ruttinbuc Posted March 10, 2010 Report Share Posted March 10, 2010 All you will be doing is stoking the coals. One or the other will think you are standing for them. The minute you look to be kind or helpful to one the other bites you big time. I have been down this road, bud. Not a day goes by that I don't think of the good times I had with those friends. They dam near killed each other because of jealousy and unfounded infidelity... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeramie Posted March 10, 2010 Report Share Posted March 10, 2010 Stay out of it. Sound by the pound advice. Distance yourself from everything even him if need be.... Thats not a mess you want to tangle up in. There is no winner. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bbgatech Posted March 10, 2010 Report Share Posted March 10, 2010 I would stay clear. You can be friends with both...after the dust settles. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
layin on the smackdown Posted March 10, 2010 Report Share Posted March 10, 2010 Oh I totally disagree with this. If you think that he is going to either tell his buddy he has the goods on him and that he needs to come clean, or tell the wife she is being cheated on, and it ends there for him, you may be just a bit naive to domestic situations. I am telling you, they turn deadly..., quickly. This problem is between a husband and wife and it seems like if I am reading it correctly, she suspects him already. She can hire a private investigator if she can find one that does marital issues but they are few and far between for these very reasons. Maybe she loves this man enough she is willing to turn a blind eye to it and hope he comes around. Maybe they are talking and getting counseling but wish to keep it private while they work through this. Maybe they DON'T love each other and are both running. NO ONE, but the two of them know the actual situation. When you bring this to them to them that its getting out.. now it becomes a problem and your name is smack dab in the middle of it. Have you ever been to family court?? It makes criminal court look like a big "love in".. STAY OUT OF IT. :hammer1: Have you ever heard the phrase "Dont kill the messenger"? This phrase came about because people tend to turn on those relaying the message. In the last 30 years the national homicide rate has been 42.9% murdered by a spouse, boyfriend/ girlfriend or "other aquaintance". Only 13.9% was by a total stranger. I tend to think I have a wee bit of experience in seeing the end result of domestic interference. (Not with my wife obviously as I am very happily married to the most incredible woman on the face of the earth. Not just because she sends me all over North America hunting various big game animals..... etc Just because she is incredible FOR ALL the reasons a wife is incredible!) JMO though do as you see fit Hence why i first stated that i am an idiot....However, i am also a very morally strong individual and i personally stand up for what i believe is right and wrong regardless if it is my problem or not.....As you also stated, who knows if we have all of the correct information, there could or could not be truth to any and all of this. If it is true, i don't like watching people get abused physically or mentally, so i would do as little as possible to catalyze the situation, and bring it to the forefront of their relationship....I would really only do this if they were important people in my life that i sincerely cared about. Also, i have been in divorce court as a kid, and yes, it was ugly...i am also not yet married, and i wouldn't be getting married if i thought that i would be running around behind her back... The bottom line is this...If all these alligations are true, he is an idiot for not being faithful, and she is an idiot for staying with him....Not anyone elses problem but their own. I think the easiest way out would be to sit there and let it happen by doing nothing....What kind of best friend does that? :no: Once again, i am an idiot with a strong morals and ethics...The greatest good for the greatest amount of people. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swamphunter Posted March 10, 2010 Report Share Posted March 10, 2010 I think the easiest way out would be to sit there and let it happen by doing nothing....What kind of best friend does that? :no: Once again, i am an idiot with a strong morals and ethics...The greatest good for the greatest amount of people. Then do what you feel is right... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhino Posted March 10, 2010 Report Share Posted March 10, 2010 I'm with the majority here...STAY OUT OF IT!!! It's not your problem. I've been through this with a good friend and business partner before. So called friends and close aquaintances can do strange things when they let their emotions control their actions. Like Ken, said it could become dangerous too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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