Randy Posted October 21, 2009 Report Share Posted October 21, 2009 Isn't there like a month or two gross pay thing? I thought that's what the rule of thumb was? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
csimon Posted October 21, 2009 Report Share Posted October 21, 2009 Look at what type of rings she likes to wear, thats a good start. If her family is knowing of your impending intentions, ask her mother or father. Most important, before you ask her, get her fathers permission. It may be old-school, but it goes a long ways. . amen to this. my wife helped pick hers out but we talked about getting married before we were engaged, so that helped me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jm23494 Posted October 21, 2009 Report Share Posted October 21, 2009 I spent about $1800 on my fiance's engagemen ring and $800 on her wedding band, and that was on sale. Definetly shop around and find out what kind of offers jewlers have. I know that there are lots of deals to be had now with the holidays coming up. Like most have said the size of the ring and what it costs do not matter much. It's how it is presented and what it means to you and her. Good luck in your search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alisha Posted October 21, 2009 Report Share Posted October 21, 2009 Isn't there like a month or two gross pay thing? I thought that's what the rule of thumb was? Actually the "rule" is 3 months........ :jaw: What I want to know is who makes that stuff up? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DocMort Posted October 21, 2009 Report Share Posted October 21, 2009 Naturally a girl would tell the guy 3 months lol Just kidding. Money is not an issue as long as it comes from the heart. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hoosierbuck Posted October 21, 2009 Report Share Posted October 21, 2009 I was still in school, and I cashed in a CD I was left by Grandma and got $1.85 in change. So I had a great gal, a black '84 Monte Carlo and $1.85 to my name. What else did I need? Do the best you can with what you have, bearing in mind her tastes, and you will be fine. HB (Married 16 years next July.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fly Posted October 22, 2009 Report Share Posted October 22, 2009 I spent several thousands on the ring for my "practice marriage". Discussed rings on my "real deal" marriage with my wife and spent way less on the ring. The first one was a waste of money that probably went to a pawn shop, the second has over 7 years of wear and tear now. Don't worry so much about the right priced ring, if you have the right girl the price will not matter! I'd make sure you at least hint towards what she likes dislikes as far as rings go. Hey (name) did you see so and so's engagement ring? It had a pear shaped diamond and a bunch of little ones around it and a silver band. I thought it looked ok, but I'm not fond of the pear cut or silver bands. She'll likely chime in at this point and you'll know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted October 22, 2009 Report Share Posted October 22, 2009 What you spend on the ring, has nothing to do with what it means! yep. listen to the old farts. if the size of the ring, or it's price, is a consideration for her when you pop the question, then stop right now. a ring is only a symbol. she will say yes or no regardless of the ring size. just look around and find something you THINK she'll like, and go from there. i was in service when i asked my sweetie. it wasn't much but it was what i thought she'd like. she said yes way before she ever saw it or knew it existed. (i asked a few days before Christmas and she got the ring Christmas morning, way back in the '60's.) anyway, it's you and her love for you that will say if this marriage works. the size and price of the ring will have nothing to do with it. do what you can, and only if you can. you can always go bigger with time. my wife's stone has grown in size with time. our rings are still the same and our love is even bigger. i hope you're works similar. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dance.and.shoot Posted October 22, 2009 Report Share Posted October 22, 2009 Wow that sounds like alot of money to me. I dont think I could bring myself to pay that much for a ring. But I am known to be a bit cheap yeah you are cheap!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dance.and.shoot Posted October 22, 2009 Report Share Posted October 22, 2009 don't forget that there's a wedding ring for her too... when my ex-fiance and i were looking at rings, we decided on a total amount of money that we wanted to spend on all 3 of the rings (my engagement, my wedding and his wedding band.) we took out the $499 for his ring. and i had free reign with what was left to decide what i wanted. if i wanted something that cost more than what was in the ring $$$ already, it was coming out of my own pocket. I had $6,00 to split between the engagement and wedding ring. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ethan Givan Posted October 22, 2009 Report Share Posted October 22, 2009 yeah you are cheap!!! Dang, I cant say anything around here anymore because of certain people. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RTPROFamily Posted October 22, 2009 Report Share Posted October 22, 2009 I think that you should get her a nice ring in 14K gold with a small cubic zirconia(.25carat) in it.(usually about $100-$200) That is a man made diamond. Then If you are still together after a year take it back to the store and have a real diamond put in it. She will never know that it wasn't real and if it doesn't work out you won't be paying on it for years after the break up. We used to own a jewelry store and my husband was the jeweler. He helped several young men save a lot of money that way! I wish you the best but the size of the ring should not matter, it is the thought that counts! Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dance.and.shoot Posted October 22, 2009 Report Share Posted October 22, 2009 Dang, I cant say anything around here anymore because of certain people. TeHeHeHe...I only tease the people i love Ethan:D!!! LoL besides, you claim you can dish it out...i'm still waiting...hmmm.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ethan Givan Posted October 22, 2009 Report Share Posted October 22, 2009 TeHeHeHe...I only tease the people i love Ethan:D!!! LoL besides, you claim you can dish it out...i'm still waiting...hmmm.... Dont wanna assist you in hijacking the thread. :offtopic: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dance.and.shoot Posted October 22, 2009 Report Share Posted October 22, 2009 Dont wanna assist you in hijacking the thread. :offtopic: fine!!! i'll stop... but seriously. it doesn't matter the price of the ring. for a while, we couldn't even afford a ring. he proposed to me with his high school ring and i wore that for a couple months until we did have the money for rings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OJR Posted October 22, 2009 Report Share Posted October 22, 2009 If I had to go "3 months of what I make", I would never get engaged or married! LOL!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Missilelock Posted October 22, 2009 Report Share Posted October 22, 2009 The odds of a happy marrige are a lot higher if you buy a ring you can afford & set the precedence for married life- living in debt up to your eyeballs wont make for a long marrige. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doe-ee Posted October 22, 2009 Report Share Posted October 22, 2009 Actually the "rule" is 3 months........ :jaw: What I want to know is who makes that stuff up? Yup, I remember when that 3 months gross salary "rule" came into being. I think it's a good excuse for some jewelers to up-sell and put the guilt on the working man trying to please his bride. Sad really. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted October 22, 2009 Report Share Posted October 22, 2009 Yeah ..Love can't be purchased for any price. Go with what you can afford. Like SteveB said, the ring is just a symbol of your love and don't confuse the price as being a symbol of how much you love her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hoosierhunter Posted October 22, 2009 Report Share Posted October 22, 2009 Well I just got married on Oct 10th and here's the tips I will give you..... People forget that EVERYONE is going to ask to see that ring and right or wrong(and she won't admit it) she WILL compare it to other peoples becuase it's human nature.... My thought process was I'm only ever buying one of these and I'm buying one that will NEVER be traded for another diamond later in life.... Also literally every jeweler can beat the price on blue nile. It's a good starting place but do your research. I'm fortunate that I work with jewelers everyday and trust me that the initial price you see can usually be cut in half! Also insure your ring because would you rather pay 150 bucks for insurance or pay 25,000 to replace the "once in a lifetime" ring that got lost or stolen.... As far as the diamond goes the two most important pieces are color and clarity....I would recommend a colorless diamond(yes diamonds have color) and a clarity of VSII. That means that no naked eye can see any inclusions in the diamond. Carat size is another place that can save you a lot of money. For example a .98 carat diamond is much cheaper that a 1.02, yet you can't tell the size difference. Also buy a GIA certified diamond. There is EGL out there, but their standards aren't as high. Without a cert you have no idea if your really buying the diamond they tell you that you are. Do NOT shop at chain stores they are all a rip off as compared to your local jewelers...... One last tip is to make sure you plan the proposal and don't pick up the ring til the day your going to do it, because trust me that ring will burn a hole in your pocket!! In the end it's all your call and I'm sure she will be happy with whatever decision you make.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MichiganHunter Posted October 23, 2009 Author Report Share Posted October 23, 2009 Also insure your ring because would you rather pay 150 bucks for insurance or pay 25,000 to replace the "once in a lifetime" ring that got lost or stolen..... ya insurance is going to be.....whaaaaaat :jaw: did you just say you spend 25,000 on a ring...umm what do you do for a living and where do I need to go to do it..lol...well anyways, SHE is paying for the insurance on the ring we talked about that at one point...but it basically like the same as if i paid for it....lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hoosierhunter Posted October 24, 2009 Report Share Posted October 24, 2009 ya insurance is going to be.....whaaaaaat :jaw: did you just say you spend 25,000 on a ring... What a ring will appraise for and what you will spend on it if you do your homework are two different things.....Remember I work with jewelers as well;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MichiganHunter Posted October 24, 2009 Author Report Share Posted October 24, 2009 What a ring will appraise for and what you will spend on it if you do your homework are two different things.....Remember I work with jewelers as well;) OHHHHHH so your a cheater...lol...jk...so do you have any advice for me about how to get a good deal or what to look for in a good deal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ildrhntr Posted October 25, 2009 Report Share Posted October 25, 2009 I say spend the money on a hunting trip. You will always have good memories of why you spent the money. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MichiganHunter Posted October 25, 2009 Author Report Share Posted October 25, 2009 I say spend the money on a hunting trip. You will always have good memories of why you spent the money. HAHAHAHAHA......lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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