mossyhorn Posted March 27, 2009 Report Share Posted March 27, 2009 I am suppost to be selling my bow to I guy I work with. I told him to shoot it and see what he thinks and I would only ask $100 for it. Well it has been a while since he has had it and no money yet. I mean I am not really interested in the money because I have a new bow and the one he has was given to me years ago because I gave a friend my pse so he cold start hunting. I know the guy has a hard time because he is a single dad and make just as much as me. I have a hard enough time with my wife and I and she has a job. I was thinking about just letting him have it, but it has been 4 months and he has not even said anything about paying me for it. Should I ask him about it or just forget it being I was going to let him have it anyway? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
huntcamp Posted March 27, 2009 Report Share Posted March 27, 2009 I would try to bring it up casually and see where that goes. If he plain forgot or something to that affect it is your descretion. If he took it thinking may just give it to him eventually, then things might be different, although $100 is not worth the risk of losing a good friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hunt or be Hunted Posted March 27, 2009 Report Share Posted March 27, 2009 man i dont know Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doc Posted March 27, 2009 Report Share Posted March 27, 2009 Are you sure he is not just taking advantage. Whenever I sense that, I take on an entirely different attitude. If he has simply forgotten about it, perhaps he wasn't the right guy to give it to. If it's going to eventually turn into a gift, it seems that it would be better to give it to someone who will appreciate it, and use it and not throw it in a closet and forget about it. Doc Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arrow32 Posted March 27, 2009 Report Share Posted March 27, 2009 I agree with Doc here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mike13candace Posted March 27, 2009 Report Share Posted March 27, 2009 Ask for small installments... Maybe a dinner or two.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted March 27, 2009 Report Share Posted March 27, 2009 If it's really important to you, I'd say something like "hey, I have another guy that wants to buy that bow, so if you're done with it...." I sold my old Legacy to a buddy for $400. He gave me $300 right away and I haven't seen the other $100 yet. That was almost 2 years ago. This guy is a good friend, and has done at least $100 for me in free labor over the years so it's not that big of a deal for me. Don't know if I'll ever see that money to be honest. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HOYTnMUZZYboy Posted March 27, 2009 Report Share Posted March 27, 2009 I agree with Chris. Could just be an honest mistake. But I would take the approach Chris said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluelund79 Posted March 28, 2009 Report Share Posted March 28, 2009 Times are hard for everyone, if it was a gift, make it so. Especially if he forgot, however if you were taken advantage of, ask for installments or the bow returned. I agree that money is not worth losing a good friend over, but its the principles as well. Let us know how it turns out! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWSmith Posted March 28, 2009 Report Share Posted March 28, 2009 "Hey...You still got that Bow"? How hard is that. It lets him seemingly take the initiative and do something about it, one way or another, and save face. Besides the fact that it will immediately show you just what his intentions were from the start by what he says next. If you decide it becomes a gift...mail him a homemade certificate of ownership and dont say anything about it to his face. The longer you let it go it could become trouble that was needlessly started by you! What I'm sayng is that friendships are not without the risk of infection...wash out the wound before it becomes a festering pustule:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flintlock1776 Posted March 28, 2009 Report Share Posted March 28, 2009 A deal is a deal. He needs to honor his side of the bargain regardless of the amount unless you know he was recently unemployed, sick or something out of the ordinary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
layin on the smackdown Posted March 28, 2009 Report Share Posted March 28, 2009 I have been in situations before where i have had a friend that was interested in getting into the sport...Fortunately, i have had extra bows laying around collecting dust, so i have given them to people as "starter" bows...and in each case, they have passed them on to others to start shooting with. I will never see them again, and honestly, don't care if i do...I just hope they are helping others get into the sport. Heres how i see it...If it was given to you free of charge, i think you should pass it on free of charge...Its not about the money here guys...its about introducing new people to the sport...Its a heck of a nice gesture as well. I would talk to the guy, and say something like..."you know that bow you were going to buy from me?? Well, how about this...buy me a few beers (or whatever) and we'll call it even.." He will be very grateful of that...Or bring it up, and simply tell him not to worry about it...its your pleasure. thats what i would do... JMO... dan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Kat Posted March 28, 2009 Report Share Posted March 28, 2009 If it were me, I'd ask him about it. If he forgot he forgot and should be able to pay for it. If not he'll give it back.....a deals a deal, and a man is only as good as his word! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hatetomiss Posted March 28, 2009 Report Share Posted March 28, 2009 i would ask about it just to see what he would say Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kingfisherfd2 Posted March 29, 2009 Report Share Posted March 29, 2009 I think I would ask him how the bow is shooting for him. I know that I haven't had my bow out since the end of the season. I just needed to not shoot for a little bit. If he has it, but hasn't found the time to shoot it enough to see if it is a good fit, then maybe invite him over for a evening of target practice. I think there are ways to find out what he thinks of the bow. If he says he's been shooting and it is a great shooting bow. Then you can bring the 100 dollars up. Just a way to ease into the conversation. If he doesn't like it, say you might sell it on Ebay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fly Posted March 29, 2009 Report Share Posted March 29, 2009 If it was a good friend this is what I'd do: (Chuck to the shoulder) followed by... Hey "name" when you going to give me that 500.00 dollars for that bow? See how he responds. If he says, yea 500.00 right. I'd like to buy it, but have been putting ya off because I'm trying to get the cash. I'd follow by saying "hey, I want you to have it free of charge." If he says, something else then just do what you feel to be right. At least you'll know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Casey Posted March 30, 2009 Report Share Posted March 30, 2009 man i dont know great advice lol... What I would do is just give him the bow, if money isn't an option for you then let it go. You will be doing him a big favor and will be getting someone else into the world of bowhunting. That to me is priceless.. Just my 02 cents Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arkansas Boy Posted March 31, 2009 Report Share Posted March 31, 2009 see that is a situation where if he offered the money, i'd let him have it for free but it's the offer that counts. To me it's like when you fix a flat for someone, I expect them to offer some sort of compensation, but will never accept it. Bring it up! Based on his response, make your decision. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JimT Posted March 31, 2009 Report Share Posted March 31, 2009 Well, if times are tightfor the guy maybe he could just give you $20.00 a month or something?? Maybe a trade? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mossyhorn Posted April 1, 2009 Author Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Well fixed it today guys... I haven't seen him in a while because we work in different cable systems, but a guy called in today so I went to work up his way. I asked him how the bow was shooting and if he was going to take it turkey hunting this year. He told me he had not really had a chance to shoot it becuase where he has been working has been full up on installs. By time he gtes home he is to tired to shoot. I told him not to worry about it and that if he did like it just to keep it because I never plan on using it anyway. He told me thanks and we went on about something else because hey we're guys and everything that needed to be said was said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jcdeer54 Posted April 8, 2009 Report Share Posted April 8, 2009 Bow I would forget about it, you should think as it was a gift to him and if he is a good guy he will pay you back some day if not dont loose any sleep. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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