Turkeygirl Posted September 5, 2010 Report Share Posted September 5, 2010 So I haven't talked about it yet but here's what happened...still not sure what I want to do or feel about it. Remember when I got permission to hunt this neighboring property back in the spring where that big gobbler I chases was hanging out? I think I mentioned the landowner came in for rehab and I talked to him and he told me to hunt whenever and I could hunt squirrel, deer, turkey, etc...He was very nice about it. Well after finishing camp, my first day back at the hospital, he was there as a patient again but not for rehab. Essentially his poor drinking habits in the past caught up and he went into liver and kidney failure. The following morning he passed away:angel2: His wife is nice and she probably would not mind me hunting but right now, to me, it seems out of place to even go back and check to make sure it's still ok to squirrel and turkey hunt. It's one of those things that's hard to explain. I was even in shock when I came in to work...he was a completely diff. person than the first time there. I have other places to hunt so it's not a huge issue but it is where the turkeys hang out:ninja: Anyone else been in a similar predicament? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tominator Posted September 5, 2010 Report Share Posted September 5, 2010 Is the wife now alone? I'm betting she'd welcome the company if she is. My primary motivation on a visit would be one of consolation, and then it might develop into a friendship. You never know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goinghuntin Posted September 5, 2010 Report Share Posted September 5, 2010 I've never been in this situation. It sure sounds like a toughie. I'd probably give it a little while, and maybe work it into the conversation nonchalantly. Nathan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redkneck Posted September 5, 2010 Report Share Posted September 5, 2010 Pretty common thing Ruth. Not so much the hunting land, but just things in general when someone passes away. Maybe you've wanted an old tractor or whatever from the guy then he's gone. Good advice from Chris and Nate. If you thought anything of the man then a visit to the widow would be in order to express your condolences. Work the question in after a month or so has passed. Life goes on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Turkeygirl Posted September 6, 2010 Author Report Share Posted September 6, 2010 Yeah, I'm planning on sending a card to her and in time go up...just not now...give things some time. Thanks for the input. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buckee Posted September 6, 2010 Report Share Posted September 6, 2010 The farmer who's property we hunt passed away last summer. I've know him for almost 20 years now. I drop in to the farm once in a while just to see how his wife Helen is making out on her own, and just sit and talk a bit. I've since met both of his daughters who are there a lot more now, to take care of their Mom. It always feels kind of awkward when someone passes away, when you are obliged to them in some way. Why don't you just stop in, introduce yourself as the hunter who was going to hunt the property, and offer your condolences and just touch bases as a neighbour. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ruttinbuc Posted September 7, 2010 Report Share Posted September 7, 2010 The card is a good idea for now. In short time passed don't be afraid to drop in on her and offer to help her in any way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hoosierbuck Posted September 7, 2010 Report Share Posted September 7, 2010 I would mention that he had granted you permission and ask if he had mentioned that to her, and if she was ok with that since she is the boss now. But I think I'd wait a little bit, but not too long. HB Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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