coles Posted September 23, 2009 Report Share Posted September 23, 2009 guys im madder than a nest full of hornets hit with a weedeater. Ive been planning on goin to my girlfriend's family's ranch Oct. 24th and helping them move their cattle from one of their ranches to their other one and then Hunting their 4000 acres up in the mountains opening day Oct. 25th. Ive been planning this for almost 6 months and been tryin to find someone to work for me on the 25th for like 2 or 3 weeks. Well today i find out that my cousin and all my family from Louisiana is coming up here and she is getting married in my home town on the 24th at 5pm. I dont know what to do now. Im thinking im goin to have to go to the wedding, jump in the truck, and drive 3 1/2 hours to their ranch in Lewistown MT. Ugh....she could have picked the week before hunting season. Now im goin to feel bad for having to leave so soon after the wedding and then ill feel bad for just showing up to hunt without helping them move cows. Im torn..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sskybnd Posted September 23, 2009 Report Share Posted September 23, 2009 well if it was me, being i had pryer aragments. helping move the cattle, i would send my condolences, buy the wedding gifts and give them to the couple after i got done hunting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted September 23, 2009 Report Share Posted September 23, 2009 You'll just have to apologize and tell your cousin you have to work out of town that day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coles Posted September 24, 2009 Author Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 man you guys arent makin this any easier. lol. i feel like i need to go but i also have been planning to help move cattle too. I just feel like alot of family would be disappointed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sskybnd Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 well they might be disapopointed, but they didnt give you heads up on the wedding, and you did agree to help move the cattle, and im sure they will still be in town after the wedding,so i would hold to my arragments made pryer to the wedding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWSmith Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 man you guys arent makin this any easier. lol. i feel like i need to go but i also have been planning to help move cattle too. I just feel like alot of family would be disappointed. Because you kept your word? Family will get over it.......If they dont they have problems! I have not been at a "Family" Thanksgiving Dinner since 1998 since thats the week I hunt with my Father out of state. If they want to spend time with us during that week they know where Dad and I are at...LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adjam5 Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 You haven't committed to going to the wedding yet right? But you have committed to moving the cattle right? I would keep the prior commitment and send a gift to the bride. Good Luck hunting;). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
woolybear Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 Tell her you'll be at the next one :nono: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norm Sauceman Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 Never did make any of my cousins weddings...what's the worry? This was already planned. Are you giving the bride away? GO HUNT!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redkneck Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 Dude, ditch the wedding! Weddings come and go, and she's only your cousin, so that's almost like a complete stranger! :clown: Trying to make it easier for you. GO HUNTING!!!!! Crap they'll video the whole thing anyway, so it's just like watching a ballgame on Tivo the next day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ruttinbuc Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 I would hang out long to say best wishes and hello and be heading to move cattle. If they can't understand that you have a life, as well as a prior commitment then that is on them. I am sure they will understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dartonman Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 Im in agreement.....I would come up with that you may of contracted the H1N1 virus, and feel ill, and do not want to expose anyone on their wedding day due to symptoms, and your phone is off, and you will be resting in a hotel room......cowboy up buddy, your moving cattle............al Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prairiepredator Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 It is not very often a person gets the opportunity to hunt on a place like you plan to, but weddings happen all the time! They don't need to know the exact reason for you not being there anyways. Go hunting! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 look, you are going to let someone down. your girlfriends family (and your promises) or your cousin. i like the "prior commitment" statement. buy her a gift, go move the cattle, an get on with life. you made a promise. keep it. and heck, may as well go hunting as long as you're there... lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coles Posted September 24, 2009 Author Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 well guys. here is my problem. Her family is coming up here to MT from Louisiana to have her wedding. I havent seen her family in a couple years. So that part i would feel bad about. And my other problem is that my Mom is goin to put a guilt trip on me for missing out on on a family wedding to go help out my girlfriend's family. My mom is good at guilt trips and even though im 22 years old she still makes me feel lower than a snake's belly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dakota Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 well guys. here is my problem. Her family is coming up here to MT from Louisiana to have her wedding. I havent seen her family in a couple years. So that part i would feel bad about. And my other problem is that my Mom is goin to put a guilt trip on me for missing out on on a family wedding to go help out my girlfriend's family. My mom is good at guilt trips and even though im 22 years old she still makes me feel lower than a snake's belly. Bud, you're 22 years old and an adult (legally, technically, however you want to put it in terms for mom ) you have to make your own decisions. You made a prior commitment, a promise no less or correct me if I'm wrong, and you need to hold up your end of the bargain. Trust me, family will understand. Dakota Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plannerman Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 Family will come and go....it's the hunting that's forever!!!! You've committed to moving cattle and hunting...too bad the family is imposing on YOUR PLANS. Guilt trip??? At 22, you'd better prepare for a lifetime of women putting on the guilt trip!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jesse8953 Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 (edited) Go to do what you had already planned!To get notified about a wedding a month in advance,is not your problem you had other plans.Sounds like a shotgun wedding.{I aint tring to be disrespectfull.}You already planned to help someone out.Now how would you feel if someone did that to you.I would be p.o.ed, but that is J.M.O.How many years do you think that offer will exist if you let your g.f.'s family hang like that.Are you that close to your cousin and there partner you would risk that oppertunity to help & hunt for many years to come.Or go to a wedding for 1 night,only a few hours, that you might talk to you cousin for a few min. because they have lots of people to see.Go do your job and have fun hunting.Your Mom might understand if you talk to here about your situation.Good luck and let everyone know how that weekend goes for you. Edited September 24, 2009 by jesse8953 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWSmith Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 Let your Mom know you Love her... then say BYE....Your going to be with your Girlfriend;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nut Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 coles...it is pretty easy most of the time to get forgiveness from family members. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swohiodave Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 send a gift with your parents and take your trip. you committed to your girlfriends family, don't break it. no one will miss you at the wedding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texastrophies Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 Let your conscious be your guide. Maybe look at it from the other side, how would you feel if you went to Louisiana to get married and your cousin didn't show up? If it is only a 3 1/2 hour trip, I would think you should be able to do both. Besides, if you were to take your girlfriend to the wedding, you would probably rack up some brownie points with her, if she is into that kind of thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OJR Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 You need to go on the cattle drive and then go hunting! No guilt at all! If your cousin was so concerned about the family, they would have notified ALL of you in advance! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 You need to go on the cattle drive and then go hunting! No guilt at all! If your cousin was so concerned about the family, they would have notified ALL of you in advance! Anyone with a conscience is going to feel guilty no matter which choice is made, but since a commitment was already made before the wedding plans, I'd go with your first commitment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joeaveragehunter Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 wow, Tough one. In my opinion, three and one half hours doesn't give you a pass on the wedding. Can you not be superman to everyone and move the cattle drive back to the wedding and back up to hunt. My hunting spot is 3 1/2 hours away and I do day trips to change batteries help neighbors with chores and so forth without a second thought. If the hunting is that important to you I think you can make it work. Us hunters are resourcesful folk who can accomplish the impossible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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