broken_arrow Posted October 24, 2010 Report Share Posted October 24, 2010 hello all , i have a choice that ive made and no matte which way i went with the decision it hurt ! i recently moved to texas to help my sis with her buisness and to get my life straightened out after 3 yrs of tryin . i went through a very nasty divorce back home in tennessee in 07,08 and neve had any peace since ! my exwife knew everything i did or was going to do b4 i did it ! she made life as hard as she could for me as often as she could rather it be financial or by hurtin me with my kids ! i feel guilty for movin and not gettin to see my 3 kids as often but there were lots of time i was posed to see em and their mom wouldnt let me ! we lived in a small town and the law was always takin her side , so i moved to get out of that situation ! i dont want to sound like a victim or have any1 think i make no mistakes cuz trust me i have made plenty ! its just that i feel bad leavin my babies but i really feel that i had no choice , i had no privacy or life back home ! i am goin back to tn this comin up weekend for halloween and my lil girls b-day which is on halloween and am very excited to see my kids ! just wanted any advice i might get on this cuz its killin me wonderin ifive done the right thing ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
92xj Posted October 24, 2010 Report Share Posted October 24, 2010 No one here can tell you if you have done the right thing for yourself and your kids because we are not you nor in your exact situation. If you feel that is was right and dont regret it, then so be it. Whatever decisions you make make sure you are 100% confident in that choice and live life to the fullest. We all have to make sacrifices and live with those choices. At the time, some seem like the wrong choices but with the help of others and our souls and faith inside, things seem to work out in the end. Keep your head up, exercise a lot, eat healthy and stay out of depression. I wish you the best luck. Also do not make it known to your ex-wife that you are on RealTree. If she has the ability to know what you are doing before you even do it, she is stalking you in some way shape or form. Be careful with your words to her and to others that talk with her. If you limit the telling of your actions to others there is no way she can find out about them before they happen. Anyhow, again, I wish you the best, be there for your kids but stay healthy for yourself. If you go downhill your kids and everyone else will notice and it will bring them down as well because they look up to you ( I assume). Stay strong, stay positive and be the best person you can be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevebeilgard Posted October 24, 2010 Report Share Posted October 24, 2010 good reply, ben. at this point i'd say to go see your kids and enjoy them all you can. speak with the wife as little as possible. DO NOT tell you kids anything negative about the ex. give the kids a phone number and tell them to call you whenever they like, that you'll be there for them. try to remember that you married a wonderful woman who you loved very much, and things just changed. she's not a crumb, the two of you have simply taken other avenues. move on with life and enjoy a relationship when you're ready and let her do the same. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redkneck Posted October 25, 2010 Report Share Posted October 25, 2010 Excellent advice above. Steve's dead on, NEVER bad mouth the ex wife. If she wants to sink to that level, let her. Rise above it, set an example for your children, no matter how much or how little you see them, be a good father. If you keep the fighting up, you'll end up without a shirt on with a beer in your hand in a bad "cops" episode Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wtnhunt Posted October 25, 2010 Report Share Posted October 25, 2010 Good advice given above, really nothing I can add. Hope things work out for the best for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JDAWG Posted October 25, 2010 Report Share Posted October 25, 2010 The only thing that I could add it to make sure that your kids know you love them and that nothing is their fault...stay in touch with the kids,not the ex. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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