Guest bowhunter56 Posted June 28, 2010 Report Share Posted June 28, 2010 Any one here have a brother or sister, that they don't talk to, I do and it makes me sad, I have written him letters, with no response, when we have met on the street several times, he said i was bothering him, or i am referred to as stupid. As my life is coming to an end, this lack of a relationship with him, bothers me as to why he doesn't want me in his live as our days wind down. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newarcher Posted June 28, 2010 Report Share Posted June 28, 2010 Man, I am very sorry to hear about that. When you say that your life is coming to an end, do you mean in the immediate term or just that you are getting older? I hope the latter. My Sister and I didn't have a great relationship. We weren't mad at each other, she just had some addiction issues and it was a great headache dealing with her at times. Addiction is nothing that anyone ever goes through alone no matter what. She died last November and I hadn't talked to her in a while. I regret every time I avoided her or just the way I treated her. The truth of the matter is that you cannot control anyone other than yourself. You can't make someone have a relationship with you. The best advice I can give you is to make sure that your conscience is clear. Perhaps you could write him a letter telling him what you think and how you feel. Then you can believe you have done everything in your power to reach him. Best of luck, I feel for you. New Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redkneck Posted June 28, 2010 Report Share Posted June 28, 2010 The truth of the matter is that you cannot control anyone other than yourself. You can't make someone have a relationship with you. The best advice I can give you is to make sure that your conscience is clear. New Couldn't say it better New. I have a brother that just turned 40, and has spent most of his adult life in the penitentiary. He's living with my parents at the moment, the only reason he's not back in jail is probably because he doesn't have transportation to get back into the same old problems. Addiction is a sad thing, but you can only do what you can do. All the love in the world does not necessarily change a person. I wish you both the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest bowhunter56 Posted June 28, 2010 Report Share Posted June 28, 2010 I did try to communicate with him, but guess i am done, i did try many times.. my life, meant just getting older..thanks for reply's. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newarcher Posted June 28, 2010 Report Share Posted June 28, 2010 I did try to communicate with him, but guess i am done, i did try many times.. my life, meant just getting older..thanks for reply's. Okay, that's good news. Phew, I thought it was an immediate thing. Maybe the letter would help. I know that when my wife and I have had a couple disagreements, it helped for her to write a letter to let me know what she was thinking. If she tried to tell me face to face, I would interrupt to rebut where she was clearly wrong :bang: and we would get sidetracked. If nothing else, it allows you to say what you want to him. If he doesn't read it, at least you had the chance to say it. Best of luck my friend. New Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hunt or be Hunted Posted June 28, 2010 Report Share Posted June 28, 2010 Well I'm 16 and my sister is 18. We hang out all the time. And i really hope to keep it that way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MUDRUNNER Posted June 28, 2010 Report Share Posted June 28, 2010 My sister is one of my best friends. She's 27 and I'm 34. We've been through a lot together when we were younger....more than i could begin to talk about. Through all the hard times growing up we knew we could always count on each other. On the other side is my half brother. He's 16 now, and neither one of us has seen him in about 3 years. When our dad passed away his mom and grandma didn't even let him come to the funeral home...which I thought was wrong, and I let the grandma know that. Unfortunately she thought I was a bad apple and and never told him when I would call. He is a spoiled kid...mom's only son and grandmas only grandson. They are way overprotective of him. I kinda figure in the next few years when he starts making his own decisions in life hopefully we can get together again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Randy Posted June 28, 2010 Report Share Posted June 28, 2010 (edited) I know how you feel. I have an older sister that I never talk to. However, I have no desire to either. She's rather "unique"... She also voted for Obama,.........enough said! Edited June 29, 2010 by Randy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JimT Posted June 28, 2010 Report Share Posted June 28, 2010 I do. Have not heard from him in a few years. Only time I hear from my mom is when she wants money and I have all but given up on my dad after several invites and him being a no show. Oh well. Their loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin R10 man Posted June 28, 2010 Report Share Posted June 28, 2010 Hey bowhunter56...thats too bad for your brother..he probably missed out on alot of good times..i have a sis that does not contact the family at all... last time I spoke with her is about 15 years ago when we went out to NJ and stayed with them. when the airport shuttle came to pick us up, we had said our goodbyes and I thought I'd gently encourage her to patch up the differences between my folks and her, even if she had to be the first one to do so...all **** broke loose. but I did what was best for everyone and thats where that landed me..on her blacklist..never to be heard from again..so sad indeed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shaun_300 Posted June 28, 2010 Report Share Posted June 28, 2010 Sorry to hear that man, that's terrible. I'm 23 and my brother is 19, we used to not get along very good at all, until the past 6 months - a year. Guess he's finally matured to an adult and we never argue anymore. We have a blast together, hope it stays that way! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted June 29, 2010 Report Share Posted June 29, 2010 Sorry to hear your situation bud. I'm pretty close to my brother and sisters. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawg Posted June 29, 2010 Report Share Posted June 29, 2010 Got a brother who I see at max, 3 times a year. My other brother I see and talk to a few times a month. My sister and I have the best relationship out of us all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest bowhunter56 Posted June 29, 2010 Report Share Posted June 29, 2010 I guess I am not alone then, it's just sad, but i guess I have to finally realize, it's over between the two of us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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