The Ring ? for the guys/gals who r married


MichiganHunter

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Ok, so my girlfriend dosen't use this sight AT ALL so I'm safe talking about this here, I started saving for an engagement ring and was wondering (given I'm in college) how much most of you think is enough on a ring (I really got NO idea)....I kind of thought twice what I've spend on my most expensive gun...so a t.c. pro hunter with a nikon scope at 1100, so I was thinking like 2200-3000, is that normal or is that not enough?...given It will take me almost a year to put that much away.

Ladies you can chip in too

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When it comes down to it...... spend what you can afford!

Fingers crossed on your soon to be engagement! :clap:

wellll, if I only spend what I can afford I'll swing down by my local grocery store and drop a quarter in the gum ball machine...lol...but I get what you mean...and it's not going to be SUPER soon, I am just planning ahead.

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Thing is it is not about the price.....she wants to know that you spent time lookin for a ring, the perfect ring. What you need to know it what she find important such as the cut and color. If she prefers something that has a big diamond that sticks out or something with small diamonds that lay low and wont get caught on things. After all of this begin a long search. I spend 3 months looking for one. I went to countless stores. Dont just pick the first thing you see wait until you find the one that grabs you. Trust me they know. I went with a guy to look at ring once and he picked the first thing in his price range. He asked 3 times with a no because he didnt try to find a ring she like just something to get it over with. Thats all I got.

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Thing is it is not about the price.....she wants to know that you spent time lookin for a ring, the perfect ring. What you need to know it what she find important such as the cut and color. If she prefers something that has a big diamond that sticks out or something with small diamonds that lay low and wont get caught on things. After all of this begin a long search. I spend 3 months looking for one. I went to countless stores. Dont just pick the first thing you see wait until you find the one that grabs you. Trust me they know. I went with a guy to look at ring once and he picked the first thing in his price range. He asked 3 times with a no because he didnt try to find a ring she like just something to get it over with. Thats all I got.

That sounds like a man with experience there...good advice. I got engaged in may, but i was given the diamond that was my mothers when she passed in 2002. That being said, i had the rock but didn't know what type of ring to get...so when she went out of town for a week, i dug through all of her crap and found one consistency, none of her rings were bulky (thank god), so i went with her type of personality....simple but elegant...

thats all i got, good luck!

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The decision that can haunt ya. Since ya don't know. Colette's first ring was a horse, Buckskin Appolosa (650.00), then white gold with 5 diamonds(500.00) set so they don't catch on anything that was perfect. Our matching wedding bands that were custom made and one of a kind with two horses running together were 1100. Use common sence and buy what is practical and what ya can afford. Good luck.

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I agree that the price is really not what counts here.

Steve knew that I like emeralds way more than diamonds but we were living in this tiny hick town back then (32 yrs ago) and there wasn't an emerald anywhere in the area. Instead he bought a diamond ring and had the jeweler send it to vancouver to take out the diamond and put in his best emerald.

I don't know what he paid but of course it's priceless to me!

Don't overlook pawn shops either. A friend of mine got a gorgeous diamond ring from her husband for her birthday last month. He knew what she liked and happened across it at the pawn shop while he was looking for something for his bike. She couldn't be happier and he saved a bundle.

So figure out what she likes......I love layin on the smackdown's little caper of going through his lady's stuff to find out what would please her........and go from there.

Either that or maybe ask her mom what she likes. Good luck!

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I know she like round cut for the center, and she hasn't said it but I have see her like ring with some sort of a wrap around the center diamond so like a diamond in the middle and 2 small bands of square cut diamons curving around it...I'm pretty sure white gold or silver.

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My wife and I discussed getting engaged and she told me what she wanted. A Marquis center stone. With that in mind off to the jewelers I went. I bought the setting in one place and bought the stone in the Diamond district in NYC. I spent $3K on her ring back in 87. She don't have that ring anymore...It was stolen by a kid(8 years old at the time) on our block. We never got it back :(. Police were involved, but that is another story. The second ring I had to buy her to replace the stolen one cost me almost 2x what I paid for the 1st one. Get ring insurance...take my word for it.

Spend what you can afford. The meaning behind it means soo much more than the price of the ring.

Good Luck.

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Shop hard. There are deals on everything including rings. I shopped for a long time before I finally picked one out for my wife. I ended up with about $1,000 in the ring and roughly $850 in the band....

The funny part, she started with a $125 set from Walmart when I asked her to Marry me. I was a farm kid and $25 was hard enough to come by. I upgraded before we got Married but she wore that cheap wedding band around like it was worth a million.

That was back around 1993 - 1994 and she still has the original set... She cant and doesnt wear it but I bet she wouldnt part with it for anything.

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What you spend on the ring, has nothing to do with what it means!

Yep. We pretty well paid for our wedding ourselves, and we wanted to get married regardless of money situation, was not about how much anything cost and we knew we needed things for getting started out. We picked out the rings together, and hers was not at all expensive. Will be our 16 year anniversary next month.

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Look at what type of rings she likes to wear, thats a good start. If her family is knowing of your impending intentions, ask her mother or father. Most important, before you ask her, get her fathers permission. It may be old-school, but it goes a long ways. I traveled 1500 miles to ask her father, and when I returned from my deployment, he had already helped her move to where I was stationed at for my surprise when I got back (long story). Good luck, and when you see the ring-you'll know. I did the 2 months pay thing-(4200) glad I did, we hit 6 years next month.

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I have to agree with buy what she likes. I knew that my wife wanted a marquis cut so that is what I got her. I was not going to buy some gigantic $3-4k 2 carat ring that was going to get hung up on everything and eventually get lost. I then began to do my homework. I shopped from one end of the state to the other and I racked up a lot of miles. I then found a jewelry store that was going out of business and I got an exceptional quality ring at half price. I saved well over $1000

Another idea is Craigs list. There are tons of jilted lovers that are trying to get rid of their engagement rings. Ebay has them too. If I was doing it over again I would do the Craigs List thing and have the seller meet me at a jewelry store to have the ring appraised/evaluated. I would never do the Jewelry store thing again. WAAAY to much mark up.

My Uncle Dick had an engagement ring for sale last year. I think it was a 2 carat. If you are interested in that one shoot me a PM and will check with him.

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