Common Courtesy/Respect

[Gator]

Been noticing here lately that it seems like respect/courtesy has gone out the window. Just went to Subway for lunch, and as I was walking in, a younger guy, oh about 23, was walking out, and since I had opened the door, I let him walkk on out. Now as he passes, he says NOTHING, no Thanks, Thank You. So, being the smart butt I am, I say "Thank You to him as I walk inside. This is the second time this week that that scenario has played out. What the heck is wrong with people?????

[RangerClay]

What the heck is wrong with people?????

I think it is that Okie attitude that Tom talked about!

[Turkeygirl]

I dunno but I notice all the time. Heck, I'm usually the one holding doors open for guys, not the other way around! So when it does happen, I'm like wow, some one knows how to be polite....

I can't stand the people when you are in a store that throw swear words around, out loud, like they are in their own house.

We ate out last night for dinner, me, my mom, and my sister, and there was one couple on the other side...their cell phone rang out twice, as loud as could be...I was thinking "Really?!!!"

[Guest bowhunter56]

Things have changed, there is little to no common respect any more, don't you see it on the news and in the paper, killing is an everyday occurance, this country and some of the people in it are a long way from from being better. I will stop now, because this is a sore subject with me.

[DocMort]

Kids today are brought up to think that everyone owes them something. My dad ever caught myself or my siblings doing anything like that and I would have been booted in the can so hard I wouldn't be able to sit.

[Tominator]

You'd see that where I grew up, northern Ohio, sometimes, but hardly ever here. People go out of their way to be courteous down here it seems. It's unusual when someone doesn't wave, hold a door, say please and thank you. Heck, even most of my students do this, even the burners.

[Ohiobucks]

Here in central Ohio, it is different one county to the next. Knox county is where I grew up - people smile, wave as you drive past, say please and thank you. Morrow county is where I live now, the neighboring county - it is the armpit of Ohio. Not all, but most people are rude, not real talkative, and won't look you in the eye. There are some good people here, but not like what I was used to growing up and even still come across when I go to Knox co. to visit, hunt, etc....

[hutchies]

I know I'm not that old but that's kids these days. I'm only 28 fixing to be 28 but most of the guys I hang around with are 35 to 40 and I have wayyyyyyyyy more in common with them than most people my age

[redkneck]

I'll generally hold the door for most anyone right behind me, and always will try to step ahead of ladies of any age to open the door for them. A simple acknowledgment of the act would be sufficient, but like Jason pointed out more often than not you get Nada in return. I've found that some of the older women are the worst, almost like it's your job. I'll always open the door for ladies, and hold it for guys coming behind me, but some thanks is in order for sure. I sure thank guys when they hold it for me.

Funny, your post is kind of one of my pet peeves.

[wtnhunt]

Seems even with some older people common courtesy and respect has gone out the window. My retired neighbor tells me it is stress in today's society. Think he may well be right.

[doubledrop]

seems like an ongoing thing here in Ohio, I am from a small town here in southeastern Ohio and people are very nice, generous and thoughtful and almost always say thank you. now I am not saying that I live in a perfect world here, but head about 20 minutes up the road to the little city of Cambridge and now you find a little more people with no respect but not very many.

[Newarcher]

I have the neighbors from hadees....two friends, one that lives directly across the street and one right beside me.

These lowlives do nothing but stand in their driveway drinking beer or in their garages drinking beer. All of their kids live at home and none of their adult kids work (30's). They are ALWAYS outside....the ladies of the house don't let them or their friends in. So if you watch long enough, you will see them pee in the bushes right in front of their home.

I've had to tell them that the language they yell to the person standing in front of them is unacceptable and they do stop for a little while. But I am sick of my kids hearing that in their own yard.

Further the neighbor directly across the street is a mechanic and you know what that brings. Yep, cars everywhere. He has an extended family and seems to revel is making the neighbors mad by parking his cars everywhere on the stret. He has more than enough cars for each licensed drivers and apparently gets paid in cars. He even parks them in front of other people's homes. Just trash. He feels that because there is no law against it, he is free to do it.

Yet the funny thing is that when you talk to either of these loosers (being neighborly), you won't get 3 minutes in before they are slamming other races or illegal immigrants. It is funny, the things they attribute to these races/cultures is exactly what they do.

They hate illegal immigrants because they tend to pack lots of people in a house and park cars all over.....but wait, who are all those people coming out of your house and why does our neighborhood look like a Fraternity row?

Oh well.....common trash. The sad thing is that this is a very nice neighborhood.

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Edited January 6, 2010 by Newarcher

[ruttinbuc]

Believe it or not there is no disrespect here in NJ. Everyone is so nice and courteous. Holding doors, letting you into traffic, being patient in line at the store, no cussing or swearing, not a bit of loud and abusive behavior, always put their shopping carts back in the cart corral, always stop for pedestrians in crosswalks. and never do you hear a cell phone ring or conversation.... and respect and courtesy on the road is just amazing..... Believe it or not!

Really, there are a lot of good people who still have respect and say thanks for holding doors or other things mentioned. Still people who respect your space and don't abuse it. Why people act as they do can probably never be understood. It is just not a certain group or class. You have them all. Rich snobs, poor snobs, rich slobs, poor slobs. All I know is that I hold doors for people, let them out in traffic, put the cart back etc., etc. Most will thank me, but for those who don't there is usually a 7 letter word that comes to mind said under breath...What can you do? :hammer1:

Edited January 6, 2010 by ruttinbuc

[Adjam5]

I experienced this exact thing today while walking into therapy for my knee. BUT...I waited for the woman to come down the stairs and I held open the door for her to exit and she said thank you and was not used to folks being so nice. Heck...its what we are supposed to do. Especially for women. Youth today are more rude than ever. I think it comes down to how they are raised.

I don't know what Ruttinbuc Mike was talking about...But every time I get cut off on the road I look to see if the car has Jersey plates:D. We live close to the North Jersey border.

Dang Jersey drivers.

[NS whitetail]

Youth today are more rude than ever. I think it comes down to how they are raised.

yep........... you hit the nail right on the head, so who's to blame ? the youth of today or some of the nitwit parents who raise them ? :hammer1:

[The_Kat]

head about 20 minutes up the road to the little city of Cambridge and now you find a little more people with no respect but not very many.

HaHa all the white kids think they're black there. I told more than one to pull up their pants. There was one time we went to Zanesville and honked at this kid riding his bike in the road and he shot us the bird. It made our mouths drop.

Around here the people tend be snobbish. Some kind folks, some not so kind. I still go out of my way to hold the door for folks, and say sir and mam.

[ruttinbuc]

I don't know what Ruttinbuc Mike was talking about...But every time I get cut off on the road I look to see if the car has Jersey plates:D. We live close to the North Jersey border.

Dang Jersey drivers.

Like I said, Anthony, Believe it or not! :paint:

I was just making a joke about what it really is like here. Trouble is, its those immigrants from New York that who are in such a hurry, stressed out on their 1 to 3 hour+ commutes each way either heading into or out of NJ or PA for that matter. They don't have time to smell the coffee they run over you for in the morning let alone hold the door or say thanks....

Edited January 6, 2010 by ruttinbuc

[Shaun_300]

Yep, notice the same thing around here lately too. Happened to me at Tim Hortons this morning, opened the door for two elderly people who were greatful and said thanks with a big smile, held it for a guy in his late 20s, never even acknowledged I was there or held the door for him. Not that I'll lose sleep over it, just nice to get some courtesy once in a while.

[The_Kat]

Simply start telling people YOUR WELCOME in your best A-Hole voice when they don't say thank you. That or let go and let it smack em hahahahaha.

[buckee]

I think you get that everywhere these days. I don't let it get to me or stop me from being polite. The ones that do smile and say thanks, more than make up for the ones that don't.

[ruttinbuc]

I think you get that everywhere these days. I don't let it get to me or stop me from being polite. The ones that do smile and say thanks, more than make up for the ones that don't.

I'll have to second that!

[bluelund79]

It has gone completely downhill, however, it'll be a cold day if my 2 sons do not thank someone or hold the door for anyone. My dad raised me right, so I will continue that tradition...or else!

[Prairiepredator]

I am 16 years old and know a lot of kids around my age that are just plain rude and arrogant. I see how they act and I think, I want to be a better person than that and I know for a fact, I act way better than they do. That is why I get along better with people that are like twice my age. I almost consider some them to be some of my best friends.

[Muleyman]

It just bugs me. Like how hard is it do say " Thank You" or " I am sorry".It makes me feel good when I do something good and then I don't even get thanked for it.:nono:. If I am nice enough to do a simple good deed, all they have to do is simply say thank you.

[kidd]

everybodies happy in Indiana:)