Re: Spanking?
The one thing I noticed, and Tominator also, in this thread the two people who were more or less against spankings Jimt & Buckee, both have daughters. I have a daughter also, who does not live with me, and I can not remember ever spanking her. She just minds a lot better. Now my son, is a little different, he has a lot better manners than she does, but he also does not mind near as well. I do not consider a spanking beating or abuse, if done properly. If you use more than one or two swats on the back side, then you might be crossing the line, in my opinion.
I guess what I am trying to say from my personal experience, both as a kid with a sister and as a parent with a son & daughter, and from friends experiences, the male gender seems to need a little more attention to correct the problem than the female gender.
With my son grounding doesn't seem to bother him, if we take away his bike, he plays in the yard, if we take away baseball (which he loves) he will ride his bike or watch tv, take away the tv and he will play outside. I refuse to take everything away from him and make him just set in his room for a week or month or whatever. I strongly feel that he needs some type of outdoor activity available all the time. I do not want him to grow up doing nothing but sit in the house and watch tv, play on the computer or play nintendo games.
For those of you who do spank your child, do you spank them in public, i.e. grocery store, mall, walmart, etc.? I do, I feel that if the spanking is deserved, then it should be done at the time of the crime. One of the main reasons I feel that way is because the "your gonna get it when we get home" usually does not happen, with me anyway, I get soft and let him off. Which in essence would have him thinking "he won't discipline me in public and then he doesn't when we get home, so I can go ahead and do whatever I want and basically won't get punished for it.". But there again, it has to be a spanking, not a beating, or the parent will have some questions to answer.