moves. I would allow him to come visit in your schedule but be very cordial and don't let on as to your restrictions. Whatever you do, don't start spouting off a list of what he will and won't do and what you will and won't allow. Just stick to your rules in your own head and tell him when you think something is or isn't a good idea. In other words, don't be bitter (not that I am accusing at all) or petty about issues between you two. Who knows, a good ending to this is very possible just be weary and watch for any signs to protect your daughter at all costs. JMHO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cinch314 Posted May 9, 2008 Author Report Share Posted May 9, 2008 I would love for him to be a part of her life. I dont want her growing up not knowing her father if he is willing to try to be one to her. I plan on keeping a very close eye on her. As for Chucky Cheese, I agree with the stamp on the hand but I dont think she is going to leave me for a second because even if I do have to go to the restroom, she will go with me because she is "potty training". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted May 9, 2008 Report Share Posted May 9, 2008 Seems a bit strange. Did he read here or have someone you both know tell him what you posted here? Maybe he had a wake up call and is growing up? If that is the case, give him a chance for her sake. Anyway you look at it, would agree too that you should be there the entire time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted May 10, 2008 Report Share Posted May 10, 2008 When I see things like this happening, I'm reminded of the policy that the U.S. had with the old Soviet Union back in the 80's. It was called "trust but verify." In other words, give him the benefit of the doubt, but keep a very close eye on what is going on. now tex has his head screwed on right... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wyohunter Posted May 10, 2008 Report Share Posted May 10, 2008 i suppose an occasional visit is ok, but i seriously would think, he'd better give up some support, before he got into her life very much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HuntnMa Posted May 10, 2008 Report Share Posted May 10, 2008 Good Luck......be careful......listen to Tex Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aksheephuntress Posted May 11, 2008 Report Share Posted May 11, 2008 ....Yes, I agree, here...-be careful! And...if you haven't already...make sure you establish CUSTODY legally...and also, if he ends up asking for regular visitation down the road...GET IT IN WRITING!... ...it doesn't matter if a father has never been in the child's life, and if she has always been with you....if it hasn't been actually LEGALLY delineated yet; NEITHER of you have custody,in the eyes of the law...as against common -sense as this sounds...remember-there is not a whole lot in custody law that IS common sense... and ...DOCUMENT,DOCUMENT,DOCUMENT EVERYTHING!! ..and also...make sure you don't ever say or do anything,from this point on, that can be construed as preventing an "open and loving relationship " with the father...I seriously recomend that you seek some legal help on this...please don't try to handle it all yourself....there are agencies out there that will help you for free, a well... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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