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well after a year and a half my girlfriend just decided that she didnt want a boyfriend anymore. its been really hard for us seein how she is a sophmore in highschool and im a freshman in college. things got rough after she told me she cheated on me 3 times. well we got over that and lately she just decided she didnt want to be together anymore. i dont blame her, i know she is still in highschool but i think we could have made it work. she basically wants me to wait for her for 2 years though until she gets out of HS. she honestly doesnt think either of our feelings will change. i mean i love her almost more than anything but things will fade after 2 years. so who knows what will happen. its all in God's hands. if it is his plans for us then i guess it will work out some how. but sorry for this i just needed to vent a little bit.

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Hate to hear your heart broken, but man I can tell ya from experience that YOU ARE WAY BETTER OFF!!!! Anyone who will cheat on ya now will do it to ya again! I learned the hard way bro.....ask those who know me and saw me go through my ordeal with Jenn. I dated her for three years only to have her cheat on me. It NEVER was the same. If ya do decide to get back together, I'd wait a long time to let YOU BOTH grow up some. When I say a long time, I mean a year or two! Best of luck buddy!

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thats the hard part though. we hunted together, fished together, rode 4-wheelers together, and basically everything else together whenever we could. i was about as close with her family as i am with mine. so its just hard to break those old habits of always bein on the phone and hangin out and stuff. but i guess Gods will shall be done. and hey, ill have more money to spend on my 4-wheeler and huntin for myself.

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Well, I'll tell ya, for a guy who has forgiven her for cheating on him 3 times, she doesn't realize how nice of a guy you are. I'm sure there is someone else out there for you, or, you never know, your paths may cross again. wink.gif

Hang in there. You sound like you got it together pretty good.

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She don't have feelings for you. WAKE UP!

Sorry but maybe that'll help you get over her quicker. IF she had feelings for you, she wouldn't have cheated in the first place.

You got a lot of things going for you and you seem like a nice guy. That will get you over her and on to a girl with decent morals.

I know, I know, I'm being rude but if there is one thing I've learned in life, it's the fact that if someone has to cheat, they care nothing about the other one.

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She cheated on you 3 times? Seriously, you thought this was going to work out long term?

Sorry, dude....she wasn't near the one for you.

There are many great women out there. grin.gif

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Heck she cheated on you 3 times and you forgave her everytime nice guy you are. You will find anohter girl out there somewhere.

I know how you feel tho me and the girl are fighting right now and might be braking up who knows. But Im very close to the family as well. Hard to break things like that and really hard to lose the girl.

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YOU ARE WAY BETTER OFF!!!! Anyone who will cheat on ya now will do it to ya again!

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I agree 100%! Youre better off without her. Thats probably not easy to hear but move on.

I told my wife two things would end us, cheating and her leaving for any reason. I wasnt trying to be harsh but if it isnt "real" enough to stick around for it will never be "real" enough to work the second time.

Rest up a bit and start looking around. Youll be happy about it later. Trust me, she did you a favor.....

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I had almost the exact same thing happen to me when I was dating. You talk about deja vu, right down to the cheating and lets be friends. I was all busted up for about three months then I met the love of my life. 11+ years of marriage and two kids later, I know now that I am much happier today than I could have ever been with that other girl. I know it is tough right now but listen to what everyone is saying and move on.

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I taught High school for for 6 years and I can tell you that a sophmore girl is not as mature as you are being in college. She has a lot of growing up to do in the next few years and it would not be a bad idea to date someone your won age, let her be a young woman, let her do her growing up and I am sure that you will find someone else to make you feel the way she made you feel.

As far as the cheating goes that is something that I think you are way better then, knowbody should have to go through that, and if it were me that would be incentive enough to move and a not look back. Just hang out with your buddies and let your friends help you through this tough time. Keep your head up.

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hey guys, dont worry if you sound rude. this is helping me get over her alot. i mean so much of me wantes to just get on my knees and beg for her to take me back but i realized taht if ever, i need to be the one to decided if i want her back. i mean ihave never done anything to hurt her. she always brings up this thing where she says i just ahve to trust her. but she has never given me a chance to trust her. so thanks for all the input and its helpin alot. i knew i could count on you guys. last night when i went to bed there was 2 posts on here. this morning there was like 14 or something. so thanks. i coudlnt have put this out in another forum with out bein eatin alive.

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You deserve better Coles and you will get it. Hang in there. I know its easier said than done, stay strong.

You sound like you have a good heart.

Good Luck.

[/ QUOTE ]Not trying to beat a dead horse bud but, these guys are all right. You deserve better and once a cheater, always a cheater. smirk.gif

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Have you ever taken a pass on a big buck only to find that a bigger and better one came out of the brush soon after?

You made the right choice then, make the same now.

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That stinks. Have to agree if she cheated on you your are better off without her!!

On the time thing.

When I was a sophmore in highschool my girlfriend and I was pretty serious. Well things went south and we went our seperate ways. We still spoke and hung out some during the rest of our highschool days. Well college came and we went our seperate directions no biggie we was just friends.

Well it just so happen on one of our college break we both happen to be back in town. Well accidently met up and ended up started dating. One thing lead to the next and now after 6 years of marriage I couldn't have asked for it to work out any other way.

So if its ment to be it will work out.

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She cheated on you 3 times? Seriously, you thought this was going to work out long term?

Sorry, dude....she wasn't near the one for you.

There are many great women out there. grin.gif

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Yeah man thats just not right! There are more fish in the sea! Cheated three times! Got to wonder how many more times she will cheat on you, even if you do get togetherin the future! I say time to move on and find the one that will reallt steal your heart!

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