PotashRLS Posted December 19, 2008 Report Share Posted December 19, 2008 My wife took a day of vacation today to finish some Christmas shopping. We have that crappy snowy storm going on and she took our 3 yr old boy with her (90 miles round trip). She was getting his hair cut at the mall in Green Bay so I asked her to call me when they got there so I knew they were managing okay. So she calls me and all is fine, haircut is done and they are catching some lunch near the mall with a "co-worker". So I say that sounds good, who? "Kevin", who apparantly moved internally in the Company recently from Ohio to Green Bay. He is a guy she had been corresponding with as he is also an EMT from Ohio and wants to get Licensed here in Wisconsin. He also is apparantly seeing someone at work and a double date with us recently fell through. I didn't know we were going on the double date until it fell through. So now I am a bit ticked off that she is having lunch with a guy I've never met, and my 3 yr old son is along. Seems funny she insisted in traveling in this weather earlier this morning and that I am not told anything unless I ask. Being a Land Surveyor in Green Bay, I'm working inside today due to the storm and could have met my wife and son for lunch instead had she called and asked me. What do you think???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cinch314 Posted December 19, 2008 Report Share Posted December 19, 2008 As of right now, I dont think there is any thing to it. If you feel the need to ask her about it, just remember to remain calm and tell her that it bothered you a bit just so she would know. Try not to start a fight or anything just be calm and tell her how you felt about it. But if you really suspect something be on the lookout. If she becomes agitated for you telling her how you felt about it or becames mad, then I would start to suspect. It all depends on how you approach the conversation. IMO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BowtechsWife Posted December 20, 2008 Report Share Posted December 20, 2008 I know if I was to take a day off of work to get shopping done, then I would be darn sure to spend it shopping no matter what the weather is like. Days off are too hard to come by. Did you offer to meet your wife for lunch? I rarely invite my hubby to lunch as I know his daily schedule is generally pretty busy - even when he is working from home. In my opinion you have nothing to worry about, but if your on here asking us our opinion I'd say your already worked up. So I would take cinch314 advice and just let her know CALMLY how your feeling. I wouldn't start the conversation off as being suspected of anything. Just let her know that had she asked you'd have been glad to have met them for lunch. Then ask more about the co-worker. Now if your asking if any of us ladies have met male coworkers for lunch before - the answer would be yes. 95% of my coworkers are male. Steve hasn't had the opportunity to meet most of my co-workers over the years, but I've always made a point of letting him know when we've had lunch or any off work activites (bowling, baseball, ect). Most of these activities were last minute plans, so he couldn't attend. I try to let him know before the fact, but if it's something simple as lunch then I don't see the need. If she told you about meeting him for lunch and brought your son along, I'd say you have nothing to worry about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HuntnMa Posted December 20, 2008 Report Share Posted December 20, 2008 I think you need to trust her...at least trust her until she gives you a reason not too....meeting a guy friend for lunch isn't reason enough not to trust her... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Turkeygirl Posted December 20, 2008 Report Share Posted December 20, 2008 I would calmly tell her it bothered you....but I wouldn't jump off the deep end right away....The others made good suggestions here. One day if/when I get married, I want to marry someone who would have enough understanding to let me do fun things with guys I've gone to college with or what not...A reason I don't have a boyfriend right now...I don't like how guys get all worried and possessive over their girl's doing something with another guy...I'll take my singleness for now....like I sometimes say "No guys = no problems". I think your wife was just being nice to the guy, he just moved there.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrswtnhunt Posted December 20, 2008 Report Share Posted December 20, 2008 Maybe the guy just happened to be at the mall too. I agree with the others, don't overreact until you have a reason too. Your son was there with her so I wouldn't worry too much about what happened. You never know, maybe they were just talking about work. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PotashRLS Posted December 22, 2008 Author Report Share Posted December 22, 2008 Thanks for the advice ladies!! We did talk and got things out in the open. I am the talker and she is not, that is part of the problem to begin with. I always seem to be the last to know, but yet I call and tell her where I am and if I'm running late and so on. She is getting unhappy with me having too full of a plate and some day I may elaborate more on our extremely involved life. But anyway, thanks again. I appreciate your helping me out. Merry Christmas and God Bless:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HuntnMa Posted December 24, 2008 Report Share Posted December 24, 2008 hope things continue to look up...........keep talking Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tink Posted December 29, 2008 Report Share Posted December 29, 2008 Ask her to let you read her e mails to this dude. If she says no then you have a problem. This doesn't sound good at all. Bring your Pastor into this Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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