Tominator Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 I went with my sister in law (Melanie) to her pre-surgery meeting yesterday. My brother, Melanie's mom and step dad were there too. Mel was diagnosed with cancer last week. She has the invasive type, but the tumor is fairly small (2.5 cm-3 cm). It was different, sitting off her shoulder with my brother on her right throughout that appointment. I've been there so many times myself. I felt helpless. I know exactly what she's going through. I noticed her mannerisms and fidgeting when the doctor was explaining the process of her treatment, been there too. I just wanted somehow to jump inside her soul to let her know everything is going to be OK, whatever happens, things will be OK. Tough seeing my brother go through that too. Anyway, just venting I guess. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craig mack Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 I'm sorry to hear that Chris. Thats got to be so tough to have to deal with, and I know unfortunatly you are way to familiar with it. Prayers sent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hammerforged Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 Thoughts and prayers are with all concerned. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ohiobucks Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 For the forum members who have not had the privilege to meet Chris (Tominator), here is another example of the type of person he is. This guy has been through it all, stood tall and beat it down. Being there for someone who is going through the same thing he has been through multiple times, lending her his strength and knowledge, I would expect nothing less out of Chris. I know I bust your chops almost on a daily basis in here Chris, but I have nothing but respect for you my friend. Keep up the good work. Continued prayers going out from the Howard's for Mel's full recovery. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mike13candace Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 Sorry to here that... My wife had Melanoma 6-years ago.. so I've been in your shoes.. Just be there through it all... talk to her all you can... stay close.. treatments are tough.. I wished I could have traded places many times.. Hang in there...enjoy every moment... keep us posted.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
c_lou Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 I honestly wouldn't have expected you to be anywhere else. Lend her your strength. God Bless you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 Been some rough times here lately for sure bud. Got to agree with Tom too, know you well enough to know that we would expect nothing less. Will certainly keep Melanie and your family in our prayers Chris. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWSmith Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 If you need anything Chris the number has not changed;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WHISKEYSWAMP Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 hope all goes well with her treatment... prayers on the way for your family and for a full recovery. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 you did great chris. right through the deja' vous episodes. prayers said for a full recovery. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 Vent away brother Bart. I too know what it's like to sit there and wonder. You're all in our prayers Chris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hunt or be Hunted Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 Chris i know you dont know me but by the chat but if you need ANYTHING!! im just a Pm away! prayers sent out my friend. Jeremy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HCO Team Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 Your sister-in-law is very fortunate to have her husband and yourself in her life... This strength and love will conquer! Lisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AdvantageTimberLou Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 Thoughts and prayers heading your direction buddy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NS whitetail Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 my prayers go out to all involved Chris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doog3 Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 prayers send Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
515deerhunter Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 will send a prayer you and your family, hope everything turns out for the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted May 1, 2009 Author Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 Thanks folks, just needed to get that out I guess. I just got back from dropping my 7 year old over there to spend the night with his cousin. Melanie had her MRI today to help pinpoint the location and size of the tumor. She showed me her schedule of what's upcoming. She has nothing going on this coming Thursday, but every other day has something going on in the way of appointments or tests for the rest of the week. I went over them with her and let her know what she could expect. (I've had all of them). Everytime I went to leave she asked me another question. We'd get done talking and I thought she was done I'd say "well, better get out of your hair..." or something to that effect, but she kept asking me questions, or bringing up new topics of discussion. I guess you have to know her. She's a bit of a paper tiger. She's a tough SOB any other time, talks a big game, but she's scared now. She'd never admit it, but it's showing, at least to me. After the 3rd time of trying to leave, I got the hint and hung around until they had to leave for a function with their oldest son. I was happy to stay. I don't know why I'm telling you guys this. I'm not looking for "good job Chris" type comments. I guess, selfishly, it helps me cope with what she's going through. A bit of a catharsis for me. I've often tried to make sense of why I have to go through what I have to go through. I don't know if I'll ever figure it out, or if I'm even supposed to, but I know that I've learned that we are here for each other, to get each other through the valleys so that we can enjoy, and better yet, recognize the peaks, together. Maybe this is why. Maybe this is why I had to go through what I've gone through, so that I can help Melanie. Sounds crazy, I know, but helps to make sense of it. Thanks for the ear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OJR Posted May 2, 2009 Report Share Posted May 2, 2009 Chris, you are doing a great deed to help her out. People need shoulders to rest on! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhino Posted May 2, 2009 Report Share Posted May 2, 2009 I hear ya. Prayers going out for you, Mel, and the rest of the family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nut Posted May 2, 2009 Report Share Posted May 2, 2009 Chris, thank you for sharing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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