Gator Posted May 22, 2009 Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 Bear with me folks, but I need some advice. I moved to Oklahoma 10yrs ago to be with what is now my ex-wife. As most know, two years ago we divorced. At that time, I almost left. Now, two years later, those feelings about wanting to go somewhere else are back. The thing is, the economic state of things I am scared to take that leap. I really have nothing holding me to Oklahoma, minus a GOOD job, but that to is in some jeopardy, due to the state of the oilfield and associated avenues. The thing is I could walk away from my house and not care. But I have two daughters there that i think it would devastate, esp my youngest, who is actually my step daughter, but my daughter nonetheless. The thing is I just don't know where I would go, but Oklahoma just doesn't feel like home anymore. I'm at an age to that I don't know how easy or hard it will be to find a good decent paying job. I'm gonna talk to my girls to see how they feel about it, but wanted to get some outside input. I think coming back to Florida has had some impact on this, as well as some other factors. I just don't know what to do Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MCH Posted May 22, 2009 Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 I say do whatever your heart tells you. Just make sure you're leaving for the right reasons. Also, I hope you didn't mean that you're letting your home go back to the bank? That type of thing will follow you to Florida and make it extremely difficult for you there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gator Posted May 22, 2009 Author Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 (edited) I don't know that I would come to Florida, I don't know where I would go. Being here though just makes me see what I have missed out on being away from "home". and how selfish I was at the time. Nebraska has come to mind amognst some places, But yeah, if it came to that, the bank could have the house, I don't think I would care. I know that's bad, but if I couldn't sell, I wouldn't let that keep me in oklahoma. Edited May 22, 2009 by Gator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Kat Posted May 22, 2009 Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 Well I'd miss ya, but I understand. One question........whats in Nebraska? Sell your house first, don't let it go back to the bank. It would make things very difficult for you later on as far as credit goes. The oilfield is picking back up too. Oil is over 50$ a barrel. You've been in it long enough it comes and goes in swings.....right now is just a down time. You have a great job and a lot of time invested.....I doubt you find anything close to that anywhere else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hutchies Posted May 22, 2009 Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 Sit down and make you a list gator of the reasons you want to go and the reasons you would want to stay. Sounds like you already made your mind up. Sell the house..............It will give you some extra cash in your pocket and then make the move. Don't screw your credit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OJR Posted May 22, 2009 Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 At this time with the economy the way it is, I wouldn't any circumstance quit a full-time job and go searching for something else! Hang in there and change your "wondering" shorts for something more stable! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted May 22, 2009 Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 At this time with the economy the way it is, I wouldn't any circumstance quit a full-time job and go searching for something else! Hang in there and change your "wondering" shorts for something more stable! Pretty much the way I feel, but it is your life. Sometimes we all get the itch for change. When I get those feelings, I force myself to "sleep on it" for a few days and see what happens. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redkneck Posted May 22, 2009 Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 I'm with Chris and Orlan. Things will be a lot better for you and your daughters in due time i think. Oil field work comes and goes, we all know that, but should be on the upswing soon enough. Think about what's best for your daughters at this point in their life. Young girls are emotional enough as it is without Daddy having to pick up and move. Florida will always be there for you, and you'll be back south I bet sooner than you think. Besides, you're getting to old to make a big move like that! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gator Posted May 22, 2009 Author Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 I slept on it last night a little, and I know I would be stupid to up and leave, especially with the economy this way. One thing is, this is the longest I have lived in one place in twenty years!!!!! Being in the military I was always moving every couple. maybe that's it. I don't even know where I would go, my family is in Alabama, but there is nothing there for me to do as well. I got kinda depressed yesterday driving around and seeing how things had changed, and reminiscing a little bit, and that just got me to thinking back a little bit. It's just a weird feeling being here. I'm sure, just like last time, this to shall come to pass. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawg Posted May 22, 2009 Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 I thought I was ready for a change when I moved to Mississippi last year. Even though I liked the place it just didn't feel right so the better part of nine months later, I'm back in Texas. That wasn't the only reason we decided to come back though. Had our house sold in the alloted time then we would have stayed, but something tells me I would have ended back home in Texas sooner or later . Take time to ponder on it, the actual act of moving sucks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
okiedog Posted May 22, 2009 Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 I got kinda depressed yesterday driving around and seeing how things had changed, and reminiscing a little bit, and that just got me to thinking back a little bit. Jason, I feel the same way everytime I go back and visit where I grew up. There have been several times I wanted to leave it all behind and go back to my roots. Its a common feeling. Then, I consider my job, house, land, etc. that I have worked for over the years. This is my home now, and I was never one for alot of change but thats me. If you decided to do something like this make sure you do it for the right reasons. Just make sure you wont have regrets a few months down the line after you leave it all behind. No one can make that choice for you, and I dont want to cook my own fish..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Kat Posted May 22, 2009 Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 and I dont want to cook my own fish..... Dude you can't go....I just thought of this!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fly Posted May 22, 2009 Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 Sounds like you're staying for now. If this feeling re-surfaces then think about why you're really wanting to leave. Is a passing feeling or somehting you'd take with you even if you did move. Sounds like your kids need ya so you might want to try some traveling first. Visit some places you may want to live, then if you really like a place and still want to move go for it. BTW... You always got a home here on the forums. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Finn Posted May 22, 2009 Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 After 23 years in the Air Force, I'm getting the itch to change jobs and move again too....after just under 2 years. Put the shack up for sale and see what happens. It'll give you time to see if you wanna move, and if your house has the chance to sell. tough to give up a decent job right now though. Good luck buddy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gator Posted May 22, 2009 Author Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 The reasons I'd be leaving are pretty stupid in retrospect really. I know I can't find anything that will pay close to what I make now. I just want a change sometimes. Work is not that great, and sometimes I just feel the need to get away. It's hard to explain. I'll ride it out a little longer and see what happens. Thanks everyone. It's much appreciated Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ruttinbuc Posted May 22, 2009 Report Share Posted May 22, 2009 I wish I had a job to go to. I look to faraway places and realize it is a big move and question if I would ever regret it. Trouble with living in one spot and getting tied to it I guess. Even with a skilled trade or a sheepskin the going is pretty tough almost everywhere for jobs. Sure there are "jobs," but hardly any that really bring home the bacon. I would hang in there and hope that things get a lot better before I'd leave or forced to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted May 23, 2009 Report Share Posted May 23, 2009 i think i'd wait a while to make any major decisions Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hungry hunter Posted May 23, 2009 Report Share Posted May 23, 2009 +1 On following your heart, You are entiltled to be happy whever you are at! You got your other family here at the forums. Anyhow if you come back to florida you already know the job market is pretty low, unless you are in the Medical field or Law Enforcement. They are pretty secure jobs but can hit them also. For the right reasons you will make the right choice. The boat is still gassed up:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWSmith Posted May 23, 2009 Report Share Posted May 23, 2009 LOL...sounds like someone had a brush with the infamous "Mid-Life Crisis" syndrome! Sounds like you've got through it unscathed;) Think Positive....At least you did'nt feel the need to compensate for anything and go out to buy a Corvette:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TigerLily Posted May 23, 2009 Report Share Posted May 23, 2009 Do what your heart tells you. It's your life and if something feels right, go for it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
okiedog Posted May 23, 2009 Report Share Posted May 23, 2009 I just want a change sometimes. Try wearing your underwear on the outside of your pants and see how you feel about change at the end of the week:eek::D:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted May 23, 2009 Report Share Posted May 23, 2009 (edited) You got me thinking back to when I went on that Tennessee Hog hunt. After the hunt, on the way home,I made a stop-over for a week where my family is, and where I was born and raised. I borrowed my sister's car and just drove around for a couple of days. I visited places I used to hang out, places I used to hunt, etc, etc. Everywhere I went were memory flashbacks (most good, some bad) and I started to feel that I wish I never left Niagara Falls. When I got home however, and slept and dreamed on it, I realized that my feelings of missing out on something were really no more than wishful thinking. "If" this, and "if" that. If I was to move back there now, I would just be chasing rainbows. The reality of things isn't always pleasant, but it's a safer bet than chasing rainbows Edited May 23, 2009 by buckee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gator Posted May 23, 2009 Author Report Share Posted May 23, 2009 You got me thinking back to when I went on that Tennessee Hog hunt. After the hunt, on the way home,I made a stop-over for a week where my family is, and where I was born and raised. I borrowed my sister's car and just drove around for a couple of days. I visited places I used to hang out, places I used to hunt, etc, etc. Everywhere I went were memory flashbacks (most good, some bad) and I started to feel that I wish I never left Niagara Falls. When I got home however, and slept and dreamed on it, I realized that my feelings of missing out on something were really no more than wishful thinking. "If" this, and "if" that. If I was to move back there now, I would just be chasing rainbows. The reality of things isn't always pleasant, but it's a safer bet that chasing rainbows Steve, you hit the nail on the head there. There are alot of "whatifs" going on. I don't regret leaving when I did, it was something that I had to do at the time. I guess it's just natural to feel this way. Think this is the main reason I never wanted to come back here, not coming back I never would know what I may have missed out on. Hopefully when I get back to Oklahoma this will all change. I can't afford to up and leave!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted May 23, 2009 Report Share Posted May 23, 2009 Hang in there Jason. Sometimes it pays to be impulsive, but not very often Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NS whitetail Posted May 24, 2009 Report Share Posted May 24, 2009 you can get all the input that you want jason............. but only you know how your heart feels I wish you all the best Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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