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I'm kinda at a loss for words right now.... But I know I have a family here at realtree that wont mind if words are left out or if it doesn't quite make sense.....

To make a long story short, I got up about 30 min ago to get a glass of water. Saw some stuff sittin by my dads work stuff so I took a glance as i was filling my glass. Now b4 i go on to what it said... he's had about 2 or 3 dr appt's a week for the past 3 or 4 weeks. I never thought anything of it untill tonight. Paper said its from the local hospital's cancer center... ya the c word.... I know Al and Randy have been around me and my dad and know were more then bestfriends. We couldnt live without each other. Seriously I dunno what i would do with out him around. Your prolly thinkin.. then why hasnt he said anything to you. My dad knows how i would take it or maybe hes in denial i dunno. I owe him everything from day one. Taken me hunting with him when i was barely old enough to know what hunting was to being there with me when i shot my first deer with my bow and gun. To helping me train and train to get my dream, playing baseball in college. Hopefully im looking into this further then it is and hopefully its nothing. But I just had to vent. I have vented around this campfire b4 and the great people that make up this forum put up with me. He is sleeping right now and as bad as i want to go wake him up and ask him whats going i will sit here and read posts untill the sun comes up to make sure i dont miss him b4 he leaves for work. If your still reading thank you for letting me vent. If you could keep him in your prayers I would greatly appreciate it!

Stay safe everyone!

-Matt

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Matt;

He needs you as much as you need him, whatever it is, needs to be brought into the daylight. Confront him with what you found and let him know you know. It'll be a big relief for him.

Then pray.........alot.

I agree, when things are out in the open they are easier to take head on. Gods Blessings on your Dad and you.

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Sorry to hear this!

Talk "with" your dad, not "to" your dad! Be very calm and ask him what the doctor had to say and what were the results.

I am sure he is having a tough time trying to figure out how to approach this and needs a little time to sort things out!

Wishing both of you nothing but the best!

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Been there, on the dad end that is.

I can tell you this, and maybe it will help with what your dad is dealing with.

I've never told my kids "I have cancer" either, for a couple of reasons.

#1--Of the 5 cases I've had, the procedures and outcomes were never a guarantee so I didn't want to make a promise I couldn't keep.

#2--I didn't want to worry them about a situation that was out of their control anyway

#3--And it's even tough to type this now without breaking up, but I just couldn't. I didn't have to courage. It may sound harsh to say this, but the prospect of maybe leaving this world and leaving my kids was even more difficult than the prospect of leaving my wife.

There are probably no words that I can express that will help you, but I will tell you this, my kids are the primary reason for me to keep up this fight. I'll never give up, and it's not for me, it's for my kids.

It sure does sound like your dad loves you very much, so I'm sure he's going to fight this as much as he is able. He'll come to you when he's able. I'd suggest you just be there for him.

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Thank you everyone for everything, not gonna lie I got teared up reading through everything. I haven't got a chance to talk to my dad yet other then a few short min on the phone. He told me he had a another dr appt, I said you sure have had alot of dr appts lately, he said yea. And thats pretty much all he said. So I left it alone not wanting to talk about it with him over the phone but face to face. I'm going to let it go alil longer to see if he brings it up. I would rather him come to me when he's ready to talk about it then push the subject. And I know what your sayin Chris, I'm not leavin his side and I will be here for him no matter what. He never left my grandpa or grandmas side when they were ill and I always admired how he not helped take care of one of them but both. I just hope its nothing, thats what I keep telling myself. And well if it is something, I just hope i'm half the man he is. I just got a call from him as i was getting ready to hit submit, he doesnt sound real happy and sounds kinda down, said he was at the store waiting to get his perscription. Will see how it goes when he gets home.

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