The_Kat Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 Well I just made a decision I pray I do not regret. I called the company I've been waiting to go to work for and told them about Jennifer getting ready to have her baby. I told them I didn't want to put them in a tough spot by having to replace me, and they said they would send someone else in my place and abruptly got off the phone. I could have went to work for a week and then took an emergency leave in which woulda shut the project down til my replacement arrived... I'm just praying that I made the right choice and that I get sent out shortly after Cash is born. I don't think I could have lived with myself for not being here for Jenn when the time came. I figure things will work themselves out and what is meant to be will be. I just hope I didn't screw myself out of a job by not going when they finally called me to ship out today. Guess we will see.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hardwood_HD Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 family comes first.. youll be fine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
okiedog Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 No one can tell you if you made the right choice. Yes... you proable screwed yourself with that company, and now is not the time to be looking for a job. On the other hand... I proable would have made the same choice as you...birth of your children is something you dont want to miss if you have the choice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
woolybear Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 For what it's worth- I think you made a SUPER call you wont regret. Momma will need alot of help when baby Cash arives and you will need to be there for both of them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hunt or be Hunted Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 family comes first.. youll be fine Ditto buddy ya got to be there for momma. it will be ok. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TennesseeTurkey Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 family comes first.. youll be fine Ditto, this is what I was going to sat until he beat me to it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
layin on the smackdown Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 You did the right thing Kyle...Your child is only born once, going to work happens all the time. If your employment with this company is screwed now, oh well, their loss. You will get on somewhere else. Hopefully thats not the case, but ultimately, life goes on, and you will be there for your wife and child...Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hutchies Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 Brother without a doubt you made the right decision. Jen has some rough days ahead of her and she will need you there. I'm glad you stayed and just remember that money isn't always the biggest factor. It's not worth taking the chance of something happening and you not being there because you would never let yourself live it down. Keep your head up bub.............we all have to make choices in life. Many times it comes down to money or family.......... Just remember that money can't buy you the love and affection your family can give you. It will work itself out........The good Lord has a plan you just haven't seen yet. Hutchies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gator Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 No one can tell you if you made the right choice. Yes... you proable screwed yourself with that company, and now is not the time to be looking for a job. On the other hand... I proable would have made the same choice as you...birth of your children is something you dont want to miss if you have the choice. Gotta agree with Trey here Kyle. I missed the birth of my daughter, I didn't have a choice, and ALMOST missed my son's, there again, I really didn't have a choice, being in the Army both times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 Well I just made a decision I pray I do not regret. I called the company I've been waiting to go to work for and told them about Jennifer getting ready to have her baby. I told them I didn't want to put them in a tough spot by having to replace me, and they said they would send someone else in my place and abruptly got off the phone. I could have went to work for a week and then took an emergency leave in which woulda shut the project down til my replacement arrived... I'm just praying that I made the right choice and that I get sent out shortly after Cash is born. I don't think I could have lived with myself for not being here for Jenn when the time came. I figure things will work themselves out and what is meant to be will be. I just hope I didn't screw myself out of a job by not going when they finally called me to ship out today. Guess we will see.... Reason I highlighted that portion bud, it is your baby too. Your wife is about to have your baby, you really need to be there if at all possible. Really no choice there to be made in my opinion. The people you work for will either understand and appreciate your honesty or they will not. Think you would regret it if you were not there. If your employer does not appreciate you enough to understand, it probably would have been a matter of time before family caused parting ways anyway. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NS whitetail Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 You did the right thing Kyle...Your child is only born once, going to work happens all the time. If your employment with this company is screwed now, oh well, their loss. You will get on somewhere else. Hopefully thats not the case, but ultimately, life goes on, and you will be there for your wife and child...Good luck! yup............. you got it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texastrophies Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 Don't worry your union will take care of you.:D:D Just had to get a jab in at you. You definitely made the right decision. When I read the thread about you going to work, I thought to myself that wasn't good. I am sure everything will work out with your job just fine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sskybnd Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 buddy i know you made the right choice in being there when cash is born, thats one thing in life that cant be beat, and thats when you get to hold your new baby when its only a few minutes old. and being there for jenn and the baby when they need you, im sure your bosses know what you are going through about telling them that you have to pass on this up coming job becouse of the baby, im sure things will work out for you, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RangerClay Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 family comes first.. youll be fine Ditto!!!!! You really need to be there for your first born. My first born was 7-1/2 yeas ago and I remember it like it was yesterday. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adjam5 Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 Tough decision no doubt Kyle...But like everyone said Family comes first;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shaun_300 Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 Very tough decision to make Kyle, but I know you made the right one. Even if it means you need to find another job with a different company, you will not regret being there with Jenn when your little lad is born. That's something I wouldn't miss for anything! Family first bud. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redkneck Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 No doubt about it, man, family comes first. If I wouldnt have been there for my wife, things would have worked out, once i got all my crap out of the yard and found a place to rent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OJR Posted June 9, 2009 Report Share Posted June 9, 2009 You did the right thing. What it comes down to, is what kind of a company you are working for. Time will tell how that shakes out! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mike Posted June 10, 2009 Report Share Posted June 10, 2009 You made the right choice Kyle. I am proud of ya man:cool: Jobs can and will be replaced, the moment you lay eyes on your child for the first time can not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWSmith Posted June 10, 2009 Report Share Posted June 10, 2009 It is something that takes a lifetime and is earned.... "Loving Husband and Father" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redkneck Posted June 10, 2009 Report Share Posted June 10, 2009 You made the right choice Kyle. I am proud of ya man:cool: Jobs can and will be replaced, the moment you lay eyes on your child for the first time can not. Just hope it doesnt go like my experience. I'm gazing at my two girls in the nursery after leaving the operating room and that's when my mother in law decides to tell me my father in law had cancer. Man, what an idiotic thing to do. I'm sorry, but I dont think i can ever forgive her for that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted June 10, 2009 Report Share Posted June 10, 2009 Just hope it doesnt go like my experience. I'm gazing at my two girls in the nursery after leaving the operating room and that's when my mother in law decides to tell me my father in law had cancer. Man, what an idiotic thing to do. I'm sorry, but I dont think i can ever forgive her for that. Don't know your situation and not to highjack the thread here, but maybe she thought it best for you to know so you could find the right time to tell your wife. Agree it would probably have been better to wait until after the babies were home, but there really is never a good time for that kind of news and maybe they hid it from your wife and you through the pregnancy and she just could not hold it in any longer. My wife was just a couple months pregnant with our first daughter when I was told by my father in law that my mother in law had cancer. Really a very tough situation to be in and it is extremely difficult to find the best time to tell your spouse something like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redkneck Posted June 10, 2009 Report Share Posted June 10, 2009 That was exactly how it was William. Again, not to hijack here, but they thought it would be best to tell my wife about the lymphoma before she got out. I was pretty upset to say the least, and demanded no one tell her before she got home. So here i go with two new babies to see my wife recovering. Happiest day of my life, saddest? My wife knew something was wrong, and assumed one of the girls had a disease or somehting. Man that was one hard burden to bare for about 2 weeks. She had a c-section and i wanted her to get over the surgery before dropping that on her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted June 10, 2009 Report Share Posted June 10, 2009 Pretty sure you have a legal right to be there anyway. If the comany fires you, you have legal avenues to right the situation. http://www.babycenter.com/0_paternity-leave-what-are-the-options-for-dads_8258.bc Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted June 10, 2009 Report Share Posted June 10, 2009 That was exactly how it was William. Again, not to hijack here, but they thought it would be best to tell my wife about the lymphoma before she got out. I was pretty upset to say the least, and demanded no one tell her before she got home. So here i go with two new babies to see my wife recovering. Happiest day of my life, saddest? My wife knew something was wrong, and assumed one of the girls had a disease or somehting. Man that was one hard burden to bare for about 2 weeks. She had a c-section and i wanted her to get over the surgery before dropping that on her. You are right it is a tough burden to bare. If anything, being on the side of having to hide the news from my wife, who I never kept any secrets from, I maybe had a bit of understanding to the perspective of my inlaws. Never had anything against them for putting it on me, kind of felt like it should have been my responsibility to decide when to tell her and if anything I guess I appreciated that they did not indiscretely tell her at a time that might have sent my wife into any kind of depressed situation while being pregnant. Lots of guys don't think so much of their mother in laws, but I tell you what, I miss mine terribly. She was a really good woman, kept her husband straight and she cared deeply for her kids and for my daughter. Real shame my younger 2 daughters never got the opportunity to know her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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