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[ftgbowhunter]

I at one time was what i thought to be a very religous person. I lost interest in it when some family issues went down, But i never did stop beliving in god. well i say i was religous but i actually grew up in church, And low and behold my dad was 1 of the minsters of our church, there was things contridicting themselves as to what was being taught. So im left not knowing what to belive, I FEEL IM A LOST CAUSE OF LIFE. I dont know what to belive anymore. The worst thing tho is that it seems like when i stoped praying to god that things started gettin worse as time goes along. Seems like i have a hard time gettin along with ppl. Me and my to be wife seem to agure alot these days, seems like my life went to **** in a hand basket And i dont know what to do. I love my girl so much and want to spend the rest of my life with her, i never want to lose her. Anybody got anykind of adivise for me, and this post is not a joke. I need help. What do i do

[Jeramie]

I’ve been mulling over how to answer this. I do believe you are serious and I want to be encouraging but in the end it will be up to you to take the initiate to better your situation.

First off you need to work on your relationship with Christ God. Getting right with God is so important and will begin to change you in ways that will benefit you in every situation and context of your life. You’ll rebuild your foundation as a person and it will benefit you and your marriage greatly.

Phillippians 2:12-13

(12) Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. (13) For it is God which worketh in you to will and to do of his good pleasure.

Second you need to understand that neither you nor your wife are perfect and will have problems. This life is full of sin and we are tempted and drawn around every corner. You need to keep that in mind when things get tense go to the Lord in Prayer, seek his face, and approach every situation with a gentle heart. That will come if you change your foundation and start seeking God on a very personal level. Start everyday with a prayer, it doesn’t have to be long and elegant but make it from the heart.

Romans 3:23 - 24

(23) For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God. (24) Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus.

Sounds like you already know where you need to be. That’s a good thing and proof that being raised in Church is important. Now you need to take the initiative, as a family, to get back to the Lord. Life, Love, and Faith give out what you put into them. Life can and will get a lot easier for you but you’re going to have to take the first step in faith.

Isaiah 55:6

Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near:

Mathew 6:33

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

I can’t give you all the answers but hopefully I can help you with direction. If you need to talk or anything feel free to call me. I’ll PM you my phone number. I am in NE Oklahoma too and I’ll happily do what I can to help.

[JJL]

1. Don't feel as if you are alone, there are millions with this same malady.

2. SOFTEN YOUR HEART..........Love is soft...not hard.

3. God did not....has not.... and will not give up on you. Don't allow yourself to give up on him. When you turn your back on him, he stays by your side. You just don't see him for your heart is hard and calloused. When you soften your heart and allow him to hold your hand and guide.......................IT"S AMAZING.

4. Take your wife to church...............make it a date. Every Sunday attend a different church until you find one you like. You'll know, it'll feel like home. Talk about your experience with a SOFT heart. Tell her how much this and she mean to you. Allow God to get in the middle...............He knows what to do.

5. START PRAYING AGAIN..................HE LISTENS.

6. He might break your heart in order to soften it, it's what he does, part of the process. Put your faith and trust in him and you'll get through it.

7. Here's my favorite verse from the Bible:

James 1:12 (New International Version)

Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.

Life is trying you.......................God wants to help......................LET HIM.

God Bless You.