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Jorden Monster Buck

Jorden

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Women, just cant understand them. Been trying to start things up with this girl from home. We hung out a few times in the week before I left before school and I was hearing from all her friends was how much she liked me. So a few days after I left for school I sent her flowers for her birthday and she loved that. We continued talking over the last few weeks, not a lot cause shes real busy but some. So I text her today asking if she'll be around this weekend cause Ill be home. Out of nowhere I get the "I cant be more than friends" response and that she cant do long distance relationships even though Im less than three hours away and am home at least two weekends a month.

It really caught me off guard and I really dont know what to think. I really liked her and we had so much in common and she even liked to hunt!!! Sorry to vent but I really dont know what to think on this one, never had it happen before.

Women are sooo confusing:confused: :bummed:

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I am only guessing!!! it is one of two things... she is high maintenance and needs her guy around all of the time no matter who he is or she has someone else in mind. some people are just not into the long distance thing. I had a girl before i got married that wanted to see me every day no matter what. She lived around 30 minutes from me on the highway so it was a good distance and she wanted me to drive to her house during a snow and ice storm and got mad and said i didnt really like her when i said the highways are frozen so no way i was driving out that day.

Drama! more girls will come along....

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Just gotta move on Jorden, if you ever figure out women you'll be a rich man. :serenade:

Darn right John :D

She must have a home-boy that she can play with and take her out every day and buy her things. Just start ignoring her and maybe just talking with some of her enemies :D Women HATE it when you used to have a thing for them and move on. Learned that one the hard way :stretcher:

Nathan

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Unrequited love. A never ending conundrum. It is best to just move on and avoid the insanity that will settle on your soul. My one piece of advise you can take to the bank is that the thing you need to sidestep in life is the high maintenance woman. This woman (and there are many) will destroy your very being. Do not over think it.

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92xj Monster Buck

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Alright,

I have had my fair share of trying to do this long distance stuff. The most recent with a lady friend that lived on the other side of the country! It works for a while but then fades away. Do not waste your time with putting the effort into long distance stuff if it is the slightest bit obvious that the second party is not going to put the same amount of effort. This should have been obvious when you guys didnt talk as much as you did when you're together. I have seen long distance stuff work, ie. my sister. She dated a guy in Washington state and she was in North Carolina, for two years and they just got married this past January. But, the thing they had going for them is that they have known each other for 22 years, grew up together and his family moved when they were in high school so they had already had a solid foundation and were not trying to do the "fun first 6 months" of a relationship.

But let's really step back and think about this. Please correct me if I am wrong, I am just assuming things here....

You're late teens?

In college?

Come home two weekends a year to hunt, but not during hunting season come home to try and see her. Even before there was any relationship you would come home just thinking about the possibility of getting the chance to hang out with her?

Scratch all that, besides the hunting part.

Stay at school on the weekends, get out and meet people. I know there has to be some hot chicks in your classes that you can ask out for dinner or something. Now, you dont have to like them, you dont know what they're into, but you will never know until you ask one out or start a good conversation. Chicks always have friends that are chicks. If one doesnt work, her best friend might. Its a fine line but a fun line to play with and try and cross, the whole best friend thing. Again, it gets down to playing "the game" the friend might be interested but will keep it on the downlow from the original friend for a while.

Anyhow, for now (until more information is provided) lets stick with the long distance stuff will not work unless both parties try really hard. Almost harder than if you were in the same town. Also, the trust factor is huge in long distance stuff, if either have any doubt about the other, it will not work.

Stay in your town on the weekends and get out there and have fun.

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92xj Monster Buck

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Hey! Not all girls are like that. Maybe she didn't want to go into anything if someone would get hurt along the way. Just an idea...

That's no way to think when it comes to relationships.

If everyone thought that before starting to build a relationship, not a single person would be in any relationship.

Don't fear rejection, don't fear pain down the road.

It happens to every single one of use.

Just learn from that relationship, use the knowledge gained in the next relationship.

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There are two theories as to how to go about understanding a woman...and they are both wrong. The biggest thing is to recognize the mountains from the mole hills, and at your age, TRUST ME, they are all molehills. They may look big to you, but that is because you don't have any mountains on the horizon to compare them to. She's not that into you? Bummer, I get that. Move on.

HB

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Dakota Monster Buck

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Women, just cant understand them. Women are sooo confusing:confused: :bummed:

Just now figure that out, Jorden? :D My philosophy is this: God's got a plan for my life and I just hope I'm patient enough to wait until His plan kicks into motion (at least, this particular part of the plan). I'm 20 years old and a junior in college; I'm at the point where I'm not interested in a girlfriend, I'm interested in a potential wife and mother of my children. So, if I can't see myself with this woman for the rest of my life, there's just no point in starting up something that won't go anywhere and may end up breaking my heart or hers. Not only should you guard your own heart, but the heart of every girl you think of romantically as well.

Anyway, until July 21st, 2011, I'm not even going to give a hint of pursuing (or wanting to pursue) a girl. I just decided to give a complete year to seek out only God instead of focusing on finding my future wife. You have NO IDEA how hard this is! :D But, at the same time, I'm enjoying the bachelor life. :cool: You should enjoy it too while you can, Jorden. ;)

Dakota :)

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