coles Posted September 24, 2009 Author Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 wow, Tough one. In my opinion, three and one half hours doesn't give you a pass on the wedding. Can you not be superman to everyone and move the cattle drive back to the wedding and back up to hunt. My hunting spot is 3 1/2 hours away and I do day trips to change batteries help neighbors with chores and so forth without a second thought. If the hunting is that important to you I think you can make it work. Us hunters are resourcesful folk who can accomplish the impossible. The cattle drive starts at 6am. They have to drive the cows 22-24 miles. There is no way we would be done in time for me to drive back, clean up, and be ready to go at 5pm for the wedding. I have to do some heavy thinkin on this one. Im one of those people who feels really guilty about something like this if i let people down. So i dont know. Still got a month to figure it out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redkneck Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 You must be a lot closer to your cousins than me. The only time I went to their weddings was when I was in them, and vice versa! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arrow32 Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 Ditch the wedding!! Who cares they'll get over it I ditch family things all the time when I already have plans to be doing something. Heck a cattle drive will be better anyway. Oh and I never go to any of my cousins wedding no take that back 2 and that was because I was little no choice in the matter. They'll get over so just go cattle drivin!!! If you don't your nuts! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 Ultimately you have to go with your conscience. Try not to let the guilt trips you expect to have coming sway your decision. With that being said, I would probably make my best effort to explain to the family that I had prior commitments, and for that reason would be unable to be at the ceremony. Should still get time to spend visit before hand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orion_70 Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 That is a tough spot. I don't know when they are arriving, but I would assume befor friday night. I'd stick around, meet, greet, see the family and then say, I gotta go, I have a prior commitment I need to attend to, I wish I would have known earlier about the wedding and could have made other arrangements. Best wishes......... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dakota Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 "And this is how it shall be: a man shall leave his father and mother and cling to his wife and they shall become one flesh..." Mom's gonna have to give ya' up at some point! Trust me, I'm trying to work with my mom on this too. Good luck! Dakota Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redkneck Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 "And this is how it shall be: a man shall leave his father and mother and cling to his wife and they shall become one flesh..." Dakota Didn't say anything in there about a cousin's wedding did it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kidd Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 mom will get over it...trust me...plus you can watch the wedding later:) and this will give family something to talk about:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OJR Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 Anyone with a conscience is going to feel guilty no matter which choice is made, but since a commitment was already made before the wedding plans, I'd go with your first commitment. A person's "conscience" should NOT be guided by "fear and guilt"! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 "And this is how it shall be: a man shall leave his father and mother and cling to his wife and they shall become one flesh..." Mom's gonna have to give ya' up at some point! Trust me, I'm trying to work with my mom on this too. Good luck! Dakota You are wise beyond your years buddy. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 A person's "conscience" should NOT be guided by "fear and guilt"! OH wise one ...what is your conscience guided by, pray tell ?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhino Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 If the weddings on the 24th, the rehearsal is probably on the 23rd and they will probably arrive in MT a day or 2 before that at the very least. Sounds like you will have some time to see them and give them a wedding gift before you take off for the cattle drive. First in first out rule (FIFO) applies here. Your 1st commitment was to help with the cattle drive and then go hunting. That's what I'd do. For the record, last year a good friend of mine had no choice but to schedule his wedding on Oct. 3rd. He was a lot closer to me than any of my cousins. I had been trying to pattern a P&Y 10 point prior to his wedding date being set. I got them a wedding gift and told them if I killed the 10 point prior to the wedding I'd be there. If not, they knew where I'd be. I didn't make the wedding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hutchies Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 Coles.................grow a set and tell mommy you already promised to help them. If mom can't accept it that is her problem. You had prior arrangements and told these people you would help them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redkneck Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 OH wise one ...what is your conscience guided by, pray tell ?? uhh.... deer jerkey and testosterone? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OJR Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 OH wise one ...what is your conscience guided by, pray tell ?? By myself and having respect for people who have different opinions! Nothing magical about it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dakota Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 You are wise beyond your years buddy. ;) I try... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 look, you are going to let someone down. your girlfriends family (and your promises) or your cousin. i like the "prior commitment" statement. buy her a gift, go move the cattle, an get on with life. you made a promise. keep it. and heck, may as well go hunting as long as you're there... lol. i've read all the posts so far, and i'll stick by this. first thought i had. give your cousin a wedding gift, tell your mom you'll decide what to do all by yourself, and fulfill your commitments as they were promised. if your family can't understand doing the right thing, that's not your problem. besides, who gets married during hunting season. your cousins obviously have no class.... :pop: lol now, as for your mother and her guilt trip. just tell her "mom, you raised me to do the right thing and i'm doing it". that will sink her bobber... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 By myself and having respect for people who have different opinions! Nothing magical about it! Yeah, that's what I figured:rolleyes: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hunterbobb Posted September 25, 2009 Report Share Posted September 25, 2009 Inconsiderate cousins rate no consideration. You planned your hunt now hunt your plan. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coles Posted September 25, 2009 Author Report Share Posted September 25, 2009 I have made up my mind.....Im goin to help move cows like I told them I would......AND IM GOIN HUNTING!!!!!!!!!!! That is if my girlfriend can get the same time off for work. She just got a job in the shoe department of the same sporting goods store i work in so hopefully we can both get that weekend off of work. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OJR Posted September 25, 2009 Report Share Posted September 25, 2009 I have made up my mind.....Im goin to help move cows like I told them I would......AND IM GOIN HUNTING!!!!!!!!!!! That is if my girlfriend can get the same time off for work. She just got a job in the shoe department of the same sporting goods store i work in so hopefully we can both get that weekend off of work. Good for you! I hope you enjoy the cattle drive and the hunting! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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